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Navigating Loss in Women's Contemporary Memoir
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Navigating Loss in Women's Contemporary Memoir traces the grief process through the lives of contemporary women writers to show how its complex, multi-layered nature can encourage us towards new understandings of loss.
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Life Writing and the Literature of Grief
In my analysis of grief and loss, I am concerned with bridging the gap between psychotherapy and literature in order to look at grief texts through a varied theoretical approach. I try to gather apparently disparate theories into a kind of theoretical prism, dispersed across narratives of loss to inform the study of grief in literature.
Freud and the standard model of grief
Freudâs 1917 essay, âMourning and Melancholiaâ is widely recognized as being âthe first to articulate a perspective on mourning as a private, interior psychological process having specific characteristics and dynamicsâ (Hagman 17). One of the main characteristics of mourning according to Freud is that we can ârest assured that after a lapse of time it will be over-comeâ (153). True, Freud concedes that the work of mourning is a very gradual process, âcarried out bit by bit, at great expense of time and energyâ (Freud qtd in Motte 59), but in his view (at least in âMourning and Melancholiaâ), the process is finite. Thus, as Didion discovers when she researches the professional literature, there are two kinds of grief: âThe preferred kind, the one associated with âgrowthâ and âdevelopment,â [is] âuncomplicated grief,â or ânormal bereavementââ; the other kind is âcomplicated grief . . . pathological bereavement,â which is classified as a disorder (48). The neat split begun by Freud between normal and pathological grief is especially apparent in studies outlining the stages of grief which share with Freud the assumption of recovery (although in new wave theories of grief, as we shall see, âcomplicatedâ grief is not always seen as pathological).
What Didion is describing is the standard model of grief in the professional literature since the 1950s, which discusses âcomplicatedâ and âuncomplicatedâ grief and focuses on resolving it. It is also dominated by âuniversal phases [of] recoveryâ which proved very popular (Neimeyer 2), one of the earliest being Elisabeth Kubler-Rossâs landmark study, published in 1969, which describes the stages through which the terminally ill pass in their movement towards death.1 The stages â Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance â and other common models after this remain very similar (such as Numbness, Yearning, Despair, Recovery) as summarized in Payne et al.:
For mourning to have a favourable outcome it appears to be necessary for a bereaved person to endure this buffeting of emotion. Only if he [sic] can tolerate the pining, the more or less conscious searching, the seemingly endless examination of how and why the loss occurred . . . can he come gradually to recognize and accept that the loss is in truth permanent and that his life must be shaped anew. (Bowlby qtd in Payne et al. 72)
The process is a painful one; many writers note that Freud refers to it as âwork,â a concept that has reappeared countless times since and has been incorporated into our everyday lingo: psychiatrists talk about âtasks of mourningâ; âto work through the pain of griefâ; and âto accept the reality of the lossâ (Payne et al. 75â6). Yet the outcome here is âfavourableâ; it ends in acceptance, adjustment, and moving on with life.
New wave theories of grief
New wave theories of grief important to my study of complex recovery have been developing since the early 1990s and emerged from criticisms of Freud and the standard model as failing to ârecognize the complexity and uniqueness of mourning experienceâ (Hagman 24).2 Therese A. Randoâs motivation for publishing Treatment for Complicated Mourning in 1993 was because information about complicated grief had not been collected or discussed at any length. Robert A. Neimeyerâs collection of essays in Meaning Reconstruction and the Experience of Loss showcases âa ânew waveâ of grief theoryâ that advocates âan appreciation of more complex patterns of adaptationâ (Neimeyer 3), and Thomas Attig, whose essay âRelearning the World: Making and Finding Meaningsâ appears in the collection, argues that âThe net effect will be to highlight and promote more appreciation of some of the rich and subtle complications of grievingâ (34). However, new wave theorists may risk smoothing over the complexity inherent in Freudâs grief process by concentrating on his emphasis on the favourable outcome (as opposed to melancholia) and the end of mourning.
Critiques of Freud and the standard/phase models that âassume that the final outcome of grieving will be a return to normal psychological and social functioningâ (Payne et al. 80) have led to equal and opposite reactions theorizing grief as a process that in fact never ends. Many new theories argue that âGrief may not . . . have a definite end point which marks recoveryâ (80); it cannot be âdescribed as a time bounded process consisting of phases, stages or tasks. . . . New models have been developed to account for the individuality and diversity of griefâ (87). In his book, How We Grieve: Relearning the World, Thomas Attig says phase models âwrongly suggest that we come to an end in our grieving as we either complete the stages or at last recover. In effect, they suggest that we can somehow finish coping with mysteryâ (45). In his article, âGrief That Does Not End,â Paul Rosenblatt agrees:
Would-be supporters of the bereaved often talk about getting over the grief and offer suggestions and help to facilitate achieving this goal . . . Research and personal experience have led this author to believe that many Americans grieving major losses will not ever reach a time when they completely stop grieving. The expectation that they can and should reach the end of their grief is based on a misunderstanding of normal grieving and does them a disservice. (Rosenblatt, 1993, 45)
The collection Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief, from which the above essay was taken, emphasizes the importance of an undisclosed lapse of time for the grieving process: âFreud described grief work as a process of hypercathecting each memory and hope connected to the deceased. By hypercathexis he meant a kind of emotional neutralizing of each memory and hope, not a forgettingâ (Rosenblatt, 1983, 53). Rosenblatt and others have explained that each memory of the deceased needs to be tested against the reality of his/her absence in order for the mourner to sever attachments and once again make new attachments to others. Their argument is, however, that because people do not remember memories all at once, it seems reasonable that grief work would continue for a long time as Rosenblatt suggests, even a lifetime (53). In his article, âBeyond Decathexis: Toward a New Psychoanalytic Understanding and Treatment of Mourning,â George Hagman says that âOnce we move beyond decathexisâ (24), which is âthe incremental divestment of libido . . . from memories of the lost objectâ (15), then âit becomes clear that there is no need to declare an expectable endpoint to mourning. From this new perspective a person may mourn for a lifetimeâ (24). Theories that contest Freud argue that âsome losses are so profound and life changing that the grief never completely ends,â that âonce we have lost, we always live to varying degrees in the presence of griefâ (Klass 1996a, 1999) (qtd in Hooyman and Kramer 8) and that âmourning is not something that can be finishedâ (Gaines qtd in Hagman 24).3
However, in focusing on the importance of a grief that never ends, new wave theorists risk paring Freudâs argument down to a single favourable outcome at the expense of what is in fact a very complex process. The major bone of contention for them comes largely from Freudâs assertion that the process is finite, and that âThe fact is . . . that when the work of mourning is completed, the ego becomes free and uninhibited againâ (Freud 154). New wave theorists successfully add to the complexity of grief by suggesting that the outcome itself cannot be squeezed into one sentence that Freud presents as âfact.â However, in doing so, they perhaps miss the opportunity for a much richer discussion of the âwork of mourningâ that grows out of Freudâs otherwise very brief and ambiguous description of the process itself.
The actual âwork of mourning,â reinterpreted by countless theorists since the appearance of Freudâs essay, would seem to revolve around one main sentence: âEach single one of the memories and hopes which bound the libido to the object is brought up and hyper-cathected, and the detachment of the libido from it is accomplishedâ (Freud 154). Beyond allowing that the process is âextraordinarily painful,â and ânot at all easy to explainâ (154), Freud does not say much more about it. On the one hand, this allows for rather simplistic interpretations of the process, such as Rosenblattâs (given above): âBy hypercathexis he meant a kind of emotional neutralizing of each memory and hope, not a forgettingâ (Rosenblatt 1983,,53). But on the other, it encourages much more complex interpretations because of its very ambiguity. If Rosenblatt is simplifying the process by describing it as an âemotional neutralising of . . . memory,â he is also gesturing towards its complexity by insisting that âthe work of mourningâ is not simply âa forgetting.â
In his book, Another Kind of Love, Christopher Craft makes more of this complexity and ambiguousness in arguing that âthe work of mourningâ is more accurately a âwork of rememberingâ that serves a âdouble or ambivalent functionâ because it essentially accomplishes two things at once, both a âbinding and an unbindingâ (60). When a mourner remembers a lost beloved, the deceased person is made present or, as Freud calls it, âpsychically prolonged,â somehow bound to the mourner; however, at the same time, through this very âlabour of remembering,â the mourner also achieves, in Freudâs words, a âdetachment of libidoâ by which he/she can be freed from the memory of the beloved (Craft 60). Thus, Craft shows there is much room for complexity in what Freud has left rather ambiguous; for Craft, Freud implies that âthe duplicitous work of mourningâ is ââto prolongâ in order to âdetach,â to give birth in order to killâ (60). What this translates to (as opposed to Rosenblattâs interpretation), is not only an âemotional neutralising,â but a much harsher âterminal forgettingâ (Craft 60) as the mourner becomes âfree and uninhibited againâ (Freud 154). Importantly, new wave theorists distinguish themselves from Freud in arguing that âthe work of mourningâ for them lies outside of the constraints of his theory precisely because mourning is never âcomplete.â However, perhaps equally importantly, we need to recognize the complexity behind the grief process in âMourning and Melancholiaâ and see it for the rich scope of interpretation it can offer in its very ambiguity.
Another way in which new wave theorists differ from Freud is in the belief that grief, though never-ending, is neither of âa pathological varietyâ (Freud 161). Critics like Kathleen Woodward âwant[] to clear those who continue grieving from the charge that their behavior is pathological. . . . We are not crippled if we will not be comforted. . . . Freudâs overly schematic portrait of the grieving psyche is contradicted by our common experience of a grief that, without ruining us, remains painfully immediateâ (qtd in Krasner 219). This is the subject of Allan V. Horitz and Jerome C. Wakefieldâs study, The Loss of Sadness, which argues that a current problem in psychoanalytical practice is that it does not allow for enough ânormal sadnessâ or ânondisordered sadnessâ (36) and instead rushes to diagnose the phenomena as a disorder. Hooyman and Kramer state that while there is a consensus that âproblematic griefâ exists, where the person does not âreturn to full or nearly functioningâ â also called âcomplicated griefâ (53) â they hasten to add, âwe strongly urge caution when using the term pathologicalâ (18) and that âthose who take longer than the normative period of grieving are not necessarily suffering from âchronic or pathologicalâ griefâ (qtd in Hooyman and Kramer 30).
Woodwardâs article, âFreud and Barthes: Theorizing Mourning,â (1990), argues for a âmiddle positionâ (100) between Freudâs mourning and his concept of melancholia â her definition of this space reads more as forerunner to new wave grief theories in a number of ways: âthere is something in between mourning and melancholia . . . grief that is lived in such a way that one is still in mourning but no longer exclusively devoted to mourningâ (Woodwardâs italics, 96). However, this âmiddle position,â illustrated in part by Barthesâ Camera Lucida, nevertheless firmly occupies the other end of the spectrum in describing the grief process as âinterminableâ (97), whose goal is ânot to come to the end of mourning but to sustain itâ (99); and where â[t]he end of mourning will be impossibleâ (105).
Theorizing âtextured recoveryâ
In reading through memoirs of loss (about forty in all), I noticed that a few of them resisted placement into either extreme along the spectrum of grief. Rather, they seemed ambiguous in their reflections on healing and often resisted traditional compensatory paradigms that accompany narratives of loss without â at the same time â being compelled to assert an agenda in which grief never ends and recovery is an impossibility. The extent to which these writers ârecoverâ is not easy to determine and often seems to lie somewhere between the model based on Freud and the extreme reactions against it. I am reading my chosen texts in light of new wave theories of grief as a way to illustrate this âin-betweenâ space of âtextured recovery.â This third space is at its most visible from the perspective of new wave theories which allow me to tease out subtleties and nuances within the grief process from a theoretical position that champions complexity. Such an exercise is absolutely necessary to new understandings of loss when we consider the alternatives above that view the concept of recovery in terms of binary opposites. Although there are some characteristics of new wave theories that do not apply to my analysis of textured recovery (such as the emphasis on grief as a never-ending process), and although I also bring to the discussion some aspects not mentioned by new wave theories (such as the importance of the body), I have put together an amalgamation of the main characteristics that help to define and characterize this space.
Memoirs of textured recovery illustrate the following aspects of new wave grief theories in their portrayal of loss:
⢠Grief is nearly always complicated: ââcomplicatedâ as âinvolved, intricate, confused, complex, compound, the opposite of simpleâ (Oxford English Dictionary 1971, 729), (Attig, âRelearningâ 33). It requires âa nuanced sensitivity to the legacy of loss as a core feature of psychotherapyâ (Neimeyer xii) and requires recognition of âthe complexity and uniqueness of . . . mourningâ (Hagman 24).
⢠Loss as ambiguous: âLoss always contains some ambiguityâ (Hooyman and Kramer 4). These memoirs ârecogni[se] the many types and meanings of loss and the inevitability of unanswered questionsâ (2).
⢠Grief is not an event that we must âget overâ quickly, though neither must it last forever: grief is recognized as âopen and evolvingâ (Hagman 18); we do not have to get over it quickly (Silverman and Klass 1996; Wortman and Silver 2001 qtd in Hooyman and Kramer 30), but neither must it last forever.
⢠Gender informs experiences of grief: âThis constructivist approach recognises that no two persons can be assumed to experience similar grief in response to the same loss . . . each person constructs a different phenomenological world and occupies a distinctive position in relation to culture [and] genderâ (Hooyman and Kramer 34).
⢠Grief as a process that contains a wide range of emotions, not just negative: Grief is not always experienced as âintense distress and depressionâ (Hooyman and Kramer 19), but rather can include positive emotions. The âwork of mourningâ under the standard model could not accommodate for the range of emotions included in the grief process.4
⢠Grief as a process of redefining the self: âIn grieving we must relearn our very selvesâ (Attig, âRelearningâ 40). This encourages a âgreater awareness of the implications of major loss for the individualâs sense of identity, often necessitating deep revisions in his or her self-definitionâ (Neimeyer 4; Hooyman and Kramer 16; Hagman 24).
⢠Recovery does not necessarily follow from sharing emotion/confronting loss: âsharing an emotion and confronting and processing a loss does not necessarily bring emotional relief or recoveryâ (Neimeyer 2000) (Hooyman and Kramer 31). As we shall see many of my chosen authors are critical of the âtalking cure.â
⢠Recovery as âaccommodationâ: According to the final stage of recovery in âR-modelâ: âRecovery and completion carry the same inaccurate connotations as resolution. In contrast, ac...
Table of contents
- Cover
- Title
- Copyright
- Contents
- Preface and Acknowledgements
- Introduction
- 1 Life Writing and the Literature of Grief
- 2 Trout Tickling for Truth in Narratives of Loss
- 3 âWriting the Self into Beingâ: Narrative Identity in Memoirs of Loss
- 4 âNo Bones Brokenâ: Embodied Experiences of Loss
- Conclusion: âWeeping Constellationsâ
- Notes
- References
- Index