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About This Book
How to Write a Suicide Note examines the life of a Chinese/Black woman who grew up passing for white, who grew up poor, who loves women but has always married white men. Writing has saved her life. It has allowed her to name the historical trauma--the racist, sexist, classist experiences that have kept her from being fully alive, that have screamed at her loudly and consistently that she was no good, and would never be any good-and that no one could love her. Writing has given her the creative power to name the experiences that dictated who she was, even before she was born, and write notes to them, suicide notes.
Sherry Quan Lee believes writing saves lives; writing has saved her life. Acclaim for How to Write a Suicide Note "How to Write a Suicide Note is a haunting portrait of the daughter of an African mother and a Chinese father. Sherry dares to be who she isn't supposed to be, feel what she isn't supposed to feel, and destroys racial and gender myths as she integrates her bi-racial identity into all that she is. Through her raw honesty and vulnerability, Sherry captures a range of emotions most people are afraid to confront, or even share. Her work is a gift to the mental health community."
--Beth Kyong Lo, M.A., Clinical Psychologist "Sherry Quan Lee offers us, in How to Write a Suicide Note, a deep breathing meditation on how love is under continuous revision. And like all the best Blues singers, Quan Lee voices the lowdown, dirty paces that living puts us through, but without regret or surrender."
Wesley Brown, author of Darktown Strutters and Tragic Magic "I love the female aspects, the sex, and the strong voice Sherry Quan Lee uses to share her private life in How To Write A Suicide Note. I love the wit, the tongue-in-cheek, the trippiness of it all. I love the metaphors, especially the lover and suicide ones. I love the free-associations, the 'raving, ravenous, relentless' back and forth. Quan Lee breaks the rules and finds her genius. How to Write a Suicide Note is a passionate, risk-taking, outrageous, life-affirming book and love letter."
Sharon Doubiago, author of Body and Soul, Hard Country; and other works Modern History Press is an imprint of Loving Healing Press
Frequently asked questions
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Scatter the Trash
Suicide Note Number Two
I leave to you the Polynesian girl, the one your son claims
that I am. (I am not from Polynesia. My father is from China.
My mother is Negro. Would you like to see my birth certificate?)
is distasteful to you. I myself wear it well, but not often.
It makes other people uncomfortable, including my Black mother.
They will not live with the lie I've lived with all of my life.
What they do with the truth is up to them. I will honor
who they are.
as it has been for me living with secrets. They will have a mother
who knows and acknowledges they are beautiful, and smart.
A mother who knows they are afraid. A mother who is afraid
for them.
I don't like my silence. I don't like lying under white sheets.
I don't like any man loving me for who I am not,
for who they want me to be. I do not like being afraid.
I do not like powdering my face, straightening my hair.
How many times will I be asked by people who see me
with my brown babies, is your husband Black?”
Black people recognize me, though, and Asians.
You, like many white men, say “but you're different.”
Love, marriage, children, a house in the suburbs, a two car garage.
My dreams are nightmares.
someday acquire. (All students of color don't receive scholarships.)
What did he learn? How many empty bottles of booze it takes
to fill the basement of a rented house? His wealth dangling
from a family tree.
I appreciate your generosity. But, I'm tired of fences.
Will your generosity continue when I kill the white girl?
They will embrace their Bohemian/German grandparents
as well as their Black/Chinese grandparents, although intimacy
will never be possible.
as she searches for love
I will die for them and hope it makes a difference
cram white space with black ink, purge invisibility and silence
with incantations.
great-grandsons who may or may not wish to know who they are.
It's about money
when you have the money you don't have the time.
the last husband, the first girlfriend
happiness was a door I could open,
that love was someplace I hadn't yet been
there was dancing and drinking and shopping and sex
I should have.
it was about being stupid.
and a retirement portfolio.
money spent like the girlfriend I was trying to impress
stoves and refrigerators
another bed
a new roof
entertainment/entertaining
margaritas and red wine
dog grooming
my future. She wanted to give me everything—she did,
but it wasn't enough. I wanted to give her everything too.
some things still had to be paid: student loans
I'm always broke and broken. I've got a low credit line
credit card that is always maxed, and a loan for an antique bed
which was a spur of the moment need to honor sleeping
alone again
takes money. Can the President live on $30,000 a year
and still shop, still golf? How soon would his credit
and personality run out?
when I don't have money
How much insurance would it take to keep you?
Apparently not enough
I'm sure it was assurance that I desired.
So You Want Me to Write About
left his mother, brother and sister never
to see them again
selling vegetables off the back of a flat bed truck
made in China, mail order brides, girl babies
Table of contents
- Cover Page
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Acclaim for How to Write a Suicide Note
- Reflections of America Series
- Dedication
- Suicide otlines
- Contents
- Acknowledgements
- Introduction
- The Dying is Almost Over
- Scatter the Trash
- Mad at Love
- A Strong Embrace
- I Want to Live
- Notes
- About the Author
- About the Artist