All the Young Men

A Memoir of Love, AIDS, and Chosen Family in the American South

Ruth Coker Burks, Kevin Carr O'Leary

• Publisher: Grove Press
• Year: 2020
• ISBN:
  9780802157263
• Topic: Social Sciences
• Subtopic: Social Science Biographies
• Index: Social Sciences

A compassionate act drives a young single mother in Arkansas to the forefront of America's fight against AIDS in this "powerful" memoir ( Library Journal ). In 1986, twenty-six-year-old Ruth visits a friend at the hospital when she notices that the door to one of the hospital rooms is painted red. She witnesses nurses drawing straws to see who would tend to the patient inside, all of them reluctant to enter the room. Out of impulse, Ruth herself enters the quarantined space and immediately begins to care for the young man who cries for his mother in the last moments of his life. Before she can even process what she's done, word spreads in the community that Ruth is the only person willing to help these young men afflicted by AIDS, and is called upon to nurse them. As she forges deep friendships with the men she helps, she works tirelessly to find them housing and jobs, even searching for funeral homes willing to take their bodies—often in the middle of the night. She cooks meals for tens of people out of discarded food found in the dumpsters behind supermarkets, stores rare medications for her most urgent patients, teaches sex-ed to drag queens after hours at secret bars, and becomes a beacon of hope to an otherwise spurned group of ailing gay men on the fringes of a deeply conservative state. Throughout the years, Ruth defies local pastors and nurses to help the men she cares for: Paul and Billy, Angel, Chip, Todd and Luke. Emboldened by the weight of their collective pain, she fervently advocates for their safety and visibility, ultimately advising Governor Bill Clinton on the national HIV-AIDS crisis. This deeply moving and elegiac memoir honors the extraordinary life of Ruth Coker Burks and the beloved men who fought valiantly for their lives with AIDS during a most hostile and misinformed time in America. Praise for All the Young Men A Finalist for the Lambda Literary Award One of Library Journal 's Best Biographies and Memoirs of 2020 "Burks's spirited, straightforward prose balances the heartbreak of her story with just enough humor and toughness. A must-read for anyone interested in narratives of front-line responses to the early AIDS crisis as well as personal accounts of kindness and determination." — Library Journal (starred review) "Burks' vivid memories of 'my guys' and the trials she endured fighting against prejudice offer a portrait of courageous compassion that is both rare and inspiring... [A] deeply moving, meaningful book." — Kirkus Reviews "Anecdotes of small-town gay bars and drag queen rivalries add levity to tales of hardship and sacrifice—crosses set ablaze on her lawn, her young daughter ostracized at school.... This worthy account offers as much bitter as sweet." — Publishers Weekly

Table of contents

• ALL THE YOUNG MEN
• Title Page
• Copyright
• Dedication
• Part One
• Part Two
• Part Three
• Epilogue
• Photo Insert
• Acknowledgments
• Back Cover