IN THIS CHAPTER
Understanding the difference between Ashkenazi and Sephardi Jews Exploring the wide spectrum from Orthodox to Reform (and beyond) Playing the âWhoâs a Jewâ game We used to think we could tell if someone was Jewish just by looking at them. We each grew up in very different times and very different places in America, but we both developed the same notion of what being Jewish meant: Small stature (but often slightly overweight), large nose, dark wavy or curly hair, dark eyes ⌠you canât really explain it in print â itâs more like a feeling. âHey, is that guy Jewish?â âOh yeah, no doubt about it.â You just know!
Then we went to Israel. It took about five seconds for each of us to realize that what we thought was âJewishâ was just one small segment of a much bigger picture â like finding out that kissing isnât all there is to love. We saw blond Jews, Middle-Eastern Jews, Asian Jews, Black Jews, Latino Jews, Jews who looked like Arnold Schwarzenegger, and Jews who looked like Britney Spears. Boy, we had a lot to learn!
The Jewish Tribe
Judaism isnât a race or even a particular culture or ethnic group. A little over 15 million Jews are spread around the world, including about 6 million in the United States and about 5 million in Israel â so Judaism obviously isnât âa nation.â And, if youâre anything like us, you know more Jews who donât believe in God or practice Jewish observances than those who do, so being Jewish doesnât even necessarily have to do with religion.
So what
does it mean to be Jewish? Here are the basics:
- Being Jewish (being âa Jewâ) means youâre a Member of the Tribe (an M-O-T). The tribe started with a couple named Abraham and Sarah more than 4,000 years ago, it grew over time, and itâs still here today. You can become an authentic part of the Jewish tribe in two ways: by being born to a Jewish mother or joining through a series of rituals (called converting). Some folks think there are other ways of becoming a Jew, too; we cover that issue later in this chapter.
- Judaism is a set of beliefs, practices, and ethics based on the Torah (see Chapter 3). You can practice Judaism and not be Jewish, and you can be a Jew and not practice Judaism.
Whatâs in a name?
The word âJewishâ doesnât appear in the Bible at all. For example, the folks who came out of slavery in Egypt in the Book of Exodus (see Chapter 11) were called âHebrewsâ or âChildren of Israel,â and they each belonged to one of the 12 tribes of Israel. Ten of the 12 tribes were dispersed by the Assyrians in the eighth century BCE (see Chapter 11), but the tribe of Judah and the smaller tribe of Benjamin remained as the Southern Kingdom known as Judea until early in the sixth century BCE.
When Judea fell to the Babylonians, and the people were taken into exile, they became known as the Judah-ites (
Yehudim), since they were the people of Judah (
Yehudah). In Hebrew, the name
Yehudim persists today and simply means âJews.â The religion they practiced was later called âJudah-ismâ â which became âJudaism.â We prefer to pronounce this word âJudah-ismâ rather than âJude-ismâ or âJudy-ismâ â which makes it sound like youâre talking about Judy Garland.
Jews far and wide
The Jewish people have always tended to fan out across the known world. Evidence indicates that even centuries before Jesus, Jewish communities inhabited the North African and East African coasts, Europe, and Asia. Jews were among the first people to come to the Americas from Europe in the fifteenth and sixteenth centuries. Some evidence suggests that there was at least one Jew aboard the ship with Columbus. (Some people suspect that Columbus himself was a Jew, perhaps because Jews were kicked out of Spain in 1492.)
Everywhere the Jews went, their population grew through intermarriage and conversion, and â most importantly â they kept their basic religion while adopting the culture and norms of the local area. Thatâs why up to 20 percent of Jews descended from European ancestors have blue eyes, and why some Jews are Black, Hispanic, or Asian. Itâs also why a Jew from New York looks and acts different than a Jew from Bombay, but each one could probably fumble along with most of the otherâs Shabbat service (see Chapter 18).
Similarly, Jewish food, music, and humor from Iraq and Yemen is much more Arabic in nature than the Spanish flavor of Jews from Brazil and Argentina, which is different than the borscht soup and klezmer music of Jews from Europe. They even all speak Hebrew with different dialects! Jews just donât fit any consistent set of stereotypes or expectations.
And yet, all Jews are inextricably linked together simply by being Jewish. Perhaps itâs a common practice and belief in Judaism; perhaps itâs a common sense of history, or a shared sense of being an outsider from the broader culture. Or perhaps itâs a deep, innate feeling of connection to the tribe.
Who decides if youâre Jewish?
Two years after the new government of Israel came to power in 1948, it passed the Law of Return, which states that anyone born of a Jewish mother or anyone who has converted to Judaism can move to Israel and claim citizenship. This immediately re-ignited a controversy that began much earlier and continues to this day: Who gets to say whether or not someone is really Jewish?
Whether someone practiced Judaism wasnât an issue for citizenship, because Israel was founded for the most part by secular Jews. But what about people born Jewish who had been raised as Christians or Muslims, or who practiced another religion? Some say you have to not only identify yourself as Jewish, but also not practice any other religion. Others say that religion has nothing to do with it and point out that the Nazis killed thousands of people who were Jewish by birth but practiced some other religion. Each year Israeli courts consider cases arguing over whether someone is or is not Jewish.
And what about people who convert? Technically, someone who converts to Judaism is no different from someone who was born Jewish. However, not everyone sees it that way. In the next section, we discuss the various denominations of Judaism, including the Orthodox Jews who refuse to acknowledge the conversion of anyone converted by a Reform or Conservative rabbi.
Many people say, âIâm half Jewishâ (if one parent is Jewish) or âIâm a quarter-Jewishâ (if one grandparent is Jewish). Traditional Jews argue that either youâre Jewish or youâre not. To them, if your motherâs mother was Jewish, then your mother is Jewish, and if your mother is Jewish, then youâre Jewish. Among Reform and Reconstructionist Jews, if only your father is Jewish and you were raised Jewish, then youâre considered Jewish, too.
After all, itâs a small world
Jews have long spread out to the corners of the world, so significant Jewish communities (over 100,000 people) live in France, Australia, Argentina, and South Africa. In America, most people think all the Jews live in big cities like New York (where there are over 1.5 million Jews). But many also live in the âWild Westâ states like Wyoming, the deep south states like Louisiana, and everywhere in-between.
In fact, not only do far more Jewish people live outside of Israel than within today, it has been this way for over 2,500 years. And no matter where they live, most Jews today identify with one of two groups: Ashkenazi and Sephardi.
Ashkenazi
The descendants of Jews who, until around 1900, lived anywhere from northwest Europe (like France and Germany) to eastern Europe (including Russia, Ukraine, and Lithuania) are usually called Ashkenazi (pronounced âahsh-ke-nah-zee;â Ashkenazim is plural). The majority of Jews in the world are Ashkenazi.
Sephardi
The descendants of Jews who lived in Spain up until the 15th century are called Sephardi (seh-far-dee; Sephardim is plural). After the expulsion (see Chapter 14), these Jews traveled to North Africa, Italy, the Ottoman Empire (Turkey), and back to the Middle East. Of course, many Jews started out in those areas (never having traveled as far as Spain to begin with), but theyâre generally called Sephardi anyway. You also hear Jews from the Middle East called Mizrachi (âfrom the East;â remember that Hebrew has no âchâ sound, so this is the guttural âkhâ sound).
Over the past 500 years, the Sephardim primarily interacted with Muslims, especially African and Arab Muslims. Today much of their culture (music, language, liturgical melodies, food, festival customs, and so on) is based on those cultures. The Ashkenazim, on the other hand, mostly interacted with European Christian cultures, resulting in a very different ethnic feeling.
Although Israel was founded primarily by Ashkenazi Jews, more than half of Israelis have always been Sephardim. However, the very different cultures have caused a number of difficulties. Many Ashkenazi Jews mistrust Sephardi Jews and think theyâve âruinedâ Israel, and vice versa. Fortunately, as time goes by, things seem to be getting better.