Focus: The Art of Clear Thinking

Valerie Pierce

• Publisher: Mercier Press
• Year: 2014
• ISBN:
  9781781172810
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

Focus is natural. We are born with an instinct to focus on exactly what we want and a very strong pair of lungs to help us to get it. Then, somewhere along the way, we begin to lose that focus. In the digital age we are bombarded with information from all angles and live our lives at such a breakneck pace that it sometimes seems that our lives are completely out of our control. In three easy steps this book teaches the reader how to regain control through the art of clear thinking: 1) FOCUS eliminate information overload 2) TRANSFORM negative thinking into positive action 3) THINK CLEARLY in the momentThe author shows how you can use this strategy to achieve your goals in work and in life.

Part 1
Focus: Why Bother?

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Beginning at the Source

I was four and a half years old when I learned to focus in the dark without being afraid.

Focus fights your Fears

I was six, almost seven years old, when I learned how exciting it felt to focus on challenging myself to succeed.

Focus is Fun

I was eight years old when my mother, who showed me these lessons, died … and it was at eight years of age that I realised, with the wonderful support of a strong and loving father, I could carry these lessons with me for the rest of my life.

Focus is Forever

Focus is natural: we are born with an instinct to focus on exactly what we want and a very strong pair of lungs to help us get it. Then, somewhere along the line, as we grow up and life gets complicated, many of us begin to lose that focus as we become overwhelmed by choice and information. We can lose that essential skill which we need to achieve what we want, when we want it.

The art of Clear Thinking is the skill to be able to see what you want and Focus is the ability to develop the strength of willpower, self-discipline and intellectual savvy to achieve it.

So how do we do this? Let me first tell you these stories from my early experiences by way of illustration, before we begin the task of learning what type of thinking techniques and skills you will use to achieve successful Focus.

Let’s start with the first story.

Focus fights your Fears

I remember as a small child being terrified to walk across a very large landing in our house in the dark, something that was necessary for me to do to get from my bedroom to the bathroom. To help me to overcome my night-time fear, my mother very gently and deliberately made me focus on each piece of furniture on that landing in daylight. We touched each item and noticed where they were positioned – the telephone table, the chair, the chest of drawers, etc. We also focused on the railing of the stairway and the two steps I had to walk over to reach the bathroom. Then, at night-time, with the light off, we went through the same routine of touching the same furniture and noticing the placement of all the items I would meet on my way to the bathroom.

Then in the dark, my mother asked me to focus on the fact that everything we touched and felt was exactly the same as it was when I could see it in daylight. ‘There, you see,’ I remember her saying. ‘Nothing has changed on this landing. Everything is the same, both in daylight and in the dark. If you are not afraid to walk through this landing in the daytime – and I know how much you love playing here with your friends – then there is no need to be afraid at night-time, because this space is exactly the same. The only thing that has changed here is you. It is your fears that are making you afraid, not the landing; there is nothing to be afraid of once you know your way. You know you can be safe.’

I remember those words always – there is nothing to be afraid of once you know your way, once you focus on your direction. Thinking clearly and with a solid focus on our goals helps us to achieve our desires.

Of course, as an adult, I realise I was no longer frightened in the dark because something had changed in that scenario – my perception of my situation. I now understand that in the daylight I felt in control as I could see where I was going; in the dark I lost that control because I could not. So Clear Focus and knowledge of where we are going helps control our emotions in a useful way – conversely, lack of focus and lack of direction can evoke destructive emotions, such as fear, that can hinder our way. The lesson is that there is no need to be frightened of your own perceptions. We can control our awareness, our beliefs and how we make sense of a situation, so that our thinking and feelings can work for us and not against us. The aim of this book is to show you how.

Focus is not always associated with hard work and tough feelings. It can also give us some of the greatest pleasures in our lives, and can be fun. By way of illustration let me tell you how I learned this at the tender age of almost seven years, with my second story of motherly wisdom.

Focus is Fun

I call this ‘The Story of the Stones’.

At the front of our house was a lovely gravelled garden. I remember as a child sitting on the window ledge enjoying the warmth of the sun while creating designs in the pebbles with my feet. It was one of my favourite places to sit and watch the world go by on our village square.

One day my mother began to play a little game with me: to see how long it took me to fill a small biscuit tin with pebbles. The idea was to put a stone into the box only whenever I overcame a particular challenge or ‘an act of self-denial’ as she called it. Looking back, this was an excellent way to teach a child ‘delayed gratification’, an essential requirement for success in adult life.

In fact you may well know the story of the ‘marshmallow’ experiment in the 1960s, in which scientists at Stanford University, USA, tested the willpower of a group of four-year-olds in the following experiment. Mischel and his colleagues presented the four-year-olds with a plate of treats such as marshmallows, saying that the researcher had to go out of the room for a few minutes. Each child was then given a simple choice: if s/he waited until the researcher returned, s/he could have two marshmallows. If s/he simply couldn’t wait, s/he could ring a bell and the researcher would come back immediately, but s/he would only be allowed one marshmallow.

The researchers discovered that those who were able to delay gratification at four years of age were more successful in later life because they had learned the life skill of developing their willpower to succeed in overcoming difficult tasks on the way to achieving their goals.1

My mother’s game was something similar and I loved it. Every day I couldn’t wait to put more pebbles in the box. I thought up loads of challenges and then ran through them with relish. I didn’t eat that bar of chocolate I so wanted. I ran errands when I didn’t want to. I helped around the house. I did anything that was a challenge for me just to win at the game of filling up the box with those little stones. I discovered in myself an intrinsic motivation to win and to reap the reward of my mother’s joy at recognising my achievement. By focusing on challenges and difficulties in this positive way, my mother was teaching me the value of being able to turn a negative or challenging situation into a good experience that produces positive actions.

Perhaps it is good to pause here and relate this thinking to the business organisations we work in today and to focus on the reason why ‘intrinsic motivation’ is thought to be one of the most essential components of a successful company.2 Where workers are intrinsically motivated to overcome challenges, and more importantly when they are recognised publicly by their immediate superiors for a job well done, businesses flourish.

To return to my childhood story, not only was this game of ‘filling the box with stones’ a good way of training my willpower to be a strong and flexible muscle for future challenges, it also showed me that I thrived on challenge. I learned that if I focused on a challenge in a certain way, as a game, I could win and enjoy winning, instead of becoming depressed over difficulties, and that problems could be overcome and not be overwhelming.

I realised that another important lesson of Focus is: it is not enough to know what you need to focus on to be successful, it is even more important to understand how you focus and how the way you focus can be very beneficial.

Focus is Forever

I have never forgotten these lessons from my mother. She died one year later, when I was eight years old, but thanks to being wrapped in the strength of a loving and giving father, I was able to sustain my interest in developing the skills of Clear Thinking and Focus to achieve success for both myself and others.

Over twenty-five years later, while studying for a PhD in philosophy, I created many of the techniques in this book. I now wish to offer these to you in a way and style that will make it easy to recognise your own innate abilities – perhaps learned from your parents or grandparents also – so that you can articulate them to achieve what it is you strive for at this point in your life.

Having Clear Focus means being able to think clearly from our desires to our decisions. But first we need to be able to answer the question: why do we find it so hard to focus?

1 H. N. Mischel and W. Mischel, ‘The Development of Children’s Knowledge of Self-control Strategies’, in Child Development 54, 1983, pp. 603−19.

2 T. Amabile, ‘How to Kill Creativity’, Harvard Business Review, September 1998, pp. 77–87.

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Why Do We Find It so Hard to Focus?

While born with the strong ability to focus clearly on what we need to survive as infants, very often as adults we find it difficult to know what to focus on in our lives and how to focus. Furthermore, even when we desperately want to achieve something, we often lose the focus that is so necessary for our success.

Why do we find it so hard to retain clear direction in what we do? We can all see that our fears and inability to work with difficulties can pull us down and outweigh our commitment to succeed. But do you notice that you can sometimes give up on what you want because, perhaps, you simply believe you can’t get it? Or you might just tell yourself that you don’t really want to achieve your goal. So belief and genuine need are two qualities which are necessary to help us remain focused on what we want.

I am going to concentrate on the kind of Clear-Thinking skills that we need to achieve Focus and I am going to take it for granted that you will bring these two qualities of yo...

Table of contents

• Part 1 Focus: Why Bother?
• Part 2: Applying the Model
• Answers to Quizzes
• Acknowledgements
• Practical Assistance and Follow-Up
• Also available from Mercier Press
• About the Author
• About the Publisher