The CEO Whisperer
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The CEO Whisperer

Meditations on Leadership, Life, and Change

Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries

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The CEO Whisperer

Meditations on Leadership, Life, and Change

Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries

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At this critical junction in the history of humankind, leaders that are proficient in magical thinking aren't going to solve our problems. Creating alternative realities is not the answer. We need a very different kind of leadership—leaders who can resist the calls of regression and whose outlook is firmly based in reality. We need leaders who analyze and draw conclusions from, or use their own experiences as a development tool, face their strengths and weaknesses, and critique their own experiences in order to build new understandings. In this very personal and entertaining book, Manfred Kets de Vries, one of the "gurus" in the field of leadership studies offers his thoughts on leadership and life, reflections written for executives and the people who deal with them. As a psychoanalyst and leadership professor let loose in the world of renowned global organizations—as a passionate educator and scholar, or just a human being at the receiving end of heart-rending emails—he examines thepitfalls of leadership and the challenges for the professionals who work with senior executives in today's AI-focused world. He points out why leaders can derail, and what steps they can take to prevent this from happening. Ultimately, this book encourages you to "Know yourself, " but makes no bones about the challenge it represents. Understanding our "inner theatre" will always be an uphill struggle. Kets de Vries points out why deep dives into our inner world are always fraught with many anxieties. Included in the many subjects covered by the author are the loneliness of command, the management of disappointment, the destructive role of greed, the impact of stubbornness, the role of storytelling, the importance of wellness, and the role of corporate culture. In addition, the book addresses the important topic of how to create great teams and best places to work. Furthermore, the book touches on endings– the ending of our career and the growing realization of the inevitable ending of our life. As time grows short, Kets de Vries emphasizes that we have no time to lose in dealing with our anxieties, regrets, and the things we spend much of our life determined not to see. Taking a deep dive into self-knowledge requires courage and support, and he is here to guide you through it.

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Année
2020
ISBN
9783030626013
Sous-sujet
Management
© The Author(s), under exclusive license to Springer Nature Switzerland AG 2021
M. F. R. Kets de VriesThe CEO WhispererThe Palgrave Kets de Vries Libraryhttps://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-62601-3_1
Begin Abstract

1. The Rot at the Top

Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries1  
(1)
Europe Campus, INSEAD, Fontainebleau, France
 
 
Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries
Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
—Chinese Proverb
If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito.
―Betty Reese
End Abstract
My interest in the lives of executives goes back a long way. CEOs in particular, have always fascinated me. You might ask, why? Why do I study CEOs? Why don’t I focus on other people? Is it that I’m attracted to power? Do I get vicarious satisfaction from dealing with powerful people? I’ve no hesitation in stating that power isn’t the reason. Power has never been important in either my personal or professional life. I believe my curiosity about people in leadership positions has other sources.
Of course, figuring out why we do what we do is always a challenge. We easily confuse Dichtung und Wahrheit (poetry and truth)—the title the writer and statesman Wolfgang von Goethe gave to his memoirs. As the clock of time ticks merrily along, we’re likely to mix up narrative truth with historical truth. Memory can never be wholly reliable and self-reports can be particularly misleading because there is always the risk that our defenses will go into overdrive. So, when we take a deep dive and try to understand our motives, we might not always like what’s revealed. We might prefer to push the things we don’t like to see out of conscious awareness. Whenever I wear my psychoanalytic hat listening to my clients, I am very aware that specific events can become confusing viewed through the telescope of time.
I have a very early memory of poring over newspapers with my grandfather, looking at pictures of famous people, including political leaders. While we looked, my grandfather made it quite clear to me that the rot starts at the top—as the saying goes, “fish start to rot from the head down.” Even though I was so young, he thought it was important for me to understand that if attention isn’t paid to what’s going on at the top, trouble was likely to follow. My grandfather also told me that knowing that something is rotten at the top is one thing but doing something about it is something else. It can be very hard to stop the rot, especially as most human beings are wary of change. They might want other people to change but changing themselves is a very different proposition. Even if they have the will to change, they may not have the skill to do so. With hindsight, I realize that if he had had the chance, my grandfather would have liked to be a lawyer or politician. Perhaps he thought that having a public or professional role would have given him the credibility to put things right in a world where he believed things were very wrong.
This was a short time after World War II ended and of course I was only a child, so although I took in what he was saying it didn’t make much sense to me. Later on, when I had become an aficionado of detective stories, Sherlock Holmes’ famous statement, “You see, but you do not observe,” rang a very loud bell.1 Detecting the strange dynamics that occur at the top of organizations—and how they affect the lives of others—has formed a significant part of my work.
Generally speaking, we aren’t very good observers. Nevertheless, what we need to know is often staring us in the face. As Goethe put it, “the hardest thing to see is what’s right in front of your eyes.” His words remind me of a story I heard about Professor Louis Agassiz, the founder of Harvard’s Museum of Comparative Zoology. Agassiz was well-known for his observational skills and he liked to transfer these skills to others. He gave one particular student an assignment to study a fish preserved in alcohol. After ten minutes, the student thought he had seen all there was to see but when he looked for Agassiz to tell him his findings, the professor was nowhere to be found. The student had no choice but to spend more time studying the fish. When Agassiz finally returned, and after the student reported what he had seen, the professor’s response was that he hadn’t looked anywhere near carefully enough and had missed “one of the most conspicuous features of the animal. Look again; look again!” In the words of the student, “he left me to my misery. And so, for three long days, he placed that fish before my eyes, forbidding me to look at anything else, or to use any artificial aid. ‘Look, look, look,’ was his repeated injunction.” Frustrating though it had been, the student, after many hours studying the fish, learned how to look. He said later: “What I gained by this outside experience has been of greater value than years of later investigation.”2
Like my grandfather, my father also took pride of place in my inner world. He was CEO of a mid-sized company and I used to be fascinated by the way people responded to his ideas. If an idea resonated with him, he was masterly at ordering people about. And to me, a young child, his business exploits seemed magical, not least because of his many travels. He would come and go from the kinds of faraway places that I could only dream of. My brother and I were kept informed about where he was from colorful postcards, always with the terse message “Greetings from Papa.” These messages were even more charismatic because we didn’t live with him. My parents were divorced and in my fantasy world my father was larger than life. This, and his position as a captain of industry, no doubt contributed to my interest in what happens at the top of organizations.
When I was little, the contrast between my grandfather, a lowly craftsman who was often victimized by decisions made by people at the top, and my father, who was a real mover and shaker, must have been baffling. How could I reconcile their respective positions in the world of work? Why was one successful, and the other a failure—not from a personal but from a work perspective? Now I am at a late stage in my life, I wonder how far my life’s work has been based on the fantasy that if I could modify the behavior of the people at the top—making them change for the better—it would have a trickle-down effect on their organizations (at least for people at lower levels). Who knows, it might even help to make their organizations better places to work. Throughout my life, this desire, based on my early life experiences, has guided many of my activities in different ways.
In my various contributions to the management literature, I have pointed out the relationship between leaders’ personalities, their decision-making practices, and the way their actions affect organizations and societies.3 I have been privy to many situations where the leaders of both public and private organizations have had a devastating effect on their surroundings. Because I was born during World War II, I was highly attuned to dysfunctional leadership practices taking place on a grand scale. I knew from my mother that many members of my family had been killed by the Nazis. Most people now accept that political leaders like Hitler, Stalin, and Mao murdered tens of millions of people. But who doesn’t find Stalin’s observation that “a single death is a tragedy; a million deaths is a statistic” an indication of a very sick mind? Yet it is very disturbing—if the present political landscape is a signifier—that so many seem to have forgotten what has happened in the past, increasing the likelihood of repeating the same mistakes. In my experience, only by mourning the past do we have a chance to start genuinely new beginnings.
Perhaps it was unusual for a child to be shielded so little from knowing what was happening in those early postwar years. Certainly, I remember being totally captivated by radio reports of the Nuremberg trials, when the senior German war criminals were brought to justice. At the time, their crimes against humanity were far too horrifying to comprehend. But as I grew older, and I became more aware of the gruesomeness of it all, I was deeply troubled by the realization that these despotic leaders were not exceptions. They didn’t commit those atrocities on their own. They had many willing henchmen. It is a sad truth that our inner wolf doesn’t need much encouragement to be set free and start devouring everybody who stands in its way.4 Later in life, I saw similar dynamics taking place in the world of organizations, albeit on a much smaller scale.
My awareness of the devastation that leaders can bring about compelled me to ask what motivates these people? Why do they behave the way they do? What happens to their values? And, most importantly, is there anything that we can do to preempt or tackle it?
These are not just historical questions. In present-day society we once again see too many second-rate hucksters in the limelight, manipulating the masses to foster their own narrow self-interests—the coronavirus pandemic not being an exception. Many contemporary world leaders behave like the Lorelei—the enchanting, mythical siren whose song lured seamen to their death. Gifted in the art of make-belief, they relate fantasies to an unwitting public, while their reality is steeped in mendacity. They exploit humankind’s wish to believe in magic, with disastrous consequences. As the philosopher Bertrand Russell noted, “The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people full of doubts.”
Footnotes
1
Arthur Conan Doyle, A Scandal in Bohemia: The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes. Amazon Media.
 
2
http://​people.​morrisville.​edu/​~snyderw/​courses/​Natr252/​agassiz.​html.
 
3
Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries and Danny Miller (1984). The Neurotic Organization. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass; Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries and Danny Miller (1988) Unstable at the Top. New York: Signet.
 
4
Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries (2005). Lessons on Leadership by Terror: Finding Shaka Zulu in the Attic. Cheltenham: Edward Elgar.
 
© The Author(s), under exclusive license to Springer Nature Switzerland AG 2021
M. F. R. Kets de VriesThe CEO WhispererThe Palgrave Kets de Vries Libraryhttps://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-62601-3_2
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2. A Leadership Laboratory

Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries1
(1)
Europe Campus, INSEAD, Fontainebleau, France
Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries
Be yourself; everything else is already taken.
—Oscar Wilde
The true laboratory is the mind, where behind illusions we uncover the laws of truth.
—Jagadish Chandra Bose
End Abstract
These disturbing childhood memories have been a major catalyst for my desire to work with C-suite executives and my interest in leadership education. How can leaders be prevented from going astray? How can they be made thoughtful? These questions motivated me to create a somewhat unusual leadership seminar at INSEAD, the world’s premier global business school. Building on the success of that seminar, I initiated a master’s degree program on change management at the school. It also led to my designing many leadership team coaching programs for executives all over the world.

Character Building

I wanted to find ways to create more reflective leaders who would retain their sense of humanity whatever challenges might come their way. I wanted to develop the kinds of leaders who would recognize the power of self-observation and critical thinking—individuals who would have the ability to evaluate themselves, face their strengths and weaknesses, and critique their own experiences in order to build new understandings. I was also looking for individuals who were prepared to take other people’s perspectives, who were skilled at deciphering meaning and had the ability to listen and observe. More than anything, I wanted to crea...

Table des matiĂšres

  1. Cover
  2. Front Matter
  3. 1. The Rot at the Top
  4. 2. A Leadership Laboratory
  5. 3. The Clinical Paradigm
  6. 4. An Existential Dive
  7. 5. The Self-Actualizing Equation
  8. 6. The Power of Storytelling
  9. 7. “Rewriting” Stories
  10. 8. Our Inner Theater
  11. 9. Caveat Emptor
  12. 10. The “Freudian” Trajectory
  13. 11. The Rollercoaster Ride of Change
  14. 12. The Whisperer’s Dance
  15. 13. Creating “Aha!” Experiences
  16. 14. Are You a Prisoner of Optical Illusions?
  17. 15. The Loneliness of Command
  18. 16. The Icarus Syndrome
  19. 17. How Greedy Are You?
  20. 18. Don’t Regret Regrets
  21. 19. Managing Disappointment
  22. 20. A-Players or B-Players?
  23. 21. How Close-Minded Are You?
  24. 22. Whatever It Is, I’m Against It
  25. 23. Living in the “I” world
  26. 24. Are You Attracted to a Cult?
  27. 25. Do You Have a Corporate Culture—or a Corporate Cult?
  28. 26. Creating Best Places to Work
  29. 27. Can Organizations Provide Wellness?
  30. 28. Old Age Is Not for Sissies
  31. Back Matter
Normes de citation pour The CEO Whisperer

APA 6 Citation

Vries, M. K. (2020). The CEO Whisperer ([edition unavailable]). Springer International Publishing. Retrieved from https://www.perlego.com/book/3480754/the-ceo-whisperer-meditations-on-leadership-life-and-change-pdf (Original work published 2020)

Chicago Citation

Vries, Manfred Kets. (2020) 2020. The CEO Whisperer. [Edition unavailable]. Springer International Publishing. https://www.perlego.com/book/3480754/the-ceo-whisperer-meditations-on-leadership-life-and-change-pdf.

Harvard Citation

Vries, M. K. (2020) The CEO Whisperer. [edition unavailable]. Springer International Publishing. Available at: https://www.perlego.com/book/3480754/the-ceo-whisperer-meditations-on-leadership-life-and-change-pdf (Accessed: 15 October 2022).

MLA 7 Citation

Vries, Manfred Kets. The CEO Whisperer. [edition unavailable]. Springer International Publishing, 2020. Web. 15 Oct. 2022.