CHAPTER 1
Kink and Cannibals
or Why We Should Probably Ban American Football
Fetishists fetishize consent. Practitioners and sympathetic scholars routinely defend and celebrate kinky sexâBDSM1âfor the moral primacy it places upon consent. Certainly BDSM is praised for other reasons tooâfor eroticizing otherwise flaccid publics, for contravening stale norms of âharmonicâ intimacy, for helping practitioners work through earlier traumatic experiences, and for theatricalizing and thereby subverting hierarchical social relations (e.g., Bauer 2014, 3; Califia 1994 [1980], 172â74; Henkin 2007). But nearly all advocacy for BDSM starts with consent as moral square one. Whether conceptualized as a âcontract,â a âsafe word,â or something far more communicatively cumbersome, consent not only exonerates but also extols BDSM sex. This is consent unbound.
It is time to tie it up.
As the first of two chapters describing the insufficiency of consent for adjudicating sex, this one makes the following five arguments: (1) consent should not green-light any sexual conduct whatsoever simply because the conduct is sexual; (2) while BDSM defenders analogize kinky sex to physical contact sports in support of the formerâs legitimacy, the (dis)analogy in fact makes a stronger case for the illegitimacy of the latter, especially American football; (3) (yet) in sex, as in football, the sufficiency threshold for consent should not be, ipso facto, either the seriousness of any given physical injury or an affront to human dignity, as some critics propose; (4) we can begin to excavate alternative sufficiency thresholds to seriousness and dignity by turning to two contradictions within consent-centric, pro-BDSM literature; (5) these contradictions are resolved once consent is checked and once other abstractionsâalready articulated within the BDSM lexiconâare entrusted with more power. Not incidentally, these other abstractionsâmutuality, communication, care for others, power exchange, and so onâsound with a feminist commitment of sexual autonomy and a feminist reconstruction of sexual access.
CHEWING PENIS
On March 9, 2001, two German men in their forties, Armin Meiwes and Bernd Brandes, together attempted to dine on Brandesâs fried penis. Meiwes and Brandes had met online earlier that month, after Meiwes had posted an advertisement soliciting men who wished to be eaten, to which Brandes eagerly responded. Brandes traveled by train to Meiwesâs farmhouse, whereupon the two men had sex before Brandes consumed copious quantities of alcohol and sleeping pills, apparently in anticipation of the ensuing pain of having his penis removed. Meiwes cut off Brandesâs penis after he failed to bite it off, frying the penis when it proved too tough to eat raw. Now charred and inedible, Meiwes fed what was left of Brandesâs member to the dog. Brandes spent the next several hours in a warm bath bleeding out before Meiwes stabbed and killed him with a kitchen knife. Meiwes cut Brandes into pieces, stored some of the remains in the freezer, and buried the skull and bones of the deceased in his backyard. In the months following, Meiwes would periodically dine on Brandes flesh with his âbest cutleryâ and a glass of red wine (Harding 2003).
Scandalizing this scandal further, Meiwes âhad recorded every bloody detail of the slaying on video,â a video in which Brandes evidently and continually consents to his dismemberment and death (although there is some question about the validity of consent given Brandesâs blood loss and intoxication) (Barcroft TV 2016). Following a tip-off, police went to Meiwesâs farmhouse and discovered the frozen flesh and bones of Brandes, as well as the video.
In a German criminal court, Meiwes was convicted of manslaughter, not murder; Brandesâs voluntarinessâhis consentâin part mitigated Meiwesâs culpability (Harding 2004). However, on appeal Meiwes was convicted of murder and sentenced to prison for life. The court held that consent could not be a defense to murder (Fickling 2006).
Obviously, âchewing penisâ is neither the only nor chiefly objectionable activity that went down that eventful night, though I imagine the subheading grabbed your attention. Yet the incidentâexplosively reported alike in popular media (e.g., Eckardt 2004; Bovsun 2015) and in academic journals (e.g., Bergelson 2007, 166â67; Y. Lee 2007, 2982â88)âflags three dilemmas: the first on the limits of consent, the second on the normative significance of bodily injury, and the third on the multiple meanings of penis removal (and death). In truth, these three dilemmas are but shaves off the first: the insufficiency of consent, however valorized and sexified, for adjudicating sexual conduct between or among (the legal fiction of rational, competent, adult) human beings.
The fetishistsâ fetishizing of consent looks like this: as consent transforms what would be rape into âsexâ (Hurd 2005, 504; Baker 2009, 97), so consent transforms sex with violence, scenes of hierarchy, role-playing, or other forms of explicit power exchange into kink (Weinberg 2016, 15).
For example, in his ethnography of what he terms âdyke + queer BDSMâ practitioners, Robin Bauer (2014) reports that âthe one feature that all interview partners agreed was crucial for an activity to count as BDSM [was] consentâ (13). Bauer quotes well-known practitioners who insist, against charges of sadomasochistic sex as violence, that âwhat we are doing is consensual. Periodâ (Moser and Madeson 1996, 71, quoted in Bauer 2014, 75).
For another example, in her visual and discursive analysis of kink and black female sexuality, Ariane Cruz (2016), even as she demagnetizes consent from its presumptive normativity, nonetheless reports that âblack women BDSMers suggest that [. . .] consent is not only possible but also pleasurable and affectively empoweringâ (45).2
For a third, acute example of consent fetish, consider the words of well-known kink practitioner and advocate Carol Truscott (1991): âConsensual sadomasochism has nothing to do with violence. Consensual sadomasochism is about safely enacting sexual fantasies with a consenting partner. Violence is the epitome of nonconsensualityâ (30).
And for a fourth and final example of consentâs staying power over kink community and politics, visit the National Coalition for Sexual Freedomâs (NCSFâs) âConsent Countsâ project site.3 Founded in 1997, NCSF is a nationwide kink support and advocacy coalition that has, over the past few years, initiated its Consent Counts project, which âseeks to decriminalize consensual BDSM which does not result in the infliction of serious bodily injuryâ (NCSF 2013). Toward that effort, NCSF has filed amicus briefs in cases involving allegedly consensual kink, has petitioned state legislatures, and has lobbied the American Law Institute to recommend that BDSM conduct be permitted a consent defense under the revised Model Penal Code (more on the Model Penal Code below). âItâs all about consent,â the coalitionâs website asserts, âand the law should reflect thatâ (NCSF n.d.).
Let us assume, in light of these four examples, that Bernd Brandes consented with sound mind to the removal of his penis and his death at the hands of Armin Meiwes. Let us assume too that neither intoxicants nor blood loss corroded Brandesâs consent, for âsooner or later we are doomed to encounter a mentally competent person who would wish to be killed or injuredâ (Bergelson 2007, 186; see also Baker 2009, 103â4). Whether conceptualized as a moral concept or a legal construct, consent is unhelpful for indicting this cannibalistic erotic encounter, an encounter that strikes me as, without question, morally and legally indictable, unless one adopts the most stringent libertarian posture (to be fair, NCSF argues for consent as a defense to kink that âdoes not result in serious bodily injury,â a qualifier that I will argue in the third section is necessary yet overinclusive and underinclusive; NCSF 2015). The German Cannibal case readily reveals that consent cannot be dispositive; it cannot be sufficient (Westen 2004, 129). The case also reveals that a definitional core of BDSM is readily confused as an ethical core (Hanna 2001, 240). For if we are disinclined to green-light non-eroticized but consensual activity involving gross or even fatal injuries, why should sex make all the difference? If I ask my friend to push me off a skyscraper, most would agree that she should not do so, and that if she did so, my asking to be pushed might mitigate but not eliminate any responsibility on her part (Bergelson 2007, 236; Hanna 2001, 241). Are we really willing to say that if pushing me off the building aroused me (or her), the push (and death) would be morally kosher (Baker 2009, 97â98; McGregor 2005, 243)? Why should âsexââor sexualizing, reallyâbe so transformative? It should not, even accounting for the specialness sex and intimacy find in many peopleâs lives (and in the U.S. Constitution; see Lawrence v. Texas [2003]; cf. Spindelman 2003). Indeed, courts in the United States and elsewhere have generally agreed on this point when ruling on cases involving BDSM sex (or rather, cases involving consent as a defense to alleged BDSM sex). In Anglo-American jurisdictions, defendants are usually charged with some form of assault (not sexual assault), for which consent is typically not recognized as a defense (Haley 2014, 636â40; NCSF 2015).
Some critics contend that prosecuting BDSM as assault rather than sexual assault delegitimizes BDSM sex as sex (e.g., Haley 2014, 640â41; Kaplan 2014, 121â22). On this reading, it is not that the legal classification of BDSM as assault reflects the assaultive social reality of BDSM sex but that the legal classification of BDSM as assault purposively discards the sexual social reality of BDSM sex.
Other critics have pointed out that judicial findings of harm (under allegedly consensual circumstances) are thinly guised pretexts for eroto- and homophobia (Khan 2014, 225â303). This judicial sleight of hand is nowhere more infamously on display than in the âSpannerâ case in the United Kingdom, in which several men were convicted on various counts of assault for engaging in rough, kinky sex with a younger, submissive man (R. v. Brown [1994]). The graphically described conduct (for example, sterilized fishhooks inserted into the submissiveâs penis) is discomfiting, but the injuries sustained were neither permanent nor incapacitating postcoitus (Egan 2006, 1615, 1629). Moreover, despite gestural concern for the welfare of the submissive (who refused to testify against the defendants), the justicesâ statements drip with derision, homophobia, and AIDS panic.4 Adding heteronormative insult to queer injury, a defendant was held not guilty of similar conduct (for example, branding the alleged victimâs buttocks) three years later, in large degree because the victim was a woman and the defendantâs wife (R. v. Wilson [1996]; Khan 2014, 237â42). In US jurisdictions, kink advocates point to cases in which defendants have been charged, and some convicted, for assault despite the fact that the BDSM activity did not reach the âserious bodily injuryâ threshold of the criminal statute. âIn one caseâparticularly notorious in the BDSM communityâa woman was prosecuted for assault for consensually spanking another woman with a wooden spoonâ (NCSF 2015). The harm of an activity (nipple clamping, for example) is moralistically overstated as âseriousâ in order to classify it as assaultive (Kaplan 2014, 122; NCSF 2015).
I recount these sex-positive objections to concede that my seemingly simple normative claimâconsent, on its own, should not morally or legally green-light any eroticized activity whatsoever, however injurious or impedingâis proposed not in a social vacuum but against a sexual regulatory landscape historically hostile to sexual minorities. Yet bad cases make for bad normative propositions.5 Law professor Cheryl Hanna (2001) points out that the Spanner case is an outlier, âsensational and rareâ (263). In most cases in the United States and Canada, the facts follow this pattern: the defendantâalmost always maleâalleges the conduct in question to have been rough sex that the victimâalmost always femaleâconsented to (âasked forâ). âIn the vast majority of cases that make it into the criminal justice system, consent is questionable at bestâ (Hanna 2001, 248). In these cases of likely rape, prosecutors charge defendants with assault, not sexual assault, effectively bypassing the he saidâshe said dispute that women typically lose (Hanna 2001, 269â70; see also State v. Gaspar [2009]).6 One might take issue with this prosecutorial reach-around, and one might concede that phobia underwrites too much judicial reasoning about sex, but Hannaâs observation reveals that the paradigmatic âBDSM caseâ that makes its way to appellate courts is not kinky-consensual-sex-that-judges-and-juries-are-repulsed-by but rather rape-that-men-claim-as-rough-sex (see also McGregor 2005, 245; Westen 2004, 71â74). In any case, however we come down on these judicial opinions and prosecutorial practices, the central conceptual point I wish to press remains unchallenged: consent, on its own, is insufficient to exonerate any and all forms of sexualized conduct.
One could claim that I am caricaturing the BDSM position, as there are other tools in the kink toolbox besides consent with which to scrutinize erotic cannibalism and erotic murder. BDSM communities have long been in the business of moral advertising to countervail dominant misperceptions and misrepresentations of kink. BDSMâs most widely recognized and longest-running public campaign is SSC, which stands for âsafe, sane, and consensualâ (d. stein n.d.; Langdridge and Barker 2007).7...