4.1.1 Intrinsic vs instrumental value
Before considering the ways in which friendship contributes to a valuable life, we need to equip ourselves with some important distinctions that philosophers have employed in theorizing about the nature of value. In Chapter One I introduced the distinction between intrinsic and instrumental value:
In considering the ways in which friendship might make our lives more valuable, we need to consider both its instrumental and its intrinsic value. Friendship, it seems obvious, often has good consequences, and in section 4.2 we will examine three of the potentially many such that friendship can, and often does, produce: pleasure, self-knowledge, and self-development. For each of these goods that friendship produces, there will arise the question: is it intrinsically or instrumentally valuable? In order for friendship to be instrumentally valuable, it does not matter what the answer to that question is: as long as friendship leads ultimately, either directly or indirectly, to something of intrinsic value, then it is instrumentally valuable.
Does friendship itself have intrinsic value? Does it have value regardless of whether it produces pleasure, self-knowledge, self-development, or anything else of either intrinsic or instrumental value? It is, I think, always difficult to defend any claim to the effect that something has intrinsic value. First, we need to be able to isolate the thing that we are considering, in this case friendship, from all of its standard consequences, and this is often quite challenging: when I think about my friendships, I almost inevitably think about how much I enjoy the company of my friends, how they have supported me in my career, how they have offered comfort in hard times, etc. How can I think about a friendship apart from all of the effects, distinct from itself, that it has on my life? We can try to employ the so-called âisolation testâ in order to determine whether something, X, has intrinsic value: consider a world in which X does not exist, and then compare that with a world that is exactly the same as the first world except in so far as X is now added to the world. As we noted in Chapter One, however, it is extraordinarily difficult to add a friendship to a world and still leave everything else constant, but I think we have to try to accomplish this task in order to decide for ourselves whether friendship has intrinsic value.
Second, even if I manage this task, what sort of argument can I give to someone else in order to convince her that friendship is (or is not) intrinsically valuable? We can encourage her to perform the isolation test, but what if she claims that the addition of X makes the world no more valuable while, after engaging in the test, we claim that it does? I am not sure that there is anything else that we can do at this point, except to reconsider the two worlds and to encourage our disputant to do the same. After all, somethingâs having intrinsic value is a matter of the nature of the thing, considered in and of itself, and so pointing to something beyond that thing is irrelevant.
However, one way in which philosophers have attempted to argue for the claim that a certain activity, object, or relationship is an intrinsic part of a good life for a human person is to examine the nature of the human person and attempt to somehow link up the proposed activity, etc., to what seems plausibly an excellent or worthwhile life for a being of that nature. This approach is famously used by Aristotle and, at least to an extent, by John Stuart Mill. Of course, in order to convince ourselves or another that friendship is intrinsically good using this approach, we need to have some prior understanding not only of the ânature of the human personâ but also of what it would be for such a being to live a worthwhile life. But a worthwhile life is a good life, so how can we have a prior understanding of a good life, i.e. prior to knowing what has intrinsic value? So, I think, the best that we can likely do is to reflect on whatever is proposed as having intrinsic value and do our best to carry out the isolation test, difficult as that inevitably is.
In so far as some particular friendship has good consequences, we can say that it is a good friendship. Of course, this sense of âgood friendshipâ is different from a more common usage of that term: we often mean by âgood friendâ a âclose friend.â Often, I think, those that we think of as good friends in one sense of the term are also good friends in the other sense of the term, but the two can come apart: I may really enjoy spending time with, say, Sally, but not feel as close to her as I feel to Linus or to Lucy. Similarly, I might be very close to Linus but, because Linus is often depressed, not always enjoy spending time with him. Or perhaps Linus is quite ill, so is not well placed to provide much in the way of emotional comfort or support to me. So the most instrumentally valuable friendships may not be the closest friendships, and vice versa.
On the other hand, it is probably more likely that if by âgood friendshipâ we mean to be talking about an intrinsically good friendship, then this sense of good friendship will overlap with our notion of âgood friendâ in the sense of a âclose friend.â Close friends are ones with whom we are particularly intimate and with whom there is the most mutual concern; in other words, the components of the friendship relation are exemplified in a close friendship to a greater degree than in a less close one, and it is plausible to think that the greater the intimacy and concern, the greater the intrinsic value of friendship. After all, if friendship is intrinsically valuable, then that value is in some way determined by the value of the components.1 So it is plausible to think that a closer friendship â in the sense of a more deeply caring and intimate friendship â is a more intrinsically valuable one than a less close friendship.
4.1.2 Subjective vs objective value
In discussions of value, one will often hear the claim, âWell, that might be good for you, but that doesnât mean that it is good for me.â This claim is ambiguous as it stands. One potential reading of it is the following: that, say, friendship might have good consequences for you, but that does not mean that friendship will or would have good consequences for me. We can imagine Herman saying that to you after you insist to him that he is missing out on something good in not having friends in his life. And this is something that is always important to keep in mind: for anything such as friendship, its good consequences will always be contingent upon its circumstances, in particular upon the nature of the parties to the friendship and upon the other circumstances of their lives.
But there is another reading of the claim, a reading according to which somethingâs intrinsic value is always a relative matter, determined by an individualâs subjective attitudes toward the relevant thing. Thus, the claim can be read as an endorsement of what I will call âvalue subjectivismâ:
What is the appropriate subjective attitude? There are a variety of suggestions that philosophers advocating value subjectivism have made, but the one that we will consider is that of desiring or wanting X intrinsically, i.e. desiring or wanting X for its own sake and not merely in virtue of its consequences. According to such a view, then, friendship is good for Herman if and only if Herman desires intrinsically that he have friends. So if Herman does not desire friends intrinsically but I do, then friendship is intrinsically good for me but not for Herman. In section 4.3 we will consider the value of friendship according to a version of value subjectivism where the appropriate subjective attitude is desiring intrinsically.
Finally, we need to consider whether friendship is objectively intrinsically valuable (section 4.4), where we are understanding objective value according to:
If friendship has objective intrinsic value then, regardless of Hermanâs attitudes toward friendship, i.e. regardless of whether Herman wants, values, or approves of friendship, his having friends would be good for its own sake. Of course, we can notice that even if friendship has objective intrinsic value, if Herman has only negative attitudes toward it, it will probably not be as instrumentally valuable in his life as it would be in the life of someone who values and approves of friendship. For example, if Herman dislikes having friends, he is likely to derive far less pleasure from having them than would someone who values having friends. Similarly, Hermanâs negative attitudes may make it more difficult for him to derive self-knowledge and self-improvement from his interactions with them. His attitudes will certainly make it more difficult for him to sustain any friendships that he manages to form.
In the following sections I will consider three options. First, in section 4.2 I will consider the instrumental value of friendship, in particular with respect to the consequences of pleasure, self-knowledge, and self-development. Second, in section 4.3, I will consider friendship as intrinsically valuable according to one version of value subjectivism, a version according to which the relevant subjective attitude for determining whether some X is valuable for a person Y is Yâs intrinsic desiring. Third, in section 4.4, I will consider friendship as objectively intrinsically valuable, i.e. as valuable regardless of anyoneâs subjective attitudes toward it. Finally, in sections 4.5 and 4.6, I will consider friendshipâs contribution to the moral life and its role in rational deliberation.