Manifesting Your Best Future Self

Building Adaptive Resilience

Peter Gruenewald

• Publisher: Adaptive Resilience Ltd
• Year: 2020
• ISBN:
  9781513666396
• Edition: 1
• Topic: Personal Development
• Subtopic: Self Improvement

It's easy to feel daunted by life circumstances such as the COVID-19 pandemic, and by the personal, professional, and financial challenges that are arising from it. Unhealthy levels of stress have become widespread, resulting in physical and emotional health problems such as impaired immunity, weight problems, migraines, insomnia, hypertension, anxiety, irritability, and low mood.

This book introduces a highly effective approach that helps you trade tension, fear, anxiety, anger, and sadness for love, appreciation, gratitude, and enthusiasm, even under pressure. Practicing these techniques can help you:

·Deal with challenges and stress effectively.

·Improve relationships at work and at home.

·Develop more resilience and resist burnout and extreme stress.

·Improve your well-being, health, and performance, even during crisis, challenges, or continual change.

You'll notice a difference within days.

Over decades of clinical experience as a family doctor, integrated physician and resilience trainer, Dr. Gruenewald has seen the lives of his patients and clients enhanced by regular practice of these simple techniques. Dedicating just a short time each day to one or two of these exercises can have surprising benefits and lead to greater fulfillment in every realm of life.

This book is an essential read for everyone who wants to take hold of their physical and emotional health and their destiny in challenging times.

Copyright © 2020 Dr Peter Gruenewald, MD

All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-5136-6640-2

Book and cover design by Madison Lux.

Edited by Hannah Skaggs.

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The training program provided in this manual is not a substitute for advice, treatment, or counseling from a registered health professional or therapist. A health professional or therapist should be consulted in the case of suspected physical or mental illness. The training is not a substitute for any intervention advised by your healthcare provider or therapist. If in doubt, always consult your healthcare provider or therapist.

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Contents

What Is Adaptive Resilience?

Exercise 1: Coherence Training

The Breath Pacer

Rescue Breath

Exercise 2: Quick Stress Relief

Exercise 3: In-Step Technique

Step 1: Review (Stepping out)

Step 2: Contemplation (Making sense)

Step 3: Mental rehearsal (Stepping in)

Exercise 4: A Courageous Conversation with Myself (Positive Self-Talk)

Strengthen Your Willpower and Attract Favorable Circumstances

Exercise 5: Mindful Nature Observation

Exercise 6: Active Listening

Exercise 7: Transforming Difficult Relationships

Addendum: Physiology and Psychology of Stress and Resilience

The Autonomic Nervous System

The Physiology of Engagement and Flow

Positive Emotions

Summary and Conclusion

About the Author

What Is Adaptive Resilience?

Adaptive resilience is about transforming raw emotions into higher feelings, building resilience, improving and protecting health, and enhancing performance and productivity.

TED speaker, psychologist, former management consultant, and teacher Angela Lee Duckworth wanted to know what makes people successful in this day and age. She studied people in various industries, from the military to students in spelling contests to teachers working in rough neighborhoods to executives in private companies. In all these different contexts, one trait emerged as a significant predictor of success. Duckworth said, “It wasn’t social intelligence, it wasn’t good looks, physical health, and it wasn’t IQ. It was grit. Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”1

No one is free from problems in life. Even if you can’t think of major obstacles, you’re bound to be challenged by the changes in your life, especially fast changes. We know grit is an important factor to succeed through change and challenges, and we see that it can be built by developing resilience skills and a “growth mindset.”2

Now, some of you may think, “But I don’t want to persevere to reach long-term goals. It’s too hard. I prefer to live life in the moment and take things as they happen.” Adaptive resilience is not just about being able to bounce back or press on despite obstacles, but the ability to prevent pitfalls and embrace problems in a flexible way, emerging with an even stronger balance.

Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csíkszentmihályi3 found that “flow states” (i.e., moments of being “in the zone”) are key to a person’s happiness.4 With adaptive resilience, you’ll find that life feels like neither a marathon nor a sprint, but a dance in which you are in the zone.

Stress, Health, and Performance

Most of us wish to be happy, fulfilled, and successful. Psychological studies have investigated character traits of those who, despite facing major challenges in life, consider themselves as having achieved these goals. The studies show that people are most resilient in the face of trouble if they can shift from the negative emotions experienced at times of crisis—such as anger, frustration, sadness, despair, and guilt—toward positive feelings such as forgiveness, compassion, self-compassion, appreciation, and gratitude.5,6

Emotional intelligence, one of the most import...

Table of contents

• What Is Adaptive Resilience?