Part I
Memory Lane
True in the game, as long as blood is blue in my vein . . .
1
WE GREW UNDER THE GRAY of a lingering paranoia. The icebox, like the arms on the rusted swivel chair, needed fixingâthe beat-up clock and random knobs on the telly, too. But we stopped sweating it just as quick as we could storm the block with no parentals. Iâd read that in old Greece, the children dreamed away in wicker baskets, made games with miniature chariots and fed goats and weasels. At seven they took to primary school, learned Homer and how to play the lyre. How it began was all this. This to become, or to learn to become. Not here. Not for the wild things in the 305 and the 954. Raised by women, we searched for Animal Chin and dug for meaning in the fighting words of Leroy Green and Tito Santana. We did the knowledge, and we tripped over it just the same.
THE EIGHTIES MADE US. They also saw the ascent of crack, neo-expressionism, and what would become the soundtrack to our lives: hip-hop. We were awed by the pedestaled beings on the tube, the def poets in their flawless fits, and the jerseyâd watercolor figures leaping high as the sun. MCs, ballplayers, the kung fu man whose family never called him Bruce but âLittle Phoenix.â Everything they did we tried, eager for someone to emulate. We were the fatherless searching for our footing, steady on the hunt for a narrative. Our mothers carried what seemed like the weight of the world on their backs. They were scrappy, selfless. They loved hard and worked their fingers to the pink. But the void we felt was inescapable. Then it hit us like something furious blazed in from afar. This thing with its beauty, its built-in contradiction. It was loud and savage and free, like us. We were drawn to hip-hopâs magnetic pull, transfixed by its starts and stops. Like the Spanish and Patois and Creole of our homes, it became a part of usâit carried the same force as our mother tongues. Only it wasnât in the language of our mothers, so they couldnât teach it, or take it away. They damn sure tried. At Silver Lakes Middle, it was our strut, how we cracked jokes. We invoked KRS and the Jungle Brothers, and in â92 as a nod to Rakim, Gino got âDonât Sweat the Techniqueâ etched in his fade. We lost it, and that chico was king for the whole quarter.
In those days, many of us came to see our fathers as ghosts, apparitions who would appear one moment and be gone the next. They were in love, then they werenât; they played at life. They seldom prospered and never mastered the minutes. There was only that, the days swooping past with the wind in their hair. Over and over they broke our hearts. But we the children ate our fill and grew. Some of us went to war, some to university. Others nowhere fast. We all aged, and many became husbands. Some, fathers. Soon there were lawyers, therapists, preachers, tons of figuring and psychoanalysis. A lot of cheating and come mierda. Regrets, fractured family structures. Everyone trying to manage, never having learned how to properly navigate it all. We were never taught the way of stand-up cats that handled theirs. We had to dig deep, and in time some of those skills came, like the night. Night always came, and that was the truest thing. Right and left, we saw other grown-up kids who were left to chance. The faint memories of distracted fathers.
This is the story of us.
2
WE LIVED IN A BROWN BRICK HOUSE in the southeast part of the sunshine state, a stoneâs chuck west of I-95. Nights I could feel the traffic rumble as I dreamt of Third Earth or guarding the Castle Grayskull with a sword. There were three bedrooms, two bathrooms, and a small den that housed mounds of records and dusty photo albums. My two brothers, Alejandro and Andres, shared a room. Still, they both preferred to nod off in mine, the three of us packed like canned beans on a twin bed that creaked every time we moved. My folks bickered down the hall, their arguments mostly centering on my fatherâs whereaboutsâwhere heâd been all week and why he carried the scent of some other manâs wife. Drugs, too. The first time I saw my father do coke I was about six. Iâd ambled into the kitchen for bread at some godless hourâmy hunger was always fierce and unceasingâBatman Underoos in full effect. I didnât know what the powder was on his stache, but I remember wishing heâd take me to see the snow. Iâd seen it some in New York City, where I was born, but palm trees and sprawling beaches had erased those memories. A family vacation that never was is one of my earliest recollections. Less than halfway there my father decided it was enough. My brothers and I sat in the back of our Astro van with the luggage, a cooler, and two fishing poles. He was beat from a night out, but that morning my father said, âYou think heâs the only one who can take you anywhere? Letâs go.â He tossed a duffel bag onto the bed and started shoving clothes in it, his and my motherâs, whatever was near. âYou think that gringo is something grand, donât you? Well, your father is taking you on a trip,â he said. âÂĄApĂșrate!â
Weeks before, our neighbor Joe had taken a few of us neighborhood kids to the Florida Keys, some seventy miles south. His sonâJoe Juniorâwas in my grade. Joe Junior, who we called Joey, had the gadgets and a freestyle bike and one of those transistor radios we would have murdered for. We had a few decent trinkets at my crib but Joey, an only child, had a Hot Wheels race track and we would go at it for hours. His mother died in her sleep when he was three, so it was just him and his pops and a yellow-eyed cat called Jesse. The only person Iâd ever seen with more hardware than Joey was my primo Juan Carlos. But after Hurricane Andrew tore through his house in Kendall, he lost the bulk of it. My tĂos replaced what they could, but his collection was never the same.
Joe was like the stand-in dad for our close-knit squad. Willieâs was dead, Doug Ohâs worked a ton, and mine was busy hitting skins somewhere. Joe took us fishing and swimming and we did karaoke at some ratchet dive called Woodyâs in Islamorada. We always came back full and happy, eager to tell our mothers about our adventures: how many fish weâd caught and how next time, next time for sure, weâd be man enough to bait our own hooks. Those shrimp are just too quick, weâd say. And they bite.
About an hour into the drive to Key Largo, my parents started with the yelling. My father was sucking a beer in the passengerâs seat and Ma was at the wheel. She was going on about something, and my father, already in a pissy way, got worked up. Heâd been in a bad way since the dry cleaning business folded. And the limo business before that, both of which my grandfather, Maâs father, had owned. We werenât even close to the stretch on Federal, but things felt doomed. Finally, when we were posted at a red light, my father let out an expletive and flung his arms like an umpire. âÂĄCarajo!â he said, and broke out. The light changed and Ma didnât hesitate; she pumped the gas with cool focus and fury. I turned around and watched as my father, now shirtless, took the last few swigs of his Presidente and chucked it in the bushes. Then he began to fade in the distance, becoming smaller and smaller in my eyes and mind.
If your parents went to war like mine, it was best to grab your board and dip. Weâd say, âFreak this,â and head for Mr. Billâs, the grocer on Commercial. None of us were allowed to go past the âWoodlands Estatesâ sign by ourselves, but that didnât keep us from spitting on it as we rolled by. Weâd speed down the sidewalk against the traffic that made our boards shake like mini tremors. Once, Doug Oh hit a stone and sent his new Powell-Peralta board onto the road. A semi smashed it in two and parts went flying, like a dream just out of reach. Doug had to walk home carrying both halves, and he struggled to put together a believable story. You can bet he got the belt when his dad came home from work, too. He was always doing something to get the belt. Doug Oh, no board and leather-worn nalgas.
OUR FATHERS were like foreign objects of a kind. Few of them born in the country of their children, their lives were supposed to say something about progress. They mostly did the opposite. Then again, it seemed American to whip your kids with belts when they split their boards or failed to mind their tone. At Mr. Billâs, weâd put candy and pickled sausage in our shorts without paying. Willie always copped a lemonade or ginger ale, and that was like a decoy, as they say. At school Iâd sell the sweets I had left over, Blow Pops and Bottle Caps, for whatever I could get. It was all profit, and fools never minded spending the money so long as they got their sugar rush. No bull, I could push packs of Smarties for a buck each and be set for days. Thatâs good business, Iâd tell Alejandro back at home. Good, solid business. He always wanted to tag along, but that was a gamble. If I knew there might be potential danger waiting, Iâd order him not to follow. Even small mischief like ding dong ditch I tried to keep him from. It felt responsible to set boundaries like that.
Some nights, Ma would be up late, at the kitchen table sewing. The money she earned at the nail salon wasnât much, and sheâd stay tinkering with dresses and tops, using what sheâd learned in junior college for extra cream. Friends brought her clothes and sheâd make the alterations. Sometimes Iâd sneak out of bed to watch her as she toiled, her busy hands, her constant yawning. She would sketch and measure, stitch and seam. One night she fell asleep with the machine still clicking and I had to wake her. âIâm up,â she said. âJust needed a minute.â On the days Ma took her finished work back to the salon, sheâd come back with bags of foodâsteaks and frozen pizzas. âI got your favorite,â sheâd announce. âTake a look.â In that way I figured Mr. Bill and I were straight. I lifted candies, and Ma made it right with bigger purchases. There was a certain joy I got from Maâs victories, her provision and steady grind in the shadow of an absent and unfaithful husband.
He had his women, my father; all kinds of them. Short, tall, dark, fair-skinned, always in shape. Once, he brought me along on a date, if you can believe that. He told Ma he needed to get some items from the market and she insisted he take me with him, because I hadnât been out all day and boys need the air. âItâll be good for him,â she told my father. Eventually, he caved. I remember a dingy bar and a thin woman with legs smooth as water. She wore a white skirt that stopped just short of her knees. My father enjoyed the womanâs company, which he demonstrated with his hands. âHereâs a paper and pen,â he said to me. âMake something nice for your mother. Over there,â he said, âwhere the light is good.â
MY MOTHERâS LOYALTY to my father not only spoke to her patience and her capacity to forgive, but also her naivetĂ©. She gave and gave. She wanted badly to be seen again, to salvage the union. When my father was hungry, Ma fed him. When he wanted children, she birthed them. In truth, neither one of my parents was free in this cycle, this foolish dance of pleasure seeking and pardoning and rationalizing. Cheating was only the half. In time, there were weeklong binges and violent episodes; there were empty vials left in sinks and shady company parked out front. Back then, it wasnât unheard of for armed men to appear out of department store aisles and vacant lots, looking for my father. Looking for us. At first they seemed like friends and associates, and perhaps at one point they were. Theyâd greet my father with a handshake, exchange banter, and vanish. But after a while, things turned suspect.
Years later, Ma would share with me a particularly disconcerting story.
Some weekday morning, there was a knock at the door. Iâd missed school that day due to some ailment or other, and was curled up under a chair with a pile of Garbage Pail Kids. Ma sighed and answered reluctantly, like she anticipated a stir. Two men were there to greet her. They were looking for my father, naturally, who hadnât been home in days. The men asked Ma what school her boys attended, said they wanted to pay them a visit. She had no answer for them, and they didnât push. No problem, they said, and took off. But they were determined to locate my father, who, as Ma learned, owed them a pretty penny. Ma dug up information, pieced together details, and concluded that my father did not, in fact, manage a hotel; nor was he a bartender; nor did he help run a video store. No, he was dealing in narcotics. And the men who visited our home, she came to know, were tied to the Pereira Cartel, an organized network of ruthless traffickers who would dispose of anyone who dared crossed them. My fatherâs cousin PinzĂłn was in the business of transporting tons of blow in the fake hulls of speedboats. Fool got smoked in Venezuela years later after a deal gone sour. If my mother had not been acquainted with fear up until then, the visit from these miscreants was its crude introduction. Slowly, she began to formulate an escape plan, taken to the brink by this new and terrifying reality: the man who was once her everything was now endangering everything she lived for.
The next night, while her children slept, Ma was tipped off by a neighbor whoâd seen my father with a woman at a nearby filling station. She got jacked way up and put rubber to the road. As she approached the Mobil, Ma saw my father and the woman pulling off. Ma followed closely, but made no effort to remain inconspicuous. When the woman, who was driving one of our vehicles, noticed they had company, she floored it. Determined to not let my father get away without meeting her gaze, Ma gave chase. For almost half an hour, she stalked the yellow glow of his taillights all over the city, her heart pounding as she weaved in and out of traffic, like a madwoman. She knocked over recycling bins, pummeled flower beds. But when reality set in, she cooled down and made her way back home to her boys, who were just as sheâd left them. Ma never mentioned the incident to my father, and itâs uncertain whether he ever knew whoâd pursued him that night.
I KNEW VERY LITTLE about what my father did for work when I was a child. All I knew was that we had a house, clothes, food; and when I needed a new skateboard or dough to sign up for soccer league, I usually got what I asked for. Still, he always seemed to be between jobs. Ma said the reason my father didnât last long in his places of employment was because he always wanted to be the boss. I should be calling the shots was his sentiment wherever he set foot. He was vocal about it, too. Where sensible people understand the concept of working your way up into a leadership role, my father did not. In all his adult life he would undermine superiors without hesitation, propose better ways of achieving goals. Then when he got canned for overstepping boundaries, he would fail to see the deeper problem.
Another day, I was home sick with a low-grade fever. Iâd been left in the care of a family friend so Ma could run a few errands. My plan was to lounge in my pajamas all afternoon, watching television until Alejandro and Andres came home. I was lying on the sofa looking for nudity on HBO when my father bolted in. âShouldnât you be at work?â the woman asked him. âDonât you worry about that,â he said, and made her scram. âMijo, get up,â my father commanded. âLetâs go find some trouble.â I felt terrible but pushed through my weakness and went to dress. When I returned, I observed through the cracked door as my father pulled a wad of bills from a suitcase. Iâd never seen that much cash, and even to my callow mind, it was unsettling. Weâre rich, I thought to myself. âNo, slip on your bathing suit,â he instructed as I walked in. âWeâre going someplace special.â I assumed he meant we were headed to West Wind Park, a nearby community center where we would go to swim and ride the swings on weekends. I normally went with Joe and the crew, so I was glad to be trooping it with my father for a change. After weâd been driving for some time, it became clear that Iâd assumed wrong. I didnât have the strength to ask where we were going, so I hung tight, growing drowsier by the second. When I woke up an hour later, I was confused. We pulled into a massive park with the biggest water slides Iâd ever seen. The slides twisted and turned, they were suspended in the sky beneath hot white clouds. They had names like Brain Drain and Big Thunder. Was I dreaming? âLetâs go,â my father said, his rough and freckled hand reaching out for mine. The place was every kidâs fantasy; there was a wave pool, a lazy river. Iâd seen it before in commercials, and the prospect of visiting had, for one reason or another, seemed improbable. Now here I was, and with my pops at that. The best part was, because it was the middle of the week, the lines were either short or nonexistent. We skipped from one ride to the next, cheerful as can be, the sun beating down on us. I couldnât imagine anything better. My parents had been fighting ceaselessly, and this was a welcome respite from the swearing and the accusations. âIâm starved,â I said, as we tried to catch our breath after braving the Riptide Raftinâ. My father went to fetch food at the snack bar, and I kicked back poolside, people watching in the warm sun. Sitting there, I remembered that I was ill, and I felt tired and frail. Iâd pushed my body too hard and was paying for it. I looked over and saw my father conversing with a woman in the line. I figured they knew each other by the way they were cackling, and how he was stroking her shoulder playfully. I didnât make much of it. When he came back, we ate nachos and drank soda by the lazy river.
Only in retrospect can I see that the way my father interacted with random sucias was problematic behavior for a married man. He was always so flirty that Iâd grown desensitized to it. Sometimes it was difficult to distinguish friendly chitchat from plain indecency, except for when it was obvious like with that skirt at the bar. But public...