Willpower

Discover It, Use It and Get What You Want

Ros Taylor

• Publisher: Capstone
• Year: 2017
• ISBN:
  9780857087218
• Edition: 1
• Topic: Développement personnel
• Subtopic: Réussite personnelle

Whip your self-control into shape

Willpower is the handbook you need for success in all areas of your life. Regardless of what you want to achieve, you need the strength to persevere, forge ahead and keep going no matter how tough it gets. If you find that you allow weakness to take control of getting what you want in life, then you need this book.

Written by an expert psychologist and executive coach, these proven techniques are the missing ingredient for your new life of success.

• Learn the skills that lead to stronger willpower
• Develop new positive habits in just three weeks
• Overcome obstacles and break through barriers
• Find the success you want, and hold on to it long-term

Researchers have found that willpower is a better predictor of life and work success than IQ. It's the skill that keeps you moving ahead, blowing past barriers and smashing through any obstacle that dares threaten your progress. It may be the most important skill you ever learn, and your most valuable tool for personal and professional success.

PART ONE
The Essence of Willpower

Abby became a volunteer at Canal College, which is part of the Scottish Waterways Trust and helps young people like Abby acquire job experience to go on to further education or employment. Canal College also helps the environment by improving British canals and the surrounding areas. I’ll let her tell you her story.

“I’d left school in my second year to be home schooled. A mixture of health problems and anxiety had led me to be unable to cope in school anymore. I still finished all my exams and stuff, completed my education, just not in school. So because of that I wasn’t socialising. I had almost three years of no socialising with people my own age. And that led to my anxiety getting worse. I never went out, never had any friends, so I became the ultimate recluse. I just could not talk to people. The only person I spoke to was my mum, that was it, I didn’t have anyone else.

Well once I’d finished with the home schooling, Canal College was suggested to me because I like nature and it was outdoors. At first I refused. I’m not doing that, no chance, no! I will admit just the thought of it gave me a few panic attacks, but I eventually I said, yeah ok, I’ll sign up for that, but I won’t get the placement. And then it turned out I did get the placement and then oh no, I don’t want to do this. I went to the interview and although I was very quiet, they were willing to give me a chance, so I took it and I went and it was terrifying.

I felt a mixture of fear and excitement. I was happy that I’d got something and I was determined to get over my anxiety. I was working through it, but I was also really nervous about how I’d cope because I hadn’t ever been in a group of people my age. So it was a huge step.

Just having to look someone in the eye was a big thing for me. I couldn’t talk to people. I remember when I first got to college. It was the first day; I just sat in the corner and didn’t talk to anyone. The only people who tried to talk to me were the mentors, the adults who are there to try and help the young people.

Some nights I just couldn’t sleep. Even though I was literally trembling, I forced myself to go, no matter how uncomfortable I felt. I never missed a day. There was one day where I was genuinely sick, but no matter how nervous I felt, I always made myself go. This was my chance, I kept telling myself.

During those first two or three weeks, people talked to me and I found that helpful because I definitely wasn’t going to talk to them. But about three weeks in, I started talking back to the people who were trying to talk to me. I really didn’t know how to interact with people, so sometimes I would sit and watch to see what they did, how people interacted with each other, to work out what was normal. Kind of looking for tips.

When I was working at Canal College, I also started attending group meetings for young people. So I ended up having two new things at the same time and I went from having nothing in my life to having no time to myself. That happened in the span of a couple of weeks. So it was a really big change and although it was really uncomfortable, I don’t know, it’s weird, I kind of got this pleasure out of it; like I don’t really like it, but I’m doing it, if that makes sense? One thing I could never ever do was talk in front of people, and now I do it in college all the time, so that’s something I never thought I’d be good at.

Before Canal College, I think I was getting to the point where I was going to give up, depression was getting hold of me and I just wasn’t coping. I really do not ever want to relive those couple of years. Don’t get me wrong, when I first started Canal College, I did have relapses of panic attacks, but I did eventually overcome them. I actually went on a skiing holiday with some of the people from my meeting group and I never would have done that before.

In three or four years I will be at university, I’m not sure which one yet. And probably at that time I’ll be living in a flat with flatmates, probably have a good few pals and hopefully have a job at the same time.

My take on willpower is an image of someone about to bungee jump and you have to be the one to step off. Not so much ignoring the fear, but acknowledging it’s there and accepting you’ve got to overcome it.”

An insightful example of willpower from Abby, who has turned her life around using incredible self-control when she could have easil...

Table of contents

• Cover
• Title page
• Copyright
• Preface
• Part One: The Essence of Willpower
• Part Two: Goals and Vision
• Part Three: New Habits for Old
• Part Four: The Willpower Mindset
• Part Five: Willpower and Work
• Final Thoughts
• Acknowledgements
• About the Author
• Eula