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" Bisexuality is about three centuries overdue... nevertheless, here it is: a learned, witty study of how our curious culture has managed to get everything wrong about sex."
-Gore Vidal
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P a r t 1 B i Ways
Culture, Politics, History
C h a p t e r 1
Bi Words
Lots of people think that bisexual means cowardly lesbian.
âThe Advocate, interview with Sandra Bernhardâ2
Homosexuality was invented by a straight world dealing with its own bisexuality.
âKate Millett, Flying2
Switch-hitter. Swings both ways. Fence-sitter. AC/DC. These and other once-colorful epithets have been frequently used to describe bisexuality in this century. Whether taken from baseball or from electricity, such terms suggest versatility: a batter who switch-hits often has a better chance of getting to first baseâanother phrase that has taken on a distinctly sexual tinge in modern times. The New Dictionary of American Slang is more specific than any teenager of my adolescence: to âget to first baseâ involves hugging, kissing, caressing, and so on; to âget to third baseâ means âtouching and toying with the genitalsâ; and to âget to home plate,â or to âscore,â means âto do the sex actâ2âassuming, it seems, that there is only one ârealâ sex act to do.
Switch-hitters, I remember from my days as a Mickey Mantle fan, were as often made as born. To learn to âswing both waysâ meant practice and discipline, not just natural talent. Certainly there was nothing suspect about them; they represented a double strength because they maximized their own potential as athletes and strategists. You wanted switch-hitters in your lineup even if by swinging from one side rather than the other the hitter sacrificed a little raw power for artifice and skill.
One of the contributors to the bisexual feminist anthologies Closer to Home and Bi Any Other Name describes herself as âa nine-time San Francisco Advertising Softball League all-starâ who ârather likes the designation âswitch-hitter.â â2 The newsletter of the Boston Bisexual Womenâs Network included a list of âFamous Switch-Hittersâ (culled, interestingly, from a published book of Lesbian Lists2) that included Lady Emma Hamilton (âthe mistress of both Queen Maria Caroline of Naples and Admiral Nelsonâ), Natasha Rambova (âwife of silent-screen heartthrob Rudolph Valentino, and sometime lover of [director] Alia Nazimovaâ), and Edith Lees Ellis, the wife of Havelock Ellis. (Who says feminists donât have a sense of humor?) Switch Hitter is also the name of a Cambridge-based âzine for bi men and women. Itâs clear from these wry appropriations, though, that âswitch-hitterâ in a sexual context has not been an automatic term of praise or pleasure.
What about AC/DC, a term used in the past, somewhat disparagingly, to suggest either a failure of sex and gender type or a wishy-washiness about sexual orientation (âhe seemed a little AC/DC to meâ). Again, itâs worth wondering how versatility and adaptability became such bad things. An appliance that works on both alternating current (AC) and direct current (DC) sounds handy, to say the least. Hereâs what Brewerâs Dictionary of Twentieth-Century Phrase and Fable says about it: â[T]he expression originated in America by analogy with electrical devices adaptable for either alternating or direct current. It became popular in the UK during the 1960s and early 1970s.â Brewerâs thinks this term may be related to âthe sexual imagery of electricityâ in the âtradition of âmaleâ and âfemaleâ connectors in wiring.â2 Plug it in anywhere, and it works.
So on the one hand we have American ingenuity and know-how, and indeed American sporting competitiveness. (Basketball, hockey, and tennis players also work to cultivate their even-handedness.) On the other we have resistance and reticence, sometimes even recoil and repugnance, at the idea that sexual versatility could include the widest range of consensual partners and pleasures. Sex isnât supposed to be an invention, or a sport, or a labor-saving device.
Is it a sensory indulgence, like âhaving your cake and eating it, tooââ yet another phrase that, with its variants, is often applied to the perceived situation of bisexuals? One bisexual woman in a committed monogamous relationship with another woman reports that her partner âfelt that choosing a bisexual identity meant that I was declaring my sexual ambiguityâ my need to have my cake and eat it, too.â2 What does this maxim mean? Is it the same as âhaving it both waysâ? I donât think so. To have it both ways is to have this and that. A married man who also has sex with men or boys could be said to âhave it both ways,â whether or not that phrase was understood in its most limited anatomical sense. But is he âhaving his cake and eating it, tooâ? Who, or what, is the cake here? Here thereâs a kind of cultural static interference, the original phrase having crossed wires somewhere along the way with âputting the icing on the cake,â which means wrapping up a victory beyond doubt, perfecting it, adding the finishing touches.
Is bisexuality the âicing on the cakeâ of homosexuality? Of heterosexual-ity? Or is bisexual living and loving the icing on the cake of bisexual feelings, bisexual desire?
The âhaving your cakeâ phrase is often understood to have a kind of economic subtext: âyou cannot spend your money and yet keep it,â one reference book translates rather flatly, offering the additional, and seemingly contradictory analogy, âYe cannot serve God and Mammonâ (Matthew 6:24; Luke 16:13). The combination of the two seems to align God with spending and Mammon with keeping riches, in defiance of the usual assignment of spheres of influence to those competing authorities.
I have always thought âhaving your cake and eating it, tooâ meant not only a failure to save and ration pleasure but also a related gluttony or absence of reserve. If the stereotypical bisexual man with a wife and some male lovers on the side is treating his wife like surety or security and his lovers as pleasure, then maybe he is having his cake etcetera. That appears to be the point of the phrase when hurled, a little awkwardly (like a custard pie in the face?) as an epithet.
But most bisexuals, needless to say, do not think of themselves as âhaving it allâ in the sense of an easy life. Many describe their isolation or ostracization from the gay or queer community, and their sense of apartness from the world of âheterosexual privilegeâ in which many gays and lesbians have thought them to be seeking refuge. If âhaving it allâ and âhaving things both waysâ imply repletion and total satisfaction even in the face of contradiction, âhaving your cake and eating it, too,â with its tacit monitory prefix (âyou canât haveâŚâ) suggests that retribution, whether from individuals or from society as a whole, is somehow on its way. (So there.)
I suspect that some of the animosity toward bisexuals, what the bi movement has come to call âbiphobia,â is based upon a puritanical idea that no one should âhave it all.â âChoice,â itself a contested word in some queer circles, is taken to imply choosing against, as well as choosing with âânot choosingâ something as a way of choosing something else. And politically speaking, choosing a person rather than a label or category is often seen as denial rather than acceptance. Especially for those who feel they have âno choiceâ about their sexuality.
Whatâs in a Name?
It is my opinion that while the word bisexual may have its uses as an adjective,⌠it is not only useless but mendacious when used as a noun.
âJohn Malone, Straight Women/Gay Men2
My feeling is that labels are for canned foodâŚ. I am what I amâand I know what I am.
âR.E.M.âs Michael Stipe, discussing âthe whole queer-straight-bi thingâ in Rolling Stone2
One thing that just about everyone agrees on is that âbisexualâ is a problematic word. To the disapproving or the disinclined it connotes promiscuity, immaturity, or wishy-washiness. To some lesbians and gay men it says âpassing,â âfalse consciousness,â and a desire for âheterosexual privilege.â To psychologists it may suggest adjustment problems; to psychoanalysts an unresolved Oedipus complex; to anthropologists, the narrowness of a Western (Judeo-Christian) world view. Rock stars regard it as a dimension of the performing self. Depending on the cultural context it can make (Mick Jagger, David Bowie, Sandra Bernhard) or break (preacher Jim Bakker; congressman Robert Bauman; even briefly, tennis star Billie Jean King) a career.
Talk-show hosts are convinced that âbisexualityâ is a cover for unbridled lust, or what bisexual activists prefer to call ânonmonogamy.â Never mind that monosexuals, straight and gay, have practiced enthusiastic nonmonogamy for centuries.
âBack-formationâ is a term from linguistics that describes the way words and concepts can be constituted retroactively, providing what is in effect a false pedigree in the form of a putative etymology. Strictly speaking, a back-formation is a new word created by removing a prefix or a suffix (or what is thought to be a prefix or a suffix) from an already existing word; thus our singular âpeaâ comes from subtracting the âsâ from the earlier English plural, pease, and the modern slang âept,â rather than the more literally correct âapt,â is created by removing the prefix from âinept.â This looks harmless enough, but it soon enters the realm of the political by way of an authenticating gesture toward origins. The logic of apparent priorityâthe illusion of priority produced by back-formationâcreates a hierarchy of the ânatural,â the ânormal,â or the âoriginal.â
What does back-formation have to do with bisexuality? In the broadest and most general sense, it explains why many people regard the âbisexualâ as a variantâand often a perverse or self-indulgent variantâof the more ânormalâ practice of heterosexuality, rather than viewing heterosex-uality (or, indeed, homosexuality) as a specific personal or cultural option within a broader field that could be called simply âsexuality.â Historically speaking, the word âheterosexualâ is a back-formation from âhomosexual.â Before people began to speak of âhomosexualsâ as a kind of person, a social species, there was no need for a term like âheterosexualâ (literally, sexually oriented toward the [or an] other sex). Both words date in English from around the turn of the century. Neither appears in the first edition of the Oxford English Dictionary, the standard reference work, begun in 1879 and completed in 1928. Each makes its first appearance in the Supplement.
In English, then, the word âhomosexualâ dates from around 1897, when the sexologist Havelock Ellis introduced it in his Studies in the Psychology of Sex as a coinage of his fellow Victorian sex-writer and Eastern traveler Richard Burton. â âHomosexualâ is a barbarously hybrid word,â wrote Ellis, âand I take no responsibility for it.â Ellis preferred other, less âhybridâ terms, like âsexual inversion,â based upon a notion of congenital and inborn sexual disposition toward persons of oneâs own sex. He regarded sex as a positive force in human life, whether it took the form of masturbation, oral sex, intercourse, or a variety of other sexual pleasures. Himself married to a bisexual woman, Ellis proposed âtrial marriagesâ before partners made lasting commitments to each other, recognized the pleasures of variety in sexual partners, and offered a critique of the institution of marriage, which he called ârather⌠a tragic condition than a happy condition.â
His deprecation of the new word âhomosexualâ does not reflect a negative attitude toward homosexual behavior, but rather a classically trained scholarâs resistance to blending Greek (homo, same) and Latin (sexus) roots. But the resistance, however philological, is worthy of note. A question of authenticity and origins is being raised here; the naturalizing of the term âhomosexualâ is made more difficult by its problematical parentage âa parentage which, significantly, is âheteroâ rather than âhomo.â (This is made even more problematic by the apparent homology between the Greek adjective homos, meaning âsameâ and the Latin noun homo, meaning âman, human being.â The false etymology âman-loverâ or âdesirer of menâ crosses the âtrueâ etymology of âlover or desirer of the same [sex].â The term âhetâ for a heterosexual person, now in common use among gays, lesbians, queers, and biâs, is yet another example of a back-formation, this one troped on âhomo,â a disparaging term for a gay or homosexual person. (Quentin Crisp, for example, referred to himself as having become a national institution, one of the âstately homos of England.â) For a person who regards himself or herself as part of the mainstream, âhetâ is a reminder of the way in which the familiar can be defamiliarized, the unmarked term become marked, the âself turned into someone elseâs âother.â
âHeterosexualityâ is, in a way, begotten as a term by its elder sibling, âhomosexuality.â In fact, the first definition in the Oxford English Dictionary betrays some of this anxiety of origin. âPertaining to or characterized by the normal relation of the sexes,â it says, begging the question of the ânormal.â âOpposite to homosexualâ.â And then, immediately, âSometimes misapplied, as in quote 1901,â the first recorded use of the term, in Dor-landâs Medical Dictionary. InDorland, âheterosexualityâ is defined as an âabnormal or perverted sexual appetite towards the opposite sex.â This is, indeed, we might say, a âmisapplicationâ if the standard definition posits, without specifying, a ânormalâ relation âof the sexes.â But what significance might there be in the fact that not only does âhomosexualityâ precede âheterosexuality,â but the âabnormalâ practice of something called âheterosexualityâ precedes its usage in the language as a term for a ânormal relation o...
Table of contents
- Cover Page
- Praise for Bisexuality
- Title Page
- Copyright Page
- Dedication
- Acknowledgments
- Contents
- Introduction Vice Versa
- Part I Bi Ways Culture, Politics, History
- Part II Bi-ology Science, Psychoanalysis, Psychomythology
- Part III Bi Laws Institutions of âNormal Sexâ
- Part IV Bi Sex The Erotics of the Third
- Notes
- Index
- Permissions
- Photo Credits