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The meaning of life is a common concern, but what is the meaning of midlife? With the help of illustrious writers such as Dante, Montaigne, Beauvoir, Goethe, and Beckett, The Midlife Mind sets out to answer this question. Erudite but engaging, it takes a personal approach to that most impersonal of processes, aging. From the ancients to the moderns, from poets to playwrights, writers have long meditated on how we can remain creative as we move through our middle years. There are no better guides, then, to how we have regarded middle age in the past, how we understand it in the present, and how we might make it as rewarding as possible in the future.
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Crisis and Grief:
The Invention of Midlife
Crisis: Do or Die
Like sex, the midlife crisis was invented in the 1960s. If intercourse began, according to Philip Larkin, in 1963, the midlife crisis arrived shortly afterwards, in 1965. First published as an academic article in the International Journal of Psychoanalysis, Elliott Jaquesâs essay âDeath and the Midlife Crisisâ launched the term in scientific â and rapidly also popular â discourse.1 Although the term âmidlifeâ had first appeared in 1895 (defined in the dictionary as âthe part of life between youth and old ageâ), it was only in the 1960s that it became automatically associated with the idea of having a crisis. That the two terms have become so indissoluble testifies to the conceptâs resonance; equal parts self-justifying myth and self-fulfilling prophecy â you fear you are going to have a breakdown, so you do â the midlife crisis has become a staple of films and novels. No narrative of achievement, no biography of becoming is complete without the moment of self-doubt in the middle act, the crisis of confidence that must ultimately â such is our cultural obsession with success â be triumphantly overcome. In part this corresponds to our lived experience as we settle into the long, slow process of getting older, but it also reflects the nagging sense of hollowness behind the modern Western story of security and prosperity. The idea of the âmidlife crisisâ crystallizes not just our dawning sense of personal mortality, but the way we come to question the very meaning of our lives as we reach middle age. Is that all there is?
How we answer this question depends, according to Jaques, on whether we conceive ourselves as creative. The biological facts of the crisis, as he sees them, are rapidly established: it occurs around the age of 35, it can endure for several years, and it varies in intensity according to individual circumstances and temperament. It is also, in Jaquesâs telling, decidedly male; âDeath and the Midlife Crisisâ is most definitely not âDeath and the Maidenâ, neither in the examples adduced nor in the understanding of the crisis as essentially âcreativeâ in nature. Although the post-industrial era sees the midlife mind becoming increasingly female, its conceptualization as âcrisisâ remains resolutely male well into the post-war world. The male menopause (the âmano-pauseâ) seems to invite psychoanalysis, no doubt because it is metaphorical rather than physiological, but perhaps also because it is (supposedly) only temporary, a passing lull presaging renewed productivity. Men merely pause where women menopause.
Reading Jaquesâs essay more than half a century after it was first published, it is striking not only in how old-fashioned his attitudes now seem â his exclusive focus on men, his assumption that family life âought toâ have become established by the time one reaches oneâs mid-thirties â but in how problematic any attempt to universalize the midlife crisis must surely be. Whether or not it actually exists as anything more than a popular myth (a point much disputed by specialists), it takes different forms in different people: one manâs meltdown is another womanâs maturity. Yet Jaques reduces these many narrative threads to a single story: the midlife crisis as discernible in the work of âgreat menâ. While his impressionistic approach to the crisis seems problematic from a scientific point of view â he âgets the impressionâ that the death rate between the ages of 35 and 39 jumps markedly in creative artists, and his invocation of predetermined âgeniusâ is little more than rehashed romanticism, underpinning as it does his reading of artistic biographies (âthe closer one gets to genius . . . the more striking and clear-cut is this spiking of the death rate in midlifeâ) â the popular success of his diagnosis suggests that he has a point. Creativity changes â pauses, pivots and metamorphoses â as we reach middle age.
What new forms does it take? Jaques terms the post-crisis period that of âsculpted creativityâ. By this he means to indicate a newfound attentiveness to âexternalized materialâ as well as to internal, immaterial thoughts, an interest in execution as well as inspiration. While there is an element of circularity about this argument â Jaques derives his models of Romantic, intuitive youth and Classical, reflective middle age from the canon of male artists (Beethoven, Shakespeare, Goethe and so on), and then applies this model back on to them â it is clear what he means. Desire and impatience give way to serenity and acceptance.
Attaining this enlightened state, however, requires passing through what Jaques terms the âpurgatoryâ of the midlife crisis. What has to be purged are any remaining illusions about oneâs own immortality â fantasies of which, according to Sigmund Freud, we all secretly maintain. As we stop growing up and begin growing old, we are forced to face up to the brute reality of our eventual death; we can no longer continue pretending that only other people die. The future tense becomes the future past.
Jaques may have been the first to popularize the term, but his conceptualization of the midlife crisis was hardly new. Popular culture has long held that men, in particular, tend to experience, around the age of forty, what the French call le dĂ©mon de midi. That psychologists have repeatedly sought to quarantine this demon is hardly surprising. In 1881 the neurologist George Miller Beard, the man who coined the term âneurastheniaâ, published American Nervousness, written as a sequel to his previous study of nervous exhaustion. In it, he included a chapter on the âlongevity of brain workers and the relation of age to workâ, surveying 750 of the most eminent names in history as well as a series of less prominent figures. With quasi-mathematical certainty, he concludes that âthe year of maximum productiveness is thirty-nineâ. Creativity, for Beard, is a young manâs game: âthe essence of poetry is creative thought, and old age is unable to think.â2 On this basis, he even awards medals to the passing decades: the thirties are the golden years, the forties the silver decade, and so on all the way to the wooden spoon of the seventies and eighties. Beardâs neurasthenic vision of ageing thus reverses the hierarchy of value traditionally ascribed to wedding anniversaries; the older we get â the further we drift from the golden mean of the middle â the less valuable we become. We walk up our 39 steps, and then we start walking down them again.
Unsurprisingly, subsequent psychologists sought ways of reversing Beardâs law of diminishing returns. Even before Walter Pitkin published his best-selling self-help book Life Begins at Forty (1932), his colleague G. Stanley Hall had made the point more seriously.3 In a study of 1922 entitled Senescence: The Last Half of Life (intended as a sequel to his study Adolescence of 1904), Hall coined the term âmiddle age crisisâ, which he defined as a âmeridional mental feverâ that afflicts men in their thirties and forties.4 Hall views this crisis, however, as marking the beginning of true maturity. âModern man was not meant to do his best work before 40,â he claims, before adding, in strikingly Nietzschean language, that âthe coming superman will begin, not end, his real activity with the advent of the fourth decade.â5 Hall can retain such a positive view of middle age because he views it â to cite the title of his first chapter â as âthe youth of old ageâ. Writing from the vantage point of his late seventies (born in 1846, he would die two years later, in 1924), Hall looks back wistfully to the supposed vitality of midlife: between adolescence and senescence, he implies, comes essence. It is all a question of perspective.
For another, far more celebrated psychoanalyst, middle age is the period in which âself-realizationâ begins to take place. After falling out with Freud in 1912, Carl Jung underwent his own midlife crisis, rebelling against the tyranny of the unconscious and arguing that we in fact continue developing beyond childhood and into adulthood. Jung identified four stages of development, from childhood and youth to middle life and old age. The middle stage â which he famously calls âthe second half of lifeâ â begins at around 35, and is characterized, in the healthy individual, by the attempt to find a âreligious outlookâ. By this, Jung means that we must gradually let go of our ego and learn to contemplate the meaning of the human condition: namely, that we develop towards death. Those who shrink from this acknowledgement fall ill â which is to say, they undergo a midlife crisis. In Jungâs words, âwe cannot live the afternoon of life according to the programme of lifeâs morning.â6
If middle age is the period of self-realization, however, it is also the period of self-help. Search for the words âCarl Jung four stages of lifeâ on the Internet, and countless mindfulness, consciousness and personal development websites scroll invitingly down the screen. Jung even gives alternative names to his four stages â the âathleteâ, the âwarriorâ, the âstatementâ and the âspiritâ â implying a developmental relationship between them: we (should seek to) evolve from one stage to the next. The âstatementâ stage â becoming a parent, losing a parent, reaching maturity â corresponds to middle age and its âpsychology of the afternoonâ; its implied sense of stock-taking reflects the increasingly âreligiousâ attitude that Jung would have us assume as we grow older.7 Although it is supposed to turn us away from our own concerns towards those of others, in encouraging selflessness this attitude still foregrounds the self as the measure of all things. Know thyself, in the words of the Delphic dictum â but especially in middle age.
As Jaques notes, though, there is a paradox not just in the conceptualization, but in the timing of this selfless self-realization. For, viewed from a more positive perspective, middle age is also the very zenith of our life, the period in which we come into our full powers of experience and maturity. Why should we be unhappy in the prime of our lives? The answer, of course, is that this prime is now end-stopped, or more precisely that we now realize that it is end-stopped. Jaques quotes the spatial allegory outlined by a patient in his mid-thirties: âUp till now . . . life has seemed an endless upward slope, with nothing but the distant horizon in view. Now suddenly I seem to have reached the crest of the hill, and there stretching ahead is the downward slope with the end of the road in sight.â The summit, in other words, is also the start of the descent.
Jaquesâs patient exemplifies the problems we all face as we reach middle age. Even for those of us who are not geniuses, the question of how not to âplateauâ takes on renewed significance. Success and a busy life are no defence against this; indeed, the more successful and active we are, the more we risk simply deferring the inevitable â and psychologically necessary â reckoning. In the words of the Italian poet Cesare Pavese, we do not free ourselves from something by avoiding it, but by living through it.8 Jaques quotes his patient as stating one day that his favourite slogan was âdo or dieâ â but that under analysis he now remembered he had always shortened it simply to âdoâ. In the prime of his life â the âtime for doingâ, in Jaquesâs words â the patient functioned by convincing himself, even into his very motivational slogans, that death was to be denied.
Defined in these terms, having a midlife crisis might seem to be a very âfirst worldâ problem, a modern luxury made possible by the spread of the bourgeois Western lifestyle. The peasants and subsistence farmers of the Dark Ages had more pressing things to worry about, one imagines, than whether they were going grey. Did they even live long enough to enjoy a âmiddleâ age? We tend to think of the average lifespan as having expanded considerably with the advent of modern medicine, and this is indeed the case if one surveys all the population, including those who (used to) die young. If one considers only the intellectual classes, however, then once one factors out infant mortality rates the life of the educated man remains relatively consistent over the centuries. Consider, for instance, the following statistics:
Life expectancy of men throughout history9
Date | Mean age | |
Kings of Judah | 1000â6000 BC | 52 |
Greek philosophers, poets and politicians | 450â150 BC | 68 |
After 100 BC | 71.5 | |
Roman philosophers, poets and politicians | 30 BCâAD 120 | 56.2 |
Christian Church Fathers | AD 150â400 | 63.4 |
Italian painters | 1300â1570 | 62.7 |
Italian philosophers | 1300â1600 | 68.9 |
Monks Roll of Fellows of the Royal College of Physicians | 1500â1640 | 67 |
1720â1800 | 62.8 | |
1800â1840 | 71.2 | |
Lifespan at fifteen years | 1931 | 66.2 |
1951 | 68.9 | |
1981 | 72.0 |
While life-expectancy figures are notoriously volatile â it all depends on the sample size and sources â there is no doubt that those who survived into maturity have historically had a better chance of a long life than we might now think. By the late twentieth century, we had gained around ten years on the aggregate of previous millennia; by the early twenty-first century, we have gained the best part of another decade, with most estimates for life expectancy in the developed world hovering somewhere around eighty. From antiquity onwards, nonetheless, if you made it past childhood and into education you had a fair chance of reaching somewhere near the biblical three score years and ten (with the notable exception of the bloodthirsty Romans). By the Victorian period, moreover, life expectancy for males once they reached the age of five was well past seventy.10 Such figures belie the standard Hobbesian view of pre-twentieth-century life as n...
Table of contents
- Front cover
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Contents
- Prologue: The Incremental Inch
- 1 Crisis and Grief The Invention of Midlife
- 2 The Piggy In the Middle The Philosophy of Midlife
- 3 Halfway Up The Hill How to Begin in the Middle
- 4 A Room At The Back of the Shop Midlife Modesty
- 5 Getting On The Tragicomedy of Middle Age
- 6 Perpetual Incipience The Midlife Gap Year
- 7 Realism and Reality The âMiddle Yearsâ
- 8 âThe Years That Walk Betweenâ Midlife Conversion
- 9 Lessons In Lessness Midlife Minimalism
- 10 From The Prime Of Life To Old Age How to Survive the Menopause
- 11 Streams Of Consciousness Middle Age in a New Millennium
- Epilogue: The End of the Middle
- References
- Further Reading
- Acknowledgements
- Photo Acknowledgements
- Index