PART I
The Children
āThese children have committed no crime, but the price they are forced to pay is steep. They forfeit, too, much of what matters to them: their homes, their safety, their public status and private self-image, their primary source of comfort and affection. Their lives are profoundly affected . . .ā
ā Nell Bernstein, All Alone in the World
NYVEAH WITH PRESTON
Can I give Daddy a hug? I wanna give Daddy a hug!
JACOB
JACOB: Mommy, remember when you was in jail? I was really, really sad. Sad that you didnāt come home. I love you.
LISA, JACOBāS MOTHER: Iām very lucky and fortunate. I mean, this kid loves me! He wonāt let me out of his sight. He says, āMama, why did you go to jail?ā I say, āI wasnāt being good, Jacob; thatās what happens.ā
We didnāt even know why she left. They just came and got her. My grandma came to school and got us. She didnāt explain nothing. My dad went into prison not too much after that. Thatās my stepdad. And then my auntie went in. They all went in on the same charges.
It was hard for me because I had to change schools. I had to make new friends. It was very hard, and then my family was dying, and it was hard on me ācause I couldnāt go to their funerals. They had no way to get us up there.
It was really hard. Everybody else, they got their moms and their dads. My mom wasnāt with me, to be there for my games and stuff, to watch me. She was there before when she was out; she was there for me all the time. Most of my friends, they didnāt understand it, they were like, āWhatās going on?ā Itās something I really donāt talk about.
Visiting was hard ācause you know youāre leaving and your momās not leaving with you.
Now that my momās out we can do things. She can be there for me, she can take me places, get clothes, you know, do what moms do. Now I can go see my family, visit and go to family reunions, go to my family funerals when they die.
AMNESSIA
AMNESSIA
My father was locked up 15 years. I asked my mom and stepdad about it. The answers I got said it was something serious, but they werenāt going to tell me about it. I waited for them to say something, but they never did. To this day I fear that it could happen to me. If what happened to him happens to me, will I react the same way and put myself in the same position?
Growing up was kinda lonely. My father wrote me letters, but I just skimmed them. It was like he was a strangerālike, who is this guy, sending these letters? I knew he was my dad, but. . . . If I had known the truth, it probably wouldāve made me more interested in reading the letters.
Having my father in prison changed my life by causing me to be by myself more. And it made me get involved; I try to do things for other people rather than myself. Itās almost like A.D.D. I have to do something, I have to try to achieve more.
Why am I doing this all? You feel like thereās a deeper problem or issue that you gotta solve, but you canāt figure out what it is. Itās hard to get at the roots of it. Maybe one day Iāll find out the meaning of all this, why he got locked up and stuff like that. One day itās gonna unravel and Iāll find out why. And hopefully make my life better.
JERMAINE
JERMAINE
TIEANA
My dad was gone for about three years. They said he was in college. Every time he was gone he always talked to me and wrote me letters and everything. Heās a good artist, and every time he wrote me a letter, he drew something in it. One time he drew me a mermaid, and it was really good.
I miss my mom, and I donāt know where she is. I just worry ācause something might happen to her, and I will never know because she doesnāt call or anything.
I like living with my grandparents. They spoil me. They give me things like a piano. Iāve been playing since second grade. Iām happy.
JALON
My grandma filled in for my mom until she came back. So she was kind of acting like my mom. When my mom was gone, Iād cry myself to sleep.
I donāt really know my dad. Heās still alive but, I wonder, is he getting hurt in jail or something like that? I want him back so I can be with him.
I want them around so we could have a family.
JASMINE
I felt so sad. I was just crying. It just made my head hurt, my brain hurt, my stomach hurt. It just got control of me. It got my mind twisted. I couldnāt focus on anything else. . . .
A whole lot of days I couldnāt go to sleep without my mom. I had some bad dreams, so my daddy gave me an invisible necklace.
It helped me dream about my mom. I had a dream that she had come back. I was walking, I opened my eyes and saw my mom, and I grabbed her.
I couldnāt live without her. It was like a curse. It was like a prison. Iām just glad sheās back now.
SHAUN
I didnāt go along to visit last time. I wanted to play with my friends that day. I was a little bit angry ācause sheās been there so many times. I want her to get out.
I was three when he got locked up. I have some memoriesāwe were at the circus and we were riding on an elephant. It had to be a dream.
When he was in prison I had this grudge against him for not being here for me. When I finally got a chance to talk to him, and he let me know what really happened, Iām like, āOh, I didnāt know that.ā I had jumped to so many conclusions. I had a newfound respect for him, and I realized he really did love me.
Sometimes now I dream about a situation that has happened to me. I know he wasnāt there, but heāll be there this time. Heāll be talking to me, like my conscience. Heāll talk me through it. Heāll be the person that takes the mask off everything and tells me how it really is.
SASHA
Sashaās father was on death row. His conviction was overturned and he was released, but he died five years later of untreated hepatitis.
SASHA
When I first went down to the prison, it was real hard being able to hug my mama and touch her and then not take her with me. It was hard. We all cried, but now Iām just used to it. But I miss my mama and I need her.
I really had to be the mama for my sisters. I wanted things to be right for them. My aunt says Iāve never really been able to be a child. Now that Iām 18, itās just like Iām 21 or something. Itās like Iām still older than I really am. Now my aunt says I should be able to have a little bit of that childhood that I never got to have back then.
I used to be ashamed to say my mom is in prison. But then my auntie told me that itās not my fault. So itās nothing I should be ashamed of. Itās nothing I did.
I do have a friendāshe goes to the same schoolāand her mama and my mama are down there together. I can talk to her ācause she knows how Iām feeling inside. Sheās been there.
Iāll probably have kids by the time she gets out. Taking them to the jailhouseāthatās not where I want them to remember her from.
I just want people to be proud of me. Thatās why I keep going. Iām a very cheerful person. They say at school that I just brighten up peopleās day.
DEEDEE
DEEDEE
LATRELL
I donāt really talk about it.
Latrellās father, whom he never met and only spoke to once on the phone, is in prison. His stepfather has been in and out of prison, and his mother, who was also in prison, died recently of a drug overdose. He lives with his grandmother.
TYLER
I like to visit my mother. I write to her sometimes. I keep the letters. She draws pictures and Grandma keeps them for me.
Iād rather not talk to others at school about it.
I was three when my mom went in. And then my dad wen...