Part 1
Massage Basics
There can be no better gift, or gift in return, than to touch another and to be touched, for by doing so we foster a world rich in empathy, understanding, and compassion.
A MOMENT OF MEETING
A massage is a special moment of meeting. It is therefore very important to devote the proper attention to this momentâenough time to be able to enjoy the massage, and enough time for the massage to continue to have an effect after the session has ended. This means both the amount of time that we are wholeheartedly willing to give to the session and to the person we are working on, and also the amount of time that our counterpart is willing to accept. We have to be willing to be completely present, so that we can direct our undivided attention to the massage and to the person being massaged.
THE PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT
Having a pleasant and safe space where both parties feel comfortable and will be undisturbed for the duration of the session is vital to a successful experience. This kind of physical environment helps both parties cultivate the âbeing here nowâ aspect of massage that creates the feeling of total immersion in the massage, what I refer to as the âinner room.â Establishing this kind of environment can compensate for quite a lot if the outer conditions are not ideal. Nevertheless, it is still worthwhile to create a pleasant physical space, because the massage and its effects will be longer lasting and more satisfying.
A comfortably warm, quiet place where you will not be disturbed is the ideal environment for a crystal massage. Warmth is important, as the person who is receiving the massage will usually be unclothed. Some areas of the body may be covered with a blanket during the massage, but for some people any kind of cover can be disturbing, as they want to enjoy total freedom and heightened sensitivity. It is a good idea, therefore, to have a heater of some kind available in case it is needed.
A pleasant and safe space is vital to a successful massage experience.
A well-designed room with a relaxing atmosphere can help the person receiving the massage to let go, and thus to better receive the massage. A positive response to the ambience of the room sets the stage for successful results.
TREATMENT SURFACE AND CLOTHING
The massage surface can vary, depending on the type of massage being given and the situation. Massage may be administered on the floor, on a firm mattress, or on two or three woolen blankets (such as tightly woven yoga blankets) covered with a sheet, forming a treatment surface. Even better is a massage table, if one is available. Some people can relax better on the floor, as this can provide a more grounded experience. If the massage is being given at home, a bed can be used, but be aware that a mattress that is too soft can affect the massage because it can make direct pressure difficult, as the body gives way, or it can make changing positions difficult because of the lack of resistance. Pillows, knee rolls, woolen blankets, and additional cushions are useful props and should always be within reach during the massage.
I recommend loose-fitting, lightweight clothing, preferably made of natural fibers, for the person giving the massage, because it can get pretty warm during the session. Even though there is not a lot of physical exertion required to give a massage with crystals and stones, your own energy will start flowing stronglyâone of the advantages of giving massage. As well, for this reason it is recommended that both parties drink a lot of pure water on the day of the massage (and, of course, go to the bathroom shortly before the massage starts), so that both personsâ energy can flow well.
CHOOSING CRYSTALS AND STONES
Rounded semiprecious tumbled stones (i.e., worry stones), crystal massage wands, crystal rods, rounded lens- and soap-shaped stones, and in certain massages even rough stones, crystals, and crystal essences are all appropriate choices for crystal massage.
Crystal massage wands are usually hexagonal, with a rounded base and tip. They should be eight to ten centimeters (approximately three to four inches) in length for best handling. Crystal massage styluses look like elongated teardrops and have a wider base and a thinner, more pointed but slightly rounded tip; these are usually eight to twelve centimeters (about three to four-and-three-quarter inches) long. The wider end has a more relaxing and comforting effect in some techniques, and the more pointed end has a more activating, vitalizing effect.
Crystal wands and styluses, and the multitude of effects they can produce, are discussed in greater detail in part 3, âVital Body Massage.â As well, the detailed list of the many minerals used in massage, including a discussion of their qualities and healing properties, found in part 2 of this book, provides an excellent overview of the possibilities of healing massage with stones.
Lens-shaped and soap-shaped gemstones, which are flat, oval, polished massage stones, are really ideal for massages, because they have so many application possibilities (unlike tumbled stones, which are unevenly polished pocket stones). Both variations are slightly curved and pleasantly rounded on the edges. Soap-shaped stones are somewhat largerâabout the size of a small bar of soapâwhile lens-shaped stones are somewhat smaller, as seen in the photo below. In principle, basically any stone with a polished surface that doesnât have sharp edges can be used for crystal massages; however, lens- and soap-shaped stones have a multitude of different application possibilities and should be part of any massage stone collection.
For a description of the different effects that can be achieved using âhandyâ lens- and soap-shaped stones, see part 2, âIntuitive Massage.â
| Lens-shaped stone (45 by 35 mm, or approximately 1.75 by 1.5 inches) |
| Soap-shaped stone (70 by 50 mm, or approximately 2.75 by 2 inches) |
MASSAGE OIL
Massage oil, often used in conventional massage, is usually not needed in crystal massage because the stonesâ polished surfaces slide well on skin. Furthermore, the effect of some massage techniques in vital body massage, which concentrates on treating the person on the energetic, whole-body level, and not just the physical level, as discussed in part 3, can even be slowed by oil. If you do work with oils you should use high-quality, organic vegetable body oils; good oil can enhance the success of many massages, but low-quality oils slow and block the success.
Things You Need to Give a Crystal Massage
- A pleasant, safe, quiet space with a good ambience, where you will not be interrupted
- A treatment surface comfortable for both you and the recipient (a firm mattress, woolen blankets and sheets placed on the floor, or a massage table if available)
- Comfortable, loose, lightweight clothing
- Ambient warmth (use a heater if necessary)
- Pillows, knee rolls, and other such aids for comfort
- Blanket or sheet to cover the recipient (optional)
- Tumbled stones, round stones, crystal rods, crystal wands, lens- and soap-shaped stones
- Massage oil (optional, depending on type of massage)
THE âINNER ROOMâ
Before starting the massage, allow yourself and the person whom you are going to massage a few minutes to settle in preparation for the session. For example, a short conversation, perhaps over a glass of water or a cup of tea (followed by a quick bathroom break), and youâll both find yourselves present in a totally different way than if you were to immediately jump onto the massage table or mat, especially directly after a car journey. See that the person receiving the massage is completely comfortable on the treatment surface at the beginning of the massage; use pillows, blanket rolls, or other aids as needed, then cover her with a blanket or sheet, if necessary. Then allow your counterpart (and yourself ) a moment or two of peaceful quietude before you begin the session.
Visualize that you are totally present for your counterpart during this time. Everything else must be secondary when you give a massageâyour everyday life, your problems, your interests, and yes, even your own wellbeing. Consciously put it all aside, knowing you can return to your concerns afterward, and direct all your attention to the massage.
It is not only your hands that function while giving a massage; it is also your mind, your feelings, and your perceptions. Therefore, prepare yourself by allowing your mind to settle and become quiet, neutral, and focused on the well-being of your client or partner.
CREATING PROTECTION
Before you begin your work, create a protective psychic boundary around yourself, wherein everything that belongs to you stays with you, and everything that belongs to your counterpart stays with her or him. âForeignâ energy, the psychic energy that belongs to another, is always a weight, especially when you are doing bodywork of any kind, where psychic sensitivity is heightened. The goal of a massage is to dissolve another personâs tension and blocks, and to do this you must let your own energy flow unimpeded.
Flowing energy is available energy. Energy that does not flow is bound, blocked, or trapped in some way. We each have our own vital energy, in sufficient amounts that we donât need the energy of another. We each live by our own efforts.
Creating protection
You can create such a safe environment by first determining that everything stays where it should, or returns to where it comes from. You can then visualize a violet light around your counterpart and yourself as a horizontal figure eightâtwo circles that touch but still separately enclose each of you. But whether you use this visualization or another one to create a protective boundary, the most important thing is that you and the person you are massaging are always safe.
CULTIVATING INTUITION
Protected as you now are, begin to consciously cultivate your intuition in order to tune in to the needs of the person you are massaging. Intuition is the âsixth sense,â after the five ordinary senses of sight, hearing, smell, touch, and taste. While massaging, we are especially dependent on this sense, as it allows us to sense, not from the mind, but from the heart, how a person is feeling and what they are needing. A massage is especially good if you can work intuitively instead of simply technically, as oneâs intuition can guide oneâs hands during the session.
Using crystals and stones in an intuitive way in massage is discussed in greater detail in the next part of this book, âIntuitive Massage.â
Intuition can run both ways during a treatment, in that both the giver of the massage and the receiver can synchronize, attuning ...