Spirituality and Mental Health
Two Key Considerations for Seeking the Sacred Within
Considering the Spiritual Journey
Faith does not need to push the river precisely because it is able to trust that there is a river. The river is flowing; we are in it.1
âFr. Richard Rohr
âJust pick a box!â
A dear colleague looks at me in a virtual meeting as I try to find an answer that best fits the question, âWhatâs your religious affiliation?â My answerâCatholic, Protestant, Buddhist, None, whateverâwill help a part of the work weâre doing, and I think heâd like to hurry me along. But if Iâm honest, I donât think my spiritual journey neatly fits within any of these boxes. How can a lifetime of dynamic beliefs, experiences, practices, and even doubts fit within a tiny square?
Struggling to answer, my mind wanders to one of the richest conversations Iâve had on spirituality with a prominent social work scholar. As we walked together outside a conference hall in 2013, she asked about my dissertation research. I sensed her cautious curiosity as I explained that I was studying social workersâ attention to clientsâ spirituality in treatment. As we walked under the old trees on campus, she disclosed that she identified as atheist and shifted into a beautifully poetic explanation of her preference for the words wonder, awe, and beauty.
Listening to this academic draw on examples of what these words meant, I watched with deep curiosity as something tangibly shifted in her. Her whole being softened while simultaneously lighting up, and her voice became tender. For this academic, these termsâwonder, awe, beauty, mystery, presenceâtouched on something sacred within her and her connection with everything, which couldnât be ignored, corrected, or dismissed. And in that moment, I recognized the honor of holding vulnerable space to listen to what these words meant to this fellow image-bearer of God who didnât believe in God.
I return to the boxes, continue to contemplate them. Thereâs no option for âWonder.â Thereâs no option for âAweâ or âMysteryâ or even âSpiritual.â Instead, every option is hard and fast. I am either one religious tradition or another, and the rules donât allow me to check more than one box or add caveats to the side. It is an impossible task, so I simply choose âProtestantâ and move on.
Religion and Spirituality
The Latin root of spirituality, spiritus, means âbreath of life,â and Iâve loved Dr. Pargamentâs simple definition of spirituality over the years: âthe search for the sacred.â2 For the purpose of this book, I want to stretch this definition a bit further and define spirituality as follows: The experiential search of the mystical, sacred spark or image of God within that connects us to our truest selves, to one another, and to all that surrounds us. Spirituality, in other words, cultivates an inner sense of connection with the immanent and transcendent sacred love found in others and in all of creation.
My reference to the image of God within us is from Genesis 1:26â27 and reflects this idea of the sacred spark, which has been written across various mystical traditions. As Christian mystic Meister Eckhart notes, there is a âlight in the soul that is uncreated and uncreatable,â an essence within the soul that cannot be separated from God. Eckhart explains that our purpose in life is to discover this divine spark in our own hearts and then realize this spark is in all of life.3
Religion is quite different, although it has some overlap with spirituality when it comes to our emotions, thoughts, and experiences. As noted by social work professor and researcher Dr. Edward Canda, religion is a âsystematic pattern of values, beliefs, symbols, behaviors, and experiences that are oriented toward spiritual concerns shared by a community and transmitted over time in traditions.â4
For many of us, our spirituality brings us together and leads us to organize within certain religions. These religions attempt to guide us in our spiritual interactions. Put another way, spirituality is generally (and hopefully) the focus of religion, though that isnât always the case.
Another relevant term youâll see threaded in this book is faith. Professor and theologian Dr. James Fowler defines faith as âa generic feature of the human struggle to find and maintain meaning [that] may or may not find religious expression.â5 For many of us though, our faith is inherently connected to both religion and spirituality.
Just as we are biological, psychological, and social beings, we are also spiritual beings. As a result, similar to how we experience physical health, psychological health, and social health (relationships with friends, loved ones, and others) on a spectrum, we also experience spirituality on a spectrum of âhealth.â Like these other areas of our lives, spirituality can be neglected or cultivated, starved or strengthened, or change in ways beyond our control. Spirituality develops over time, not in a prescriptive, linear fashion but through complex and layered growth based on experiences, supports, resources, and needs.
Religious Affiliation, Beliefs, and Practices
As of 2015, three out of four adults in the United States consider religion to be important in their lives, with 71 percent identifying with a Christian tradition, 2 percent Jewish, and about 1 percent Muslim, 1 percent Buddhist, 1 percent Hindu, or 1 percent Other.6 About one in four are unaffiliated or not religious at all. Even within these categories, there are additional subgroups and blended belief systems.
These percentages and ways of organizing information help us generally understand where we are grouped in terms of our religious affiliation, but they do not capture the nuances within each groupâs or individualâs experiences, views, beliefs, and practices. One person may identify as Protestant and fiercely advocate for the recognition of same-sex marriage, while another Protestant might fiercely fight against the recognition of same-sex marriage. Both might cite their faith as the motivation for their advocacy. Meanwhile, a Catholic and a Buddhist may find more in common in their daily meditation practice than a Catholic and a Protestant, though the Catholic and Protestant both identify as Christian. Similarly, a Jewish rabbi and a Muslim imam may connect over discussions of mystical experiences and find authors from the otherâs religious tradition who help them grow closer to God in their own journey.
Put another way, just because two individuals identify with the same religious tradition doesnât mean their beliefs, practices, and interpretations of holy texts are the same. Likewise, just because two individuals identify with different religious traditions does not mean their spiritual beliefs and practices donât align, at least in some ways. We are complex beings, each on our own journey.
In addition, spirituality and religion can have a degree of fluidity and change as we age. In fact, nearly half of us donât identify with the religious tradition of our youth.7 And this doesnât take into account those who have left and returned to the tradition of their youth or those who are currently deconstructing and reconstructing their faith, even though they havenât yet jumped ship. Iâve experienced this firsthand. I grew up within the Catholic church, and my husband, Cory, grew up within the Church of Christ. Grateful as we are for the spiritual lessons we learned in our upbringing, over the course of our marriage weâve attended nondenominational, Nazarene, and Baptist churches. For us, the priority has always been connecting with fellow travelers within a local faith community that closely aligns with our values and honors where we currently are as a family along our faith journey.
These days, we hear a lot about religious affiliation numbers and the decline or growth of various denominations. And though those numbers might offer a snapshot of trends and how many members there are in each group, they can be reductionistic or overly simplistic. The data points fail to capture the depth, complexity, and nuance of each respondentâs spiritual journey.
In 2018, the General Social Survey reported that 78 percent of U.S. adults consider themselves to be religious and 89 percent identify as spiritual.8 A few years prior, the Pew Research Center reported that nine in ten believe in a higher power or God, and seven in ten believe in heaven.9 Roughly half of us feel a sense of spiritual well-being and wonder weekly.10 These and other data points indicate that although the U.S. population is still largely religious, there seems to be a shift toward spirituality. People may attend religious services less, but at least half of adults in the United States practice their faith by praying daily, a third read scripture weekly, and 40 percent meditate at least weekly.11 Even among those who consider themselves unaffiliated, atheist, or agnostic, three out of five believe in God, two out of five feel spiritual peace and well-being weekly, and one in five pray daily.12
These private and communal religious or spiritual practices are important to consider as we think about how we and those we care for lean on faith in times of joy and struggle.
The Spiritual Journey
Some philosophers, psychologists, and spiritual teachers have written about various stages of faith or spiritual movements in an effort to help us understand the complexity of our spiritual growth and development. Examples of these include Dr. James Fowlerâs Stages of Faith, Ken Wilberâs Integral Theory, Dr. Abraham Maslowâs Hierarchy of Needs (which later included self-transcendence), and Phileena Heuertzâs Pilgrimage of a Soul, among others.13 Each of these offers a robust examination of the shape of the spiritual life, which grows and develops like our bodies and minds. Each highlights the fact that the spiritual life requires care, attention, and practice, and sometimes progress is slow.
In his work, Dr. Fowler notes there are seven stages of faith, in which a person moves from the âinfancy and undifferentiatedâ stage to the âuniversalizing faithâ stage.14 Although aging plays an important role in biological and intellectual development, Fowler notes that progression through stages of faith doesnât happen automatically as we age. Whatâs more, the speed of navigating through each stage can vary, and people may remain in any stage for most if not all of their adult lives.
Spiritual director and teacher Phileena Heuertz makes a similar observation in her book Pilgrimage of a Soul. She highlights seven nonlinear stages of spiritualityâawakening, longing, darkness, death, transformation, intimacy, and unionâand notes:
Picture seven three-dimensional rings all interlocked. Each ring represents a movement or season in the soulâs development. During a process of formation, the soul moves throughout these rings at various times, in no particular order. The spiritual journey is more cyclical than linear. Each moment in a certain movement or ring provides a necessary experience for personal and spiritual growth and development. At times we may progress from one ring to another, only to find ourselves revisiting a former ring for a deeper work in our ever-expanding soul.15
Recognizing that this is a lifelong process, Heuertz explains, âWe continue in this cyclical pilgrimage until that final day when we will make our last passage from death to life and find ourselves in eternal, constant union with the One whom we have longed for since we took our first breath.â16
This spiritual journey requires time, patience, and a degree of commitment to the process. Just as the frontal lobe in our brain doesnât fully develop until around age twenty-five, and our hair doesnât naturally gray until later in life, it also takes time for our spiritual growth and development to unfold.
This ongoing journey might help us understand why it can be more difficult to make space for spiritual perspectives outside of our own when we are young or earlier along in ...