Part I: Theory
1.
Providing a Rationale for Peace
The Maternal Gift Economy
GENEVIEVE VAUGHAN
I WOULD LIKE TO BEGIN with a big picture broad-stroke delineation of the issue of the gift as I see it: Our society today is based on two economies, not just one economy with âexternalities.â The domestic economy is a gift economy with mothering practice as its core. The market economy is superimposed upon the domestic economy and takes its sustenance from it while distributing scarce goods to it through monetized exchange.1 This economic characterization allows us to depersonalize and de-sentimentalize mothering/gifting so that we can see it as structural, with a logic of its own that contrasts with the do ut des logic of the market. In Marxist terms, the economic structure of gifting would have a superstructure of values and ideas. I believe that what we consider the moral values of care are the superstructure of the gift economy. These values are difficult to uphold in the present situation because gift and exchange are locked into a parasitic embrace that appears to be a symbiosis.
Marcel Maussâs three-step process of giving-receiving-giving back necessarily begins with the two-step process of giving-receiving in the life of every human, because infants cannot perform the third step of giving back. The point of view can shift from giver to receiver, but the trajectory of the gift is unilateral. It is possible to trace a spectrum of gifts from the most thoroughly unilateral, to the benignly reciprocal, to symbolic gift exchange, to forced reciprocity, to manipulative gifting for power over others, and to market exchange where gifts are transformed into profit by manipulation and exploitation. There are many gradations in this spectrum and I can only suggest their complexity here. However, if we do not have the idea of unilateral gifting as the first step, we lack the beginning of the spectrum and so cannot recognize the gradations as such, with the result that we only see a disorderly jumble of kinds of gifts, which we then attempt to classify. This is one important aspect of recognizing the maternal root of the gift economy. On the other hand, recognizing the economic character of mothering allows us to formulate a maternalist materialism.
There are offshoots of the exchange paradigm that we do not recognize as such. For example, individual violence and reprisal, and military attacks and counterattacks function according to the logic of exchange. Justice as payment for crime is an exchange (contrasted with restorative justice). Vengeance is of course an exchange. Experiencing guilt is putting oneself in the exchange mode, preparing oneself to pay. The marriage market and the idea of human capital translate gift potentialities into exchange paradigm language. The porn trade and the commodification and trafficking of women, children, and body parts all demonstrate the parasitism of exchange on gifting. In fact the whole system of global capitalism developed parasitically by plundering the native lands of the Indigenous peoples of the Americas and extracting the forced âgiftsâ of Indigenous and African slave labour.
SOME SPECIFICATIONS OF POSITIVE UNILATERAL GIVING
Unilateral gift giving together with its complement, unilateral receiving constitute a life-enhancing economic mode of distribution. We learn it in early childhood from our mothersâ care. Every further mode of distribution is an elaboration, complication, or contradiction of the logic of âfreeâ gifts. Maternal giving is focused on the needs of the child who creatively (not passively) receives what s:he is given. Every child lives for a time in this maternal gift economy because s:he cannot provide for h:erself and cannot exchange equivalents for what s:he is being given. Direct giving and receiving mediate the childâs world; they create relations of mutuality and trust, and form the basis of attachment. These relations are established much earlier than the relations of debt and obbligation that are typical of adult exchange. When the unilateral gift is repeated and passed on to others, it connects people in community. Both sharing and working together on common projects require that we identify othersâ needs and act to satisfy them without expecting an equivalent return. Even if, within the sharing community, one may expect that what goes around comes around, the interaction is not interrupted by equal exchange and continues to be sustained by the logic of the unilateral gift. When reciprocity is not regulated by authority but by needs at various levels (material, psychological, symbolic), the logic of the gift continues to be foremost.
Exchange follows the opposite logic. Giving in order to receive an equivalent cancels the other oriented gift. The purpose of the free gift is to satisfy the need of the other. The purpose of exchange is to satisfy oneâs own need, using the satisfaction of the need of the other as means. The distinction between the two may seem simplistic, but confusing them gives rise to many problems. In fact, gift and exchange constitute two opposing logics, and are the basis of two paradigms that contradict but are also intertwined with each other.
By giving gifts, motherscreate co-muni-ty7 on the physical level in the sense, in that by not only by birthing children, but also by nurturing them, they create the bodies of the people in the community. They do the same thing on the social level in that they also create or co-create their childrensâ (and in part their own) minds and identities. In infancy, satisfying physical needs is not separate from satisfying psychological needs. We might even say that before exchange, there is not a division between the material and the mental. Later, more abstract, gifting communication is informed by this early communication where mind and body are still integrated.
The fact that children do survive implies that they have been nurtured by someone: a mother or other relative, a paid caregiver, or even an entire village. It is the capacity to sustain life and thus create positive human relations that makes maternal gift giving the core process of material and verbal communication. The process of exchange makes the satisfaction of needs contingent on the calculation of equivalence between products, and it requires categorization, quantification, and measurement. It is as different from gifting as apples from oranges, and it has very different relational consequences.
Children do not usually begin to understand the market, exchange, and money until they are four or five years old. Yet children definitely do interact with their caregivers who give to them and whose gifts they actively receive. Even as infants they interact communicatively, giving and receiving gestures, smiles, and sounds in rhythmic turn-taking âprotoconversations,â which have been studied and even mapped with musical scores by researchers (Trevarthen, âCommunication,â Photoconversation). In fact, protoconversation appears to be a cultural universal, with mothers and children interacting in this way in every society where it has been studied. I emphasize that these are turn-taking gifting interactions based on imitation, not obligation.
Children do not practice quid pro quo exchange. They do not and cannot give back an equivalent product for the gift that has been given to them. Thus early childhood care takes place in what for the child is a gift economy, which is provided and put into practice by the mother. Even if in some cases the motherer is a caregiver who is paid for h:er work, for the child, the nurturance is free. S:he does not understand the exchange of equivalents and the constraint of the return. This requires that the caregiver follow suit.
Breast milk is the original prototypical gift. Nursing constitutes need-satisfying material communication between bodies from the beginning. It can be substituted by bottle-feeding, which also ideally involves holding and closeness. Either way, the need-satisfying gifts of milk evolve into gifts of solid food, and with the childâs growth and new ways of interacting, new needs for attention and care arise.
Why do we not count this as economic? Partly it is because we overemphasize exchange and money, and we see them as economic. But if âfreeâ is a mode of distribution, a mother producing milk free with the body is also a mode of production. The problem is that this free economic mode is not generalized to the production of other goods, and in fact it is taken over and exploited by the economy based on quid pro quo exchange.
The free gift is transitive. Nutriment passes from one person to another first internally in the womb through the umbilical cord, and then externally from the motherâs breast to the mouth of the child. Then there are many additional kinds of services including cleaning the child, keeping her warm, and feeding her solid food. The fact that the mother feeds and cares for the child gives value to the child and permits her to thrive. I call this value that is given to the other by unilaterally satisfying her needs the âgift value.â It is a third kind of valu...