WEEK 1
Establishing Your Foundation
A tower nine stories high
Starts with a single brick.
âThe Tao Te Ching, Book 64
PRELUDEâYOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY
There are very few areas of our lives, if any, that are not affected by money. If you were born in a hospital, that first breath cost someone a bunch of cash. And if you plan to have the end of your life commemorated with a funeral service, youâd better start making your financial plans now. Though we spend a lot of time worrying about how much weâre spending and how much more we need, few people take the time to think directly about their relationship with money.
By purchasing or even browsing through this book, you are evidently expressing an interest in transforming your relationship with money. So letâs begin with some basics: What are we talking about? What exactly is wealth? Is there a fixed standard that determines if a person is wealthy?
Take out your Prosperity Journal and write down some initial ideas about what âwealthâ is for you. Donât worry about being right or wrongâthe tax authorities will not be checking your answers. Write at least one paragraph: âWealth is . . .â
Unless you are reading this book for entertainment purposes only, something about your relationship with money probably does not feel right. I make a similar type of assumption when I am asked to do a feng shui consultation. My clients are probably not hiring me because they are curious about feng shui or because they want to keep up with the neighbors who were recently âshuiâd.â Instead, something in their life is not satisfying to them, and they want to know if I can help.
Before conducting the consultation, I send forms that ask clients to rate their level of satisfaction in the nine areas of life addressed by feng shui (we will be reviewing these areas later in the book). They rate their satisfaction on a scale from one to ten, with ten being highest. Then, we prioritize consultation work based on these ratings.
Letâs focus on your relationship with money. If you had to rate your satisfaction with money on a scale of one to ten, with ten being highest, how would it rate? Go ahead and try this now:
Low12345678910High
If you scored your relationship with money as a ten, congratulations! Perhaps you can afford to use this book for entertainment purposes only. But if your rating was anything less, our work is ahead of us.
Use your Prosperity Journal to explore your relationship with money. Whatâs working, what feels good, and when and where do you feel frustrated, powerless, or âjust not rightâ? Write one paragraph: âMy present relationship with money is . . .â
Where Are We Going?
When planning a journey, you should know where you are leaving from and where you planning to go. Imagine getting on a plane and saying, âTake me someplace that I likeâI donât know where it is, I just know I want to get there fast!â That would set you up for a tiresome and frustrating tripâand a big waste of time. Itâs unlikely that you will find a destination you like if you donât know where youâre headed.
You may already have a vision of how you want your financial life to be. Maybe your best friend from high school is now living the way you always wanted. Or perhaps you skimmed the pages of one too many travel magazines to be satisfied with your present income. Whatever your dream life may be, itâs time to get it out in the openâin as much detail as you can envision. This is not the time to question the propriety or reasonableness of your desires. As long as you keep them inside, they are not going to get you anywhere, and they will only get in your way.
1. Write at least two pages about how you would live if you had unlimited finances: âIf I had all the money that I wanted, I would . . .â This assignment alone requires more speculation than most lottery winners ever consider. What would you do? Purchase? Become? Dig deep into your aspirations. Your answers are probably the reasons you bought this book.
2. Now review the essay, and choose ten words or phrases that describe how you want your relationship with money to feel. Try to capture the essence of this seemingly elusive thing called âwealth.â Write a new heading in your journal, âTop ten adjectives that describe my ideal state of wealth,â and list the ten words or phrases. Allow yourself to brainstorm. Donât worry if the ideas seem irrational or bizarre; your aim is to connect to your subconscious. If you feel like writing âyellowâ for some reason, then do soâyou can always figure out what that means later.
3. Finally, review your list and mark the words or phrases that are most resonant for you, the ones where you felt yourself saying, âYeah, thatâs it.â Narrow the list down to your top three choices and put them in the place of honor, right here in this book. These will become your emblem of how you want your financial life to feel:
a. __________________________
b. __________________________
c. __________________________
You can copy these words into your Prosperity Journal, as well.
By now, you should be getting a sense of your desired condition of wealth. Your lists are unique. The way that you handle money, and want to handle money, is directly tied to your experience of your own energy and to your connection to life itself. This is one of the most intimate relationships you will ever have. For this reason, books on personal finance tend to gather dust, since no two individualsâ relationships with money will be identical.
Some people are highly conservative with their money and only feel comfortable when they know that it is in a secure account. Others are more adventurous and do not feel the power of their money until it is applied toward greater gains. It could be like asking an Amish farmer to live the life of an Italian soap opera starâthe very idea is enough to make them run for the hills!
Your three key words or phrases are your guide to an ideal financial future. You will refer to them often as you do the exercises in this book, and you will see how their tone and energy reflect a deeper purpose for you. In many ways, they are keys not just to your relationship with money, but to your relationship to your whole life.
ENVIRONMENTAL FENG SHUIâTHE INFLUENTIAL ENERGY OF YOUR HOME
Your home is not just the place where you sleep at night, it is the area on the planet most connected to who you are. Your home encases you like a bigger body: it affects how you feel, behave, and see yourself. Even when you leave the house each day, you carry the feeling of your home with you, wherever you go.
In each week of this program, we will focus on a different area of your house, and we will look at the ways it affects your financial pote...