Virginia Satir and Body-Mind-Soul
Barbara Jo Brothers
SUMMARY. Featured are excerpts from several edited, transcribed lectures, from 1972ā1987, by Virginia Satir on the relationship between body, mind, and soul. The excerpts are woven together with comments, explications, and clarification by the author.
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Virginia Satir was about wholeness. Never one dimensional, she always included the body āin the equationā when training, treating, or educating human beings. Virginia considered the specific body-mind-soul of a given person to be one entity. A person is a āmanifestation of Lifeā (Satir, 1987, tape 5) and, by definition, a sacred embodiment. She observed that matters of the spirit also have a direct relationship to styles of interaction. In her work with people, she would aim to stay tuned, at all times, to the three-in-one in herself as well as in the clients and trainees.
Connecting Body and Soul
Universal Personal Resources
Making the connection between spirituality and sensuality-joining body and soul, if you will-Virginia (1983)1 addresses what constitutes āself.ā The following excerpt comes after discussion of the role of the senses, under the heading āUniversal Personal Resources.ā She is drawing a āSelf Mandalaā on the blackboard. She says:
Now in the center I want you to make a circle and in that center I want you to write āI.ā This is all personal, there isnāt anything else that isnāt personal. Have you ever been aware that there is nothing impersonal in life? Everything is personal; it has to be. So let us forget that nonsense about being personal or impersonal; there isnāt any such thing. If Iām doing it, Iām doing it; thatās me and thatās personal.
That is āI.ā And I want to write the word on the top: āsacred.ā And on the bottom I want to write: āholyā-and on one side I want to write: ācosmic jokeā and on the other side: ācosmic event.ā (Banmen and Satir, 1983, pp. 241ā242)
She goes on about the body, saying:
Now every āIā ... sits in a temple. And that temple, a place for the āIā to live, is a body. You can call it anything you want but I call [it] the temple-the body. It houses that āI,ā that sacred, holy, cosmic event and joke, which you are and I am-different things at different times. So everything physical would be in that, all the things we talk about as physical. . . . (Banmen and Satir, 1983, p. 242)
She goes on to say:
The holes that we have we call the senses, but I would like you to see or hear, āSenseā and think, āHoleā-and when you think āhole,ā you think something moving back and forth. Something moving out, something moving in. And without these holes we cannot live. We cannot live. . . . Each of those holes is capable of putting something out and taking something in. [They are] the literal channels for taking in and giving out. (1983, p. 244)
Connecting Mind and Heart
Connecting mind and heart, Virginia explains the distinction between the cognitive message and the affective message:
The cognitive comes from a totally different place than the affective. The cognitive is that which is made up of the āshoulds,ā the āoughtsā and intellectual output. . . . The affective is the body thermometer ... it is the active manifestation of what is going on in the body. (1987, tape 5)
Profound problems are often created when a given Sam or Sally Jonesā cognitive message doesnāt match his/her affective message-when a person is feeling one thing and saying another.
... it is possible for these two messages to be split. Cognitive goes this way and the affective goes that way. When we have that, we have what is called an āincongruent message,ā meaning that the words and the rest donāt match. (1987, tape 5)
Virginia spoke of the power of inhuman system rules, dysfunctional rules taught by parents to children. She set up an exercise to demonstrate the potentially destructive effect of āI must never lieā as a cognitive message:
āI can never lie.ā What did your body feel like [during this demonstration]?
āNonsense.ā
Okay, but what is a nonsense feeling?
āItās not true.ā
It is an untruth and our bodies love truth. (Satir, 1987, tape 5)
Using the participantsā sensual reaction to the demonstration, Virginia has pointed out the way body reacts to thought and feeling:
How people convey things back and forth: the [definition] I give communication. I think that is a relatively easy definition: communication is the giving and receiving of information between two people. Thatās how it always goes. It is just giving and receiving information. When somebody coughs, what kind of information does the other one receive? Just ask yourself that. If you go beyond words and think about it, when you cross your legs, or you uncross your legs, or lift your head, or say āpoof,ā or your skin color changes, or you get a lump some place, no matter what, all of that is communication. The giving and receiving of information. (1987, tape 5)
Virginia makes the point that physical symptoms are a message from the bodied aspect of the self.
These are her observations about the influence of thought and feeling on body and vice versa.
I watched people, thousands of them. I have told you that Iām fifty-one years in the field this year, so you can imagine how many different interactions I have seen over time. Lots and lots and lots of them. At a certain point . . . one day a grid appeared to me ... I saw that the communication that was related to dysfunctional behavior was related to people not enjoying their lives and was one of these four forms. (1987, tape 5)2
Particularly in the beginning years of Virginiaās professional career, circa 1948, therapy focused on the cognitive almost exclusively. Gestalt therapy was born later. Psychodrama was born even later. She goes on to say:
In information, there is (1) cognitive information, there is (2) emotional information, and there is (3) sensual information. What Ernie [Rossi] talks about in his book [on the psychobiology of healing] is that when the information from the endocrine system, the neurological system and the immune system donāt find coding ways to connect with each other, they have to separate. In the Western world we have given most of our attention to cognitive information. We read it in a book, we see the words, and the words make the images, but reading it in a book doesnāt show how the person is feeling or thinking or how they are gesturing or how they are breathing ... so it is a totally different thing when we put it into a human context.
I want to give you just enough so that we get a good context for this. If you will remember, when I use information, it is on all levels ... It is not about just giving words. (Satir, 1987, tape 5)
Most of our culture is not tuned in on the psychological level to that emotional information Virginia is talking about. And that is the vital difference. Blocking awareness of emotional information blocks awareness of our nature as whole beings. It also prepares the way for atrocities such as terrorist bombings and the tragedy at Waco at the Branch Davidian compound. All parties involved were focused on their respective causes, regardless of cost to the literal human beings involved.
Blocking that emotional information is a major obstacle to serious movement toward peace on any level-individual, family, or world. If I donāt care how I feel or how you feel, I can do any sort of thing for a principle. That is where the inhumanity comes in-devotion to the cause above the effect on the human beings. Blocking or minimizing that emotional information is what people do when they take the super-reasonable stance3 in communication. The person is, at such a point, trying to cope with the stress of feeling unworthy by simply blocking feeling: you canāt feel bad about yourself if you are not feeling at all.
As I have said in other places (Brothers, 1987,1989, pace Virginia Satir), a body also pays a high price for muting such information. It trains the glands to not perform their normal function simply by continually restraining their output-in Virginiaās more colorful words, there being āa juice for every emotion.ā If the emotions donāt flow, the ājuicesā donāt flow.
Good therapists know the cognitive must not be emphasized at the expense of the affective. Virginia makes the connection between affect and the body:
To finish this, Iām going to put it into an interactional frame. Here is the cognitive and the affective. That brings out the message, Then, somebody over here is receiving that message. Bear in mind that when somebodyās cognitive message and affective message arenāt together, they are coming from two different places. The cognitive comes from a totally different place than the affective. The cognitive is that which is made up of the āshoulds,ā the āoughtsā and intellectual output, so to speak. The brain is very capable of doing all kinds of wonderful things all by itself. The affective is the body thermometer. Remember that the body is the thermometer and it is the active manifestation of what is going on in the body [body/mind/soul system].
. . . Cognitive, in a way, is a āshouldā message and you can say that the affective is the āendā message. When I do the pull out here, I put the affective message on one side and the cognitive on the other. [Then] you can say that it is thought and feeling that donāt go together. (Satir, 1987, tape 5)
Virginiaās point is that, whatever a person says with words-whatever lie they tell either to self or to others-the truth in regard to affect will show in the body. I can ādo cognitiveā however I want to, but there is always the flow of the affective underneath the verbiage. However metaphorical the ādials and gauges,ā the body measures and displays feelings. If one is conscious in regard to oneās interior processes, the feelings can be verbalized-and one can cry or sweat or blush. If the feelings are not conscious, not in awareness, the body still registers them-still quivers, gurgles, and crackles the chemistry and the electromagnetism. The therapist who has trained herself to watch the body of herself and of the other can see bodily manifestations and help bring them to the awareness of the other.
To spare clients the disrespect of āinterpretation,ā Virginia was meticulously careful to only describe what she saw, then maybe inquire as to its meaning: āI see your eyebrows knit together right now. Are you aware of that?ā Often all that was necessary was for her to just notice the body behavior and draw it to the personās attention. Usually, the person would then become aware of feeling angry or feeling puzzledāor whatever feeling went with the eyebrows.
Talking about cognition and affect was preliminary to Virginiaās making her explanation of the need for one of her major vehicles4āFamily Reconstruction.
This [parent-child interaction] is where, I think, we learned about feeling. Affect is about feeling. Cognition is about the intellect. The mother, who cannot herself stand the idea that she is feeling afraid or that she is feeling guilty, whatever it is [that she is feeling], has to say to the child, āIt isnāt true what you see.ā Everyone of us . . . with very few exceptions, got this experience from our parents. The reason for it was not because they wanted to hurt us, but because the cognitive part of what they āshould beā didnāt match the way they felt. Then, the child tries to make sense out of this.
This is where we come into the [family] reconstruction business. You can [then] understand how come you got such crazy messages. You couldnāt find out what was going on. It was because the āshouldā of a person in your parent wasnāt equal in their mind or [wasnāt] available [so] that they could openly say where they were. They couldnāt say they were afraid. They couldnāt say they felt hurt or whatever it was. They had to do the defensive reaction.
When you can get no validation cognitively or affectively, two people cannot communicate this way. Itās confusing, and the kid in us doesnāt comprehend and thatās where schizophren...