Summary
Introduction
A 1993 yachting jaunt off Marthaâs Vineyard hosted by Jackie Kennedy Onassis for President Bill Clinton and First Lady Hillary Clinton captures the dynamics between past and present presidential spouses. When Hillary balked at jumping from a high diving board, and Bill and the Kennedy menfolk present goaded her on as she stood frozen, JFKâs widow cried out: âDonât do it! Just because theyâre daring you, you donât have to!â Hillary heeded her predecessorâs urging.
Despite the countless campaign stops, official appearances, photographs, and news stories that thrust Americaâs First Ladies into the spotlight, little effort has been devoted by journalists, historians, or the public to truly understanding the inner workings of these women. Theyâre not the picture-perfect images theyâre shoehorned into representingâbut, Andersen Brower contends, thatâs why itâs fascinating to get to know them.
Need to Know: The ten First Ladies to hold the title between 1961 and 2017 may have little to nothing in commonâexcept strong and complex personalitiesâbut they have forged deep bonds due to their unique shared experience. Though bearing the mantle of First Lady makes each of them an iconic figure, the expectations of these women are ill-defined at bestâand wildly unrealistic at worstâand each has had to blaze her own trail as a spouse, parent, and public figure.
I. The Political Wife
Each First Lady has entered and experienced the White House under very different circumstances. Jackie, a youthful and glamorous figure, put her own stamp on the mansionâs dĂ©cor and proudly showed it off in a groundbreaking TV tour. By the time Lady Bird Johnson assumed the role, Jackie was a starâher shoes would have been hard to fill even if John F. Kennedyâs assassination had not overshadowed Lyndon B. Johnsonâs ascension to the presidency.
Pat Nixon had steeled herself to the ups and downs of her husbandâs long political career, but her âplasticâ facade finally cracked during their ignominious exit from the storied residence. Successor Betty Ford was intimidated by the role but gradually found her voice. Rosalynn Carter served as her husbandâs liaison to voters and heads of state alike.
Nancy Reagan quickly became a larger-than-life figure, thanks to the meticulous maintenance of her personal image in addition to that of the White House.
Her successor, Barbara Bush, was no stranger to the White House, having been married to George H. W. Bush, the two-term vice president under Ronald Reagan.
Hillary Clinton broke the First Lady mold with her outspoken involvement in her husbandâs administrationâarousing some ire from the press, the public, and the Republican Party by doing so. Laura Bush returned the image of the First Lady to a pure, doting presidential spouseâand Michelle Obama, too, hewed to a traditionally apolitical role as âmom-in-chief,â despite the fact that her status as the first African American First Lady was inherently groundbreaking.
Need to Know: Becoming the archetype of an American wife and mother is a weighty responsibility for First Ladiesânot least because they find themselves in that position without choosing it. Following along with their husbandsâ ambitions out of love, loyalty, and devotion, they find themselves living a confinedâand surrealâexistence in the ivory tower that is the White House. Perhaps the only common circumstances of the ten modern women profiled in First Women was the sense of claustrophobia and confinement, and the shock of adjusting to rigid protocol and lack of privacy, that came with inhabiting a house that did not feel like home.
The silver lining: While the powers of the First Lady are not officially defined, each woman who fills the role has a palpable influence on her husband, and, therefore, on the nation.
II. Sisterhood of 1600
It would be an understatement to say that the bonds between First Ladies cross political lines and that each outgoing First Lady is solicitous of her successor, with an intimate White House tour serving in lieu of the letter an outgoing president traditionally leaves for his replacement.
One touching moment occurred in 1971, when Pat Nixon secretly arranged for Jackie Kennedy and her children to visit the White House for a private unveiling of JFKâs and Jackieâs official portraits. Despite her bond with Lady Bird Johnson, a traumatized Jackie had adamantlyâthough graciouslyâpassed up previous offers to return to the house that held so many memories of her husband. But she and her children came away moved by and grateful for the chance to revisit their White House life.
Hillary Clinton, in turn, forged a bond with Jackie, taking her cues on how to raise an unspoiled child despite the rarefied privilege of growing up in the White House. Upon Jackieâs 1994 death from cancer, Hillary was publicly choked upâand one imagines she had a similar private reaction upon receiving a letter from JFK Jr. expressing how her relationship with his mother had enabled Jackie to âreconnectâ with the world of the White House.
Need to Know: Though most modern First Ladies found positive aspects of life in the White House, Michelle Obama, in particular, chafed at its protocol and at the disruption of her life and career. Disinclined toward politics, she fumed ov...