Just F*cking Do It

Stop Playing Small. Transform Your Life.

Noor Hibbert

• Editore: John Murray One
• Anno: 2019
• ISBN:
  9781473692961
• Argomento: Personal Development
• Categoria: Self Improvement

'NOOR HIBBERT IS A FORCE OF NATURE AND HER BOOK IS A CANDID, NO-BULLSH*T BLUEPRINT FOR LIVING YOUR MOST AMAZING LIFE. INVIGORATING AND INSPIRING!' Sarah Knight, New York Times bestselling author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck 'A ROUSING GUIDE ON HOW TO BUILD MOMENTUM TOWARDS YOUR GOALS, QUASH YOUR INNER DOUBTS AND CHARGE AT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT', RED Magazine
JUST F*CKING DO IT will take you on a mind-altering journey of self discovery and personal transformation using an approach which combines psychological rigour with spiritual power - helping you to become the best version of yourself and create a life of happiness and abundance.True personal development can only be achieved by changing how you think and interact with the world. This book, by the creator of the hit 'Think It, Get It' podcast, will demonstrate that, alongside purposeful and practical steps to improve your life, you have the power to multiply your success and happiness by harnessing the Law of Attraction.Whatever obstacles you face, this book will show you how to stop thinking small, make positive changes and live the life you deserve.

1

The Good, the Bad, the F-ugly

This is your one life: make it a ‘fuck yes’ type of life.

You have probably picked up this book because there is a voice inside you whispering that you are meant for more and because there’s a part of you that wants to be happier. Like really fucking happy. If we whittled down why we all do the things we do in life, the underlying reason is that we want to be and feel happy. We want to have jobs we love so we can be happy, a partner in life to make us happy, have a body we love so we can look in the mirror and feel happy, and experience things in the world that bring us happiness. Happiness makes us feel good, and feeling good is the goal for most humans.

Most people I speak to who aren’t feeling the level of happiness that I truly believe we all deserve feel that way because deep down they know they are destined for so much more. The thing is, I believe we were put on this planet to do extraordinary things, to be wildly abundant and to have all that we desire. We are all destined for a life living like a rock star in our own version of a Hollywood movie, where we are the star of the show. But somewhere between birth and adulthood, a lot of us got sold into a very different dream. If you’re working in a job that bores you senseless, are broke and continuously have more month than money, have physical ailments that won’t disappear, in a relationship that drains you emotionally or find yourself feeling like everything is a pointless waste of time, then let me tell you, my friend, you have bought into the wrong life and we need to change that – together.

All about me

So, who am I and why should you bother investing a few hours of your priceless time with me? I am a transformational mindset coach and my goal is to help people transform their lives personally and professionally so that they can become shamelessly happy by having it all. Yes, you can have it all. You can have a vocation that excites you, a relationship that fulfils you, a body that you feel amazing in and even the financial wealth you think is only for the ‘other half’. You can have your cake and eat it and my mission is to help people become more conscious, stop living life on autopilot, and go out there, bake the tastiest goddamn cake and devour it, slice by slice.

I am also just a normal girl and mum to three pretty awesome human beings who in fact hugely spurred my decision to make changes in my life. I love hanging out in my gym gear (even when I am nowhere near a gym or have any intention of going to one that day), am a meditation junkie, eat vegan and love travelling. I went to university to study Psychology and have a Postgraduate Certificate in Business & Executive Coaching and another in Coaching Psychology. I am obsessed with the inner workings of the human mind and the outer workings of our often crazy human behaviour.

I wrote this book with the intention of it being your wake-up call and to offer you a new perspective on how life can be limitless and wide open with possibility. I want to give you a chance to transform your thinking and to make you understand that, whatever situation you are in right now, you have the power at your fingertips to consciously change it on your own terms. This book is about helping you to do what you need to do to go for your dreams and finally get the stuff done that you have been dreaming about – the things that are ultimately going to make you feel … yes … happy.

That is why you bought this book – because either you know you are not living your full potential or because you look good on paper but inside you like feel like a fraud. Perhaps you are living a life that you know was not meant for you or you are not showing up as the 100 per cent authentic individual that you know you could be. Whatever the reason, you know that there is more out there, and you want to learn how to get it. I want this book to be the hug of support you have been waiting for and the metaphorical kick up the booty so you can go for it. It’s time to do whatever you need to do, to change whatever you need to change.

I get that there are truckloads of books out there on personal development – heck, I own a hell of a lot of them, but this book is different. My clients pay a lot of money to work with me directly, and I honestly know that’s not accessible for everyone, so these pages are your chance to have me hold your hand and to get you the success you want for the cost of a couple of coffees, minus the calories. This book isn’t just about theory; it’s about practice. It’s about habit-changing, booty-shaking, routine-making and digging deeper than you will ever feel comfortable about – but who said change was easy?

If we were to lay all the cards out on the table, I have massively taken one for the team for you in acquiring the evidence for this book! I have spent many, many hours of my life speaking with private coaches, have flown a ridiculous number of miles across the planet to attend seminars where I had to hug more strangers than has ever felt normal, and I’ve invested in more self-help audiobooks then my phone can handle, but I did it all in pursuit of the kind of change that I will share with you in this book. I solemnly promise to take you step by step through a mind-altering journey of self-discovery and personal transformation to help you be, do and have whatever you want. Can I hear an amen?

I know that what I will teach you is pretty impressive because I have been on that journey and still am. You may be wondering how a middle-class, Middle Eastern girl from an affluent part of London is qualified to talk about pain and happiness. After all, my siblings and I had a nice house, a private school education and parents both in good jobs. But internally my life felt very different.

Let me give you a little bit of background on my family and my childhood so that you can understand where I came from. My dad is Iraqi, religious and pretty traditional in terms of how we were brought up. He was very strict, had a terribly short fuse and desperately tried to shield us from the perils of the Western world, including sex, drugs and rock and roll. If he’d had his way, we wouldn’t have watched 12-rated films until we were 18 and he would have banned 18-rated ones until we were dead. God forbid that we saw two humans kissing – that would have been the end of the world!

My dad worked incredibly long hours as a lawyer, found it uncomfortably hard to show any affection to us children and had a turbulent marriage with my mum. She was the total opposite to him in every way. She would sneak us out to a get non-halal McDonald’s, let us secretly wear clothes my dad would have hated and let us watch films we weren’t allowed when he wasn’t around. She is an Iranian with a very Western attitude who called everyone and anyone ‘Darling!’ Even that pissed my dad off. This resulted in us living in a war zone as children and them eventually divorcing. I became estranged from my dad for many years after that and always felt the absence of a strong male role model in my life, though our relationship had been very fraught to begin with. I loved my dad but I just never understood him and the way he thought about how life should be.

It was at the age of four that I first realized I felt different – and it hurt. When I say different, I mean not totally white, and with a name that people could never pronounce. I was in the school playground, minding my own business, when a girl boldly walked up to me and asked me why my eyebrows were so bushy and why I was so ugly. Ouch! I didn’t have an answer but spent the rest of the day inspecting all the other children’s eyebrows in the school. Mine distinctly met in the middle and I realized in that moment that I was different. I went home, cried, blamed my parents and carried the burden of the bushy brow until I was 11, until the fated day I took a pair of tweezers and began what can only be described as an eyebrow massacre. Although thin eyebrows were in during the late 1990s, I looked horrific and my poor mother almost had a heart attack.

To add insult to brow injury, I spent most of my early teenage years getting bullied, feeling left out, and not knowing where I belonged. I wanted to change my hair colour, change my name, change my parents and just be ‘ordinary’. There was an internal pain that I couldn’t shift and by the age of 16 I was medicated on Prozac, drinking Malibu that I had stashed under my bed to make me feel normal and spending time trying to ever so gently self-harm (I didn’t really like the pain all that much). So, let me tell you, I know what it’s like to feel low, confused and to keep asking yourself on repeat ‘Is life meant to be this hard?’

By the age of 20, I had already experienced the gut-wrenching pain of several heartbreaks, the angst that came with navigating the emotional minefield of my parents’ divorce and then trying to settle into a university life that provided its own ups and downs. I had become well versed in the language of victimhood and my default state seemed to be set to ‘dramatic’. I battled with fitting into my family, fitting in with friends, fitting in with life and finding relationships that didn’t drive me crazy. When your expectation of what the world should look like is vastly different from what it is, you suffer from depression. When you continually battle with accepting who you are at the very core, you suffer from anxiety. When you don’t know what your purpose is and can’t accept yourself, it manifests in physical ailments. I was ashamed to be me because I wasn’t popular, skinny or academically clever. I felt different and I despised being different. Why couldn’t I just fit in?

To be honest, even after I got through some of my lowest points, I still spent most of my twenties confused as to what my purpose was and how to get my shit together so I could feel happy and become the heroine in my own Hollywood movie. If you could scroll through my old Facebook photos right now, you would see a girl who spent most of her time drinking, drunk or hungover. A girl who sought solace in class A drugs and a girl who rebelled against everything she was brought up to believe was right. You would see a girl on a never-ending journey to find Mr Right and yet disastrously re-enacting How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days over and over again. (I love that film!)

So, let me tell you, I may be ‘qualified’ academically to help you out, but I have also exuberantly attended every stage of the (sometimes rather painful) school of life and got ripped-up T-shirts to prove every step. The first thing I want to tell you is, wherever you are today, right now, is not where you have to be next week or next month or next year. I figured out a secret that dramatically changed things for me. This secret has helped me go from earning £138 a week on maternity pay to making multiple six figures a year, giving me the freedom to travel when I want, put my children in the best schools, invest in properties and even enable my husband to retire from his job. It has helped me have the body that I had always dreamed of, a marriage that makes my heart sing and relationships with my children that flourish every day. It has also helped me to form the most authentic and loving relationships with my parents so that they are totally accepting of me, my choices and my lifestyle. I never thought I’d be able to say this when I was younger, but today my dad is one of my best friends and loyal supporters, and I can be totally me. Basically, I am now a jammy so and so.

But more than that, this secret has helped me to become happy. Not ‘social media show’ happy but actually happy. Like lying in bed with unabashed gratitude that I feel so damn happy kind of happy. I stopped worrying about what everyone wanted from me. I stopped wanting to please everyone and fit in. I stopped focusing on what everyone else had and what I didn’t and started to create a life that was arguably, quite selfishly, all about me. And I have used that secret to help my clients across the world dramatically change their lives.

And now I am going to share it all with you in this book.

All about you

As a recovering depressive, anxiety-sufferer, life-plodder and self-confessed drama queen, I am in a unique position to show you that there is a way to transform your life, and I am going to help you take those steps. I know it’s a big job, but I am willing to take it on because, if I can change my story, then so can you. You have the power. If you don’t like your story, then it’s bloody time you rewrote it. I also want to let you know that you don’t need to wait until your life chokeslams the shit out of you and you are on the floor drowning in your own tears before making a change. Now is your time.

So, let me tell you my secret: changing your life starts with changing your mind. Maybe you have had heard this a gazillion times before and thought it was a load of hogwash, or perhaps you have never heard this until now. But whichever camp you’re in, you need to listen to it (again).

But here is the caveat: it isn’t simple or easy changing your mind. In fact, I would go as far as to say it is one of the hardest things for most humans to do, which is why we have ended up with a planet full of way too many people who feel stuck and even hopeless. From the moment we are born, we are thrust into a world where we have thoughts, ideas and experiences imposed upon us that lead us to form a set of beliefs about the world. Beliefs are essentially the guiding principles that provide direction and meaning in life. Beliefs are the pre-set filters to our perceptions of the world. Beliefs are like ‘internal commands’ to the brain as to how to represent what is happening, when we believe something to be true.

From childhood, we become like sponges that soak everything up – the great, the good, the bad and the really fucking ugly. If our parents are broke and worrying about money, we start to form beliefs about that. If our parents show us love and we come from fun and loving households, we will develop beliefs about that. If your parents argue all the time, you will form a view of your world because of that. We become conditioned to see the world in a certain way based on what our childhood experience was like. This all creates and determines our outlook on the world.

Our brains are made up of many parts, but there are two things we need to fully comprehend. We have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind, and for the most part, our subconscious mind runs the show, based on all the stuff that happens when we are kids, as explained above. This forms the template rooted in our brain that guides our thoughts and governs our actio...

Indice dei contenuti

• Cover 
• Title
• Dedication
• Acknowledgements
• Contents 
• About the Author
• 1 The Good, the Bad, the F-ugly
• 2 It’s All About the Vibes
• 3 Think It, Get It #Goaldigger
• 4 Goodbye, Comparison Hangover
• 5 Say Boo to the Bullshit
• 6 It’s Time for a Spiritual Facelift
• 7 Choose Yourself
• 8 Your Word is Your Wand
• 9 All Karma is Not Created Equal
• 10 Google Doesn’t Know All the Answers
• 11 Gratitude is So Dang Gangster
• 12 The Power of Your Posse
• 13 Don’t Just Say It, Slay It
• Epilogue: Namaste, Bitches
• Further Reading
• Copyright