WEEK 1: FATHERS
Ask your father and he will tell you, your elders, and they will explain to you.
(Deuteronomy 32.7)
Sunday | A change of mind: the Parable of the Lost Son | Luke 15.11â31 |
Monday | Joseph was a righteous man | Matthew 1â2; Hosea 11 |
Tuesday | Listen, my sons, to a fatherâs instruction | 1 Samuel 1â3 |
Wednesday | Two torn robes: Samuel, Saul and David | 1 Samuel |
Thursday | Abraham, father of nations | Genesis 16, 22 |
Friday | The Lord will provide | Genesis 22, 25, 27 |
Saturday | Good gifts: the Lordâs Prayer | Luke 11.1â13 |
A change of mind: the Parable of the Lost Son
Luke 15.11â31
Father God, when I make a life-changing decision,
help me leave mere inclination behind
and realize the danger of unexamined desire.
Some of us in life know exactly what we want, and others never really do. Our first story is of a young man who has no trouble knowing what he wanted, or going after it. We only ever make decisions on less than perfect information for we never know how things will work out. Life isnât an experiment which allows us to operate a control version. The younger son who asked for his share of the inheritance had the confidence of youth that all would work to his advantage. But the difference between being decisive and being headstrong is very fine indeed. Everything the younger son did, he did wholeheartedly, a quality we know Jesus wants us all to share. Think what it means to be âwholeheartedâ: your self is united and energized. But rather than controlling his passions, he allowed himself to be led by them. So:
In a moment of calm, ask yourself:
what am I wholehearted about?
Is God part of it?
The story starts briskly: âFather, give me my share of the estateâ (v. 12). We donât hear the father try to dissuade him. But we can guess his trepidation and imagine his conversations with the young manâs mother late into the night. How hard it is to watch our children make their own mistakes.
Father, give parents the confidence to trust that if they let go of their son
he may return as a man.
And indeed, after seeing his hopes collapse, and wandering in a wilderness of loneliness and destitution, âhe came to his sensesâ (v. 17). What a marvellous phrase it is, to âcome to our sensesâ. Our physical senses are the faculties through which we experience the outer world, but here itâs used in the further meaning of reaching wisdom based on experience â the senses of our intellect and soul. He learnt to appreciate and understand the ramifications of his actions, accept his disappointments, and turn back to his father. Here is the second major decision he made, a decision that led to him becoming more like the person God really wanted him to be.
Of course, another word we could use for âcoming to our sensesâ is one we use a lot in Lent â ârepentanceâ. And it was the change within the son and the journey back that was more important than the speech, for the father, âfilled with compassionâ, forgave him even before he heard the words. Here is an image of our God and Father throwing his arms about us. The son did get to say his words of repentance but the father was too busy preparing the banquet of reconciliation to bother to reply.
Father, when I need to repent,
help me realize that actions speak louder than words.
Because we invest so much pride in our decisions, itâs very rare for us to have a complete âchange of mindâ. How often we castigate people and politicians particularly for making U-turns. We criticize people who âclimb downâ, when in fact maybe we should praise their âclimb upâ, for changing oneâs mind is as arduous and painful as climbing a mountain. Of course, itâs not admirable to change if itâs for short-term success, but if itâs a genuine change of mind and heart, based on careful assessment of new circumstances, why should we be so critical? Youthful ideals are so important, for we must have a vision to live by, but often they become a fixed ideology which governs us, and we need shaking out of our obstinacy.
Can you remember what it was like as a child when youâd been rude or thumped your little sister, and dad told you to âsay sorryâ? How very difficult it was to say the words, how much the heart rebelled and pride resisted. Do we get any better at apologizing as we get older? Not always, maybe not often, which is why we find the younger son so attractive â heâs able to do what we so often find hard. The younger son travelled the journey we all make at some time of our life: heâd searched for fulfilment in the wrong way, heâd been hopelessly lost, but found wisdom in that wilderness, and was transformed.
Ever-loving Father, bind fathers and sons together with trust and friendship.
May the father be the pattern to the son
and the son the delight of the father.
Amen.
Joseph was a righteous man
Matthew 1â2; Hosea 11
The angel of the Lord said âGet up.â
So must I leave behind all that is certain
and respond to your call.
If we look back at the Christmas story for a moment, we find that the âstarâ in every nativity play is, âof courseâ, Mary, and the best supporting actor award goes to Joseph. But if we only had Matthewâs Gospel, the roles might well reverse. In Matthew we learn nothing of Maryâs response to the promise she carried in her womb. The focus is on Joseph and his relationship to the angel of the Lord, who visited him no less than three times.
God chose the earthly father of Jesus with as much care as he devoted to the search for his mother. Joseph was a righteous man, we are told, which meant at that time someone who kept the law and was what weâd call âuprightâ. What is it that keeps us the right way up â like one of those childrenâs wobbly toys that wonât be knocked over, however often the toddler tries, and always bounces back up? We remain upright when we are stable enough not to be blown over by the ups and downs of life. When we have a centre of gravity in which our emotions, our mental outlook, and the guidance of God, all cohere, then our external experiences may rock us, but not overturn our stability.
So what influenced Josephâs thinking at this moment of crisis? The obvious decision, based on the expectations of his time, would have been to divorce Mary immediately. No one would have blamed him. But Joseph was not only righteous, he was compassionate. His reaction was not limited just by rules and laws, but broadened by empathy with Maryâs predicament. Joseph held back from his initial impulse, and remembered his fatherâs advice â sleep on it; things might look different in the morning.
While he was still tussling with this dilemma, his understanding was taken to a new level when an angel appeared in his dream with startling new information. The baby was, in a very special way, from God, and for a special purpose â to âsave his people from their sinsâ (Matthew 1.21). Through an inner experience, his insight was confirmed and Joseph took Mary home as his wife.
The angel of the Lord said âDo not be afraidâ:
Give me courage to do the difficult thing, if it is right.
Joseph...