Collateral Damage

Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce

Dr. John Chirban

• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Year: 2017
• ISBN:
  9780718081683
• Topic: Social Sciences
• Subtopic: Children's Studies in Sociology
• Index: Social Sciences

Based on research from more than 10, 000 surveys from children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage presents parents with an overview of the negative impact that divorce has on their children and offers ways to better serve their needs at this critical time.

Approximately fifty percent of marriages in the United State fail. Add to that the increasing number of couples who never marry, have children together, and later go their separate ways. In all of these scenarios, children suffer greatly—often in silence, as parents do not know how to effectively guide their kids. When the sorrow and emotional issues of children are not addressed, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow. In addition, while children may appear to be resilient and adjusting, without proper support children of divorce are more prone to drug and alcohol abuse, criminal behavior, mental and physical illness, and suicide. How can parents manage their own hurt, shock, anger, and despair so that they can provide their children with what they need?

While Collateral Damage does not advocate divorce, it does sound a wakeup call for parents. It identifies the landmines inherent in the dangerous terrain of divorce and equips them to help their children not to feel abandoned or unheard. Topics covered include:

• Building the family—not losing it
• Tuning into your kids
• Stabilizing childhood
• Maintaining parent/child roles
• Avoiding the parenting handoff
• Keeping kids out of the war zone
• Instilling trust
• Keeping open lines of communication
• Attuning to guiding, spiritual resources

The unfortunate failure of a marriage does not mean the end of the family. Providing a stable, supportive, healthy relationship with your child demonstrates what a loving relationship looks like, better preparing them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.

Table of contents

• Contents
• Foreword by Dr. Phil McGraw
• Acknowledgments
• Before You Begin: Your Child and Your Divorce
• Part 1: Guiding and Protecting Your Children
• Part 2: Navigating Divorce for Parents
• A Final Word: Redirecting Your Divorce Through Spiritual Life
• Appendix: The Divorce Study Survey
• Notes
• About the Author