Case example: Jim
Jim, a 36-year-old construction worker, was referred by his GP for therapy for depression; he also mentioned a recent violent outburst that was concerning Jim.
Jim appeared cold and distant and avoided eye contact as he walked into his first session with his therapist, Mira. She noticed herself feeling a little on edge. When she asked him what had led him to see his GP he looked at the floor and told Mira in an irritated tone that something had happened with his girlfriend, Sarah, and said âI know sheâs going to leave me, I just know it. If that happens I may as well end it all.â He said he didnât know why he was there and that âtalking to you isnât going to get Sarah to stay with me.â Mira reflected, âYouâre feeling hopeless.â Jim snapped back, âNo, it is hopeless.â Mira noticed a slight pang of feeling attacked but girded her empathy, reflecting, âSo whatâs the point of being here?â Jim responded, âYep.â
Mira then enquired, âWhat is it like for you being here with me in this room?â He said, âuncomfortableâ and started to fidget. âIâve never seen the point of talking about this kind of stuff.â His face flushed, suggesting shame. âMakes me feel pathetic, weak.â Mira responded, âWell I donât think youâre pathetic or weak. Itâs clearly taken a lot of courage to come here.â
Mira sensed that he might need a bit more help to feel back in control and to regain a sense of self-esteem; it concerned her that his apparent level of discomfort might discourage him from returning for a second session. She commented on how he clearly cared a lot for Sarah and guessed he regretted the argument. He started to open up further, sharing that she was getting fed up of him being miserable â âand who can blame herâ â and thought she was seeing someone else. He said he prided himself on not letting emotions get the better of him but had âblown itâ the other week. On his way home from work he had noticed her car outside a pub; she had said she was going to her mumâs that afternoon. When she got home later, he accused her of having an affair, grabbed her phone and smashed it. At this point in the session, he put his head in his hands. Mira said, âYou look pretty upset about that. Iâm wondering what youâre feeling right now?â He replied, âThat bloody phone cost over ÂŁ500 to replace!â Mira noticed feeling pushed back by his deflection from her question and his annoyed tone. She paused, reflecting that his anger seemed to be directed at himself, and asked, âSounds like youâre pretty annoyed at yourself for what you did?â He replied, âHow could I have done something so stupid â what is wrong with me? She was only at the pub to drop off a birthday card to her friend.â
Mira went on to ask more about his relationship with Sarah. Mira heard how she complains that heâs emotionally âcut offâ and that while she is lovely, he doesnât put it past her that she will âscrew me overâ, as previous girlfriends and his ex-wife have done. He also said that it was Sarah who told him he needed to get help after the incident, otherwise she would leave him â but that she hadnât moved out from where they live together and recently had told him she loved him.
Mira asked what he had meant earlier when heâd said he âmay as well end it allâ if Sarah left him. He said he just couldnât bear living with another failure, another rejection and being on his own again. He hadnât made specific plans, and wouldnât do it while his mum was still alive but did think about the high bridge nearby that was nicknamed âSuicide Bridgeâ.
Before the session ended, Mira shared with Jim, âI can see that you feel terrible about what youâve done and keep having a go at yourself for it as well as being afraid that Sarah will leave you. I know that youâre really uncomfortable talking about these things but Iâd like to help you feel less rough, help you understand what led to your outburst, get a kinder view of yourself and develop other ways of dealing with moments like those. You clearly care deeply about Sarah but feel insecure about the relationship. I know you think differently right now, but it sounds to me like she wants to make it work and I think I can help with that. What do you feel about giving this a try and seeing me again?â
He agreed to âgive it a goâ.
In the early sessions there are many layers to your therapeutic work. In the exerpt above, for example, Mira is attempting to create a safe setting for Jim to open up and self-reflect, to engender hope, managing her own feelings and also aiming to formulate the nature of his difficulties at a more cognitive level.
Distinctive features of assessment in Schema Therapy
An assessment interview in Schema Therapy has similarities to a standard clinical interview. A key difference, however, is that whatever you ask, be it about goals for therapy, their history or any previous therapy, you aim to discover their unmet emotional and relational needs and the origins and current expressions of their schemas and modes. You then explore together what is needed to engender desired changes. Identifying unmet needs will also indicate to you the particular qualities of your limited reparenting that will enable healing.
You will more readily help your patient to piece together relevant parts of their âpuzzleâ if you have a good understanding of core needs and are familiar with the 18 maladaptive schemas (Young et al., 2003, pp. 14â17) and prototypical schema modes (see Bernstein and colleaguesâ helpful descriptions (Van den Broek et al., 2011) and Breaking Negative Thinking Patterns (Jacob et al., 2015)).
As your patient shares with you, pay particular attention to emotions they mention (for example, fear, loneliness, frustration) or show in their face or body (for example, looking down or bouncing their foot) as these often provide a window to their âVulnerable Childâ mode. Listen for explicit or implicit negative, self-directed messages, including demands or criticisms, which could express the messages of an inner âtoxic parentâ mode. Notice the qualities of their interactions with you and how these have an impact on how you feel, in order to help discern possible âcoping modesâ, such as self-aggrandisement, excessive compliance or emotional detachment. Finally, attend to signs of your patientâs âHealthy Adultâ, including strengths6 â such as creativity or courage â and interests they pursue, which can give rise to meaningful metaphors and playful interaction between you and the patient.
Imagery for assessment is a powerful experiential technique used in Schema Therapy to deepen your and your patientâs understanding of the impact of key childhood experiences, the nature of their unmet needs, related schemas and modes and their origins. This method is detailed in Chapter 2, and so will not be described here.
As Mira reflected on Jimâs first session, she hypothesised the following schemas and modes and, thus, began formulating even at this early stage.
Jimâs averted eye contact, blushing, sense of being weak and his idea that Sarah couldnât be blamed for being fed up with him, all suggested to Mira a Defectiveness/Shame schema. She hypothesised a Punitive Parent mode, knowing that this typically accompanies this schema and delivers shaming messages. This was consistent with Jimâs implied self-talk: âYouâre pathetic and weakâ; âNo wonder Sarah wouldnât want to be with youâ; âWhat is wrong with you?â She noted that Jim is likely to feel shame in his Little Side, which would, in all likelihood, believe these messages, as a child would believe what they are told by a parent.
Jimâs prediction that Sarah would leave him suggested to Mira a possible Abandonment schema. His idea that she was being unfaithful, as previous partners h...