Listen More, Laugh Often, Love Always

Reflections for Today's Church Councils

Wasserman

• Publisher: Wipf and Stock
• Year: 2015
• ISBN:
  9781498202930
• Topic: Theology & Religion
• Subtopic: Religion

David Wasserman served the church in a time that was exciting, challenging, and made progress for the Kingdom. But he also saw church leaders who did not listen, laugh together, or love enough of God's world and people. This reality is bad for the gospel--yet there's hope. It is coming in the form of leaders who are taking the time to listen carefully, staying humble and humorous about themselves, and working harder than ever to embody a bit more of God's love, justice, and peace. Listen More, Laugh Often, Love Always offers advice to future church leaders from the ramblings and reflections of one who saw firsthand the embattlements, wanderings, and unravelings of an institution trying to transform itself for a new time in God's grace.

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Grounded in Compassion

June 1990

My first report as a new executive presbyter was presented to Eastern Oklahoma in June 1990. What do you say to a new community you are serving? I chose the theme of compassion as a starting point. After some words of appreciation for the warm welcome I had received:

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Friends: What I want to share for a few moments is a thought about where we might be headed. Perhaps, more accurately, where we might be grounded as we move into God’s future.

There is an image of the church’s ministry that is becoming increasingly important to me, because I believe that it holds a clue for some of the major dilemmas of the church right now. It is the image of compassion.

It is revealing to note that the two major mission directions of our denomination right now are evangelism and social justice. To set these as our major aims is to acknowledge their importance and to admit, at least to some degree, that we are doing neither one of them very well. I would agree and suggest the reason that both our evangelism and our social justice are failing to bring renewal is because both are no longer grounded in what holds them together: the fundamental ministry of compassion of one person towards another that forms the center of the Christian life.

The cup of cold water, the kind word, the time taken to encounter the living God in our relationships—however you imagine it—it is compassion that lies at the heart of God’s love for this world, of Jesus’ ministry on this earth, of the Spirit’s dwelling among us. Andrew Purves, professor at Pittsburgh Theological Seminary, begins his newest book by recalling the words of Nicholas Wolterstorff in that man’s Lament for a Son.

Please. Don’t say it’s not really so bad. Because it is. Death is awful, demonic. If you think your task as comforter is to tell me that really, all things considered, it’s not so bad, you do not sit with me in my grief but place yourself off in the distance away from me. What I need to hear from you is that you recognize how painful it is. I need to hear from you that you are with me in my desperation. To comfort me, you have to come close. Come sit with me on my mourning bench. (p. 34)

Purves finds in these words his definition of compassion: sitting with someone on his or her mourning bench. It is that kind of presence—sitting on a mourning bench—that is needed and is at the heart of all ministry, whether we encounter a stranger in the name of evangelism or we encounter a stranger in the name of social justice.

I wonder if our being out of touch with the ministry of compassion might begin to explain:

• our membership decline, where we welcome folks in the front door and, in our concern for counting numbers, let them slip out the back unnoticed

• our financial stress, where a person’s wealth is too often reduced to dollar signs and doesn’t include their ideas and creativity for how to use those dollars

• our frustrations with the distances between the congregation, the mid-councils of our presbyteries and synods, and the General Assembly

• our bickering between such divergent groups as the Presbyterian Lay Committee and the Witherspoon Society, where suspicion and mistrust have eroded the faith that is supposed to hold us together

Since my arrival in May, I have been privileged to observe one session addressing a critical staff issue. I have watched one of our presbytery committees work with a congregation over a difficult decision. There has been genuine wrestling and I have sensed the compassion and love of Christ at work.

All of this suggests that, if our Presbytery would be strong, then the decisions and the ministry and the work and the worship we share needs to be grounded in that compassion where we see in one another other people who are on a journey with God and who would join us in that ever-tenuous task of being faithful to God’s calling. Listening, engaging, embracing, responding. Those are critical to the way we do our work and the way we make our decisions.

It is in the central place of compassion that I believe the whole church and all of its parts has its hope. That is my wish for all of us, for our congregations, and Eastern Oklahoma Presbytery. So, how do you see this? I’d welcome your reflections on what we must keep in mind as we move through this day and the coming months.

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There is a difference between compassion and empathy. Empathy can be a way to relieve people of their responsibilities. Compassion invites people to claim their lives knowing that there are friends, helpers, fellow journeyers to accompany us. Where do you see true compassion being offered in the ministries of which you participate? In your congregation? In your mid-Council?

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The Gospel

Being at Peace, Alive, and Hopeful

September 1990

In Eastern Oklahoma Presbytery, the September meeting each year was held at the Dwight Mission Camp near the Arkansas border. They were two day events that included time for worship, business and educational programs and conversations.

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Our three program times this weekend include a discussion on evangelism, a Bible study, and a conversation about the life of our presbytery. A comment about the first of these:

The word evangelism comes from the Greek evangelion, which means to announce the good news. For some of us, the difficult part of that task is not engaging another person in a conversation, but in finding the right words to express our faith. How do we understand the faith? What is it that God wants for us?

As I read the gospels and reflect on the whole of God’s story in Scripture, I am increasingly aware of three ideas, that brought together, answer the question of what God wants for our lives:

• to be at peace with our past

• to be alive to the present

• to be hopeful about the future

Being at peace with the past means to find the balance between trivializing our history and idolizing it. History is not bunk, as Henry Ford once declared. But neither is our history to be the center of our worship, literally or figuratively. Being at peace means finding the balance between letting go of our past mistakes and learning from them. And some of our past may not be mistakes at all but simply appropriate actions for a different time and place. God wants us to be at peace with our past.

God wants us to be alive to the present, too. The image that comes to mind is someone who is aware of what may be going on around him or her, who lives energetically. Being alive to the present means living our answer to my favorite ordination question: will you serve with energy, intelligence, imagination and love?

And no less important is the sense that God wants us to be hopeful about the future. In Jesus Christ, our hope is secured. Through Jesus Christ, the church has dared to announce God’s message of hope to a fearful world. Through the message of the gospel, God is inviting us to be hopeful and to live in that hope.

In worship each week, Christians move through these three as the liturgy takes us from confession through proclamation to benediction. And, this three-legged way of engaging the gospel has as much to say about life in a presbytery. Consider then, just how God is inviting us to be at peace with our past, alive to the present and hopeful about the future . . . individually and together

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If what God wants in our lives is for us to be at peace with the past, alive to the present, and hopeful about the future, then in what ways do you and your fellow council leaders need to set the past aside, give more attention to the present, and face your leadership team’s particular fears with more hope?

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Diversity, Change, Dissension

December 1990

In the fall of 1990, an article was published in the Reader’s Digest that caused a stir inside the denomination. Under the title, “Look What They’ve Done to My Church,” the...

Table of contents

• Title Page
• Foreword
• Preface
• Acknowledgments
• Introduction
• Chapter 1: Grounded in Compassion
• Chapter 2: The Gospel
• Chapter 3: Diversity, Change, Dissension
• Chapter 4: The Shadow Side of the Sexuality Discussion
• Chapter 5: Searching for Ministers
• Chapter 6: Sea Changes for the Church
• Chapter 7: Doing Theology
• Chapter 8: Anxiety, Leadership and Re-Imagining
• Chapter 9: Naming the Challenges
• Chapter 10: Leading Change with Explorers and Benefactors
• Chapter 11: The Church of Christ Uniting
• Chapter 12: Leadership and the Generations
• Chapter 13: Doing Better with Our Disagreements
• Chapter 14: Being Clear
• Chapter 15: Education Anyone?
• Chapter 16: The Two-Party View of the Church
• Chapter 17: Sailing on Choppy Seas
• Chapter 18: Anticipating the Next Millennium
• Chapter 19: Nurturing Disciples
• Chapter 20: A Vision
• Chapter 21: Editorial
• Chapter 22: A Spirituality of Unity
• Chapter 23: Editorial
• Chapter 24: The Missional Church
• Chapter 25: Editorial
• Chapter 26: Editorial
• Chapter 27: Editorial
• Chapter 28: Editorial
• Chapter 29: Needing One Another
• Chapter 30: Editorial
• Chapter 31: Faithful Presence
• Chapter 32: Listen More. Laugh Often. Love Always.
• Chapter 33: A Final Thought
• Appendix A: Parting Thoughts
• Appendix B: For Further Reflection