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I Hate Men
Pauline Harmange, Natasha Lehrer
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I Hate Men
Pauline Harmange, Natasha Lehrer
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Women, especially feminists and lesbians, have long been accused of hating men. Our instinct is to deny it at all costs. (After all, women have been burnt at the stake for admitting to less.)
But what if mistrusting men, disliking men – and yes, maybe even hating men – is, in fact, a useful response to sexism? What if such a response offers a way out of oppression, a means of resistance? What if it even offers a path to joy, solidarity and sisterhood?
In this sparkling essay, as mischievous and provocative as it is urgent and serious, Pauline Harmange interrogates modern attitudes to feminism and makes a rallying cry for women to find a greater love for each other – and themselves.
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Ciencias socialesSous-sujet
Feminismo y teorĂa feministaContents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Misandry, a definition
Shacking up with a man
Hysterical and sexually frustrated misandrists
Men who hate women
I am woman, hear me roar
Mediocre as a white dude
The heterosexuality trap
Sisters
In praise of book clubs, pyjama parties and girlsâ nights out
Afterword
Footnotes
References
Acknowledgements
Interested in finding out more?
About the Author
About the Publisher
One day I wrote on my blog that I was fed up of menâs apathy and general lack of interest when it comes to womenâs rights. Almost immediately an anonymous lurker left a comment: âMaybe you should ask yourself why men donât want to talk about it. A few possibilities: the aggressive â hate-filled, even â attitude of feminists towards any man who doesnât say âIâm ashamed to be a man! Down with men!â The day you accept the relationship between men and women for what it is â then weâll listen to you. In the meantime, youâre just going to be dismissed as sex-starved shrews, and youâll keep doing a disservice to your cause.â
With these words, this delightful gentleman was making a barely veiled accusation of misandry against me. Iâm far from the only woman charged with manhating: plenty of feminists and lesbians are repeatedly accused of such an affront. As though challenging male power, or simply not being attracted to men, constitutes nothing more than hatred.
The accusation of misandry is a mechanism for silencing women, a way of silencing the anger â sometimes violent but always legitimate â of the oppressed standing up to their oppressors. Taking offence at misandry, claiming itâs merely a form of sexism like any other, and no less unacceptable (as if sexism were genuinely reviled), is a bad-faith way of sweeping under the carpet the mechanisms that make sexist oppression a systemic phenomenon buoyed throughout history by culture and authority. Itâs to allege that a woman who hates men is as dangerous as a man who hates women â and that thereâs no rational justification for what she feels, be it dislike, distrust or disdain. Because, obviously, no man has ever hurt a woman in the whole course of human history. Or rather, no men have ever hurt any women.
As a result of the way itâs been misunderstood or misconstrued, thereâs a tendency in feminist movements to argue that misandry as a concept doesnât actually exist. In a way, of course, this is true, because there is no coordinated, structured system for denigrating or coercing men. And because even when we do sometimes put all our messieurs in one basket, itâs more to laugh at them, itâs kind of tongue in cheek, if you know what I mean. Honestly, weâre very nice, underneath it all.
But what if misandry were necessary â healthy, even? I get why women reject it. Itâs unnerving to be accused of being a horrid extremist who hates men. Thousands of women were burned at the stake for less.
But you know what? Iâm going to have a go. Iâll admit it: I hate men. All of them, really? Yes, the whole lot of them. By default, I have very little respect for any of them. Which is funny actually, because ostensibly I donât have any legitimacy when it comes to hating men. I chose to marry one, after all, and I have to admit that Iâm still very fond of him.[fn1]
That doesnât, however, stop me from wondering why men are as they are. Theyâre violent, selfish, lazy and cowardly. It doesnât stop me wondering why we women are supposed graciously to accept their flaws â what am I saying, I mean their deficiencies â even though men beat, rape and murder us. Boys will be boys. Girls, on the other hand, will become women, and will learn to make their peace with this, because thereâs no way to escape the narrow vision of our destiny as refracted through the crystal ball of the patriarchy. Come on, weâre perfectly capable of putting up with their little idiosyncrasies. In any case, we donât have a choice. What kind of woman are you if you avoid the male gaze? Take your choice: sex-starved, dyke, or hysteric.
Apart from the fact that it undermines our cause, it appears that misandry is also very difficult for men to deal with â an intolerable brutality that adds up to the shocking outrage of precisely zero deaths and zero casualties. Apparently, what with all this feminist bullshit, #MeToo and the rest of that crap, itâs very hard to be a man nowadays. They donât know how to flirt any more, how to get in a lift with their female colleagues, how to crack a joke. What do they still have the right to do now?
So much existential dread, for which I donât feel a great deal of sympathy. All that time they spend snivelling about how hard it is to be a poor persecuted man nowadays is just a way of adroitly shirking their responsibility to make themselves a little less the pure products of the patriarchy.
Strangely, not many men actually stop to wonder why feminists dislike them so much â if they did they might notice the statistics are quite damning. But theyâre too busy explaining to us that theyâre not like that, that itâs really not nice to generalise like that. And if we alienate them with all that talk of men are trash, the risk is they wonât join in and help us in our struggle. As if we were incapable of organising our struggle without them, as if we havenât been doing precisely that for years â and as if, when they invited themselves into our ranks to join the struggle, they didnât always end up taking over, talking over us and even imposing their decisions on us while they were about it.
I see misandry as a potential way out. A way of refusing to accept these norms, of saying no with every breath. Hating men as a social group, and sometimes as individuals too, brings me so much joy â and not just because Iâm a crazy old cat lady.
If we all became misandrists, what a fabulous hue and cry we could raise. Weâd realise (though it might be a bit sad at first) that we donât actually need men. I believe too we might liberate an unsuspected power: that of being able to soar far above the male gaze and the dictates of men, to discover at last who we really are.
Misandry, a definition
I think at this point itâs worth defining the concept of misandry as I employ it in this essay. I use the word misandry to mean a negative feeling towards the entirety of the male sex. This negative feeling might be understood as a spectrum that ranges from simple suspicion to outright loathing, and is generally expressed by an impatience towards men and a rejection of their presence in womenâs spaces. And when I say âthe male sexâ I mean all the cis men who have been socialised as such, and who enjoy their male privilege without ever calling it into question, or not enough (yes, misandry is a demanding and elitist concept).
Ultimately, misandry is a principle of precaution. Having spent so much time being at best disappointed and at worst abused by men â all the more so having absorbed the feminist theory that articulates patriarchy and sexism â itâs quite natural to develop a carapace and stop opening up to the first man who comes along and swears on his heart that heâs a really good guy.[fn1] All the more so given that to prove his worth, the man in question simply has to demonstrate genuine thoughtfulness in order for our hostile feelings to subside. But his probation period will last forever: nothing against him personally, itâs just that itâs hard to give up privilege, and even more so to actively campaign for all oneâs fellow men to be similarly stripped of theirs. He might be feeling a bit low one day and be tempted to hit on a girl in a bar whoâs already made it very clear that sheâs not interested. A lousy day at the office, and heâs back to his bad habit of shameless mansplaining and interrupting you every five minutes. We need to be vigilant, we have to keep our eye on even the genuinely decent ones, because anyone can stray off course, and all the more so if heâs cis, white, wealthy, able-bodied and heterosexual. The sum of his privilege is so great that it makes him very resistant to change. We need men to be exemplary in their behaviour, because when we women speak, no one listens. We simply canât afford to let them get away with doing things half-heartedly.
The very least a man can do when faced with a woman who expresses misandrist ideas is shut up and listen. Heâd learn a great deal and emerge a better ...
Table des matiĂšres
- Cover
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Contents
- Misandry, a definition
- Shacking up with a man
- Hysterical and sexually frustrated misandrists
- Men who hate women
- I am woman, hear me roar
- Mediocre as a white dude
- The heterosexuality trap
- Sisters
- In praise of book clubs, pyjama parties and girlsâ nights out
- Afterword
- Footnotes
- References
- Acknowledgements
- Interested in finding out more?
- About the Author
- About the Publisher
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APA 6 Citation
Harmange, P. (2020). I Hate Men ([edition unavailable]). HarperCollins Publishers. Retrieved from https://www.perlego.com/book/1981882/i-hate-men-pdf (Original work published 2020)
Chicago Citation
Harmange, Pauline. (2020) 2020. I Hate Men. [Edition unavailable]. HarperCollins Publishers. https://www.perlego.com/book/1981882/i-hate-men-pdf.
Harvard Citation
Harmange, P. (2020) I Hate Men. [edition unavailable]. HarperCollins Publishers. Available at: https://www.perlego.com/book/1981882/i-hate-men-pdf (Accessed: 15 October 2022).
MLA 7 Citation
Harmange, Pauline. I Hate Men. [edition unavailable]. HarperCollins Publishers, 2020. Web. 15 Oct. 2022.