Exercising Influence
A Guide for Making Things Happen at Work, at Home, and in Your Community
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Exercising Influence
A Guide for Making Things Happen at Work, at Home, and in Your Community
About This Book
Change minds, guide opinions, and shape emotions with the power of effective influence
Exercising Influence is your guide to accomplishing more with less effort. Demystifying the process of influencing others, this book shows you how to develop effective influence behaviors, plan an influence approach, set goals, resolve problems, and build better relationships. Revised and expanded to provide more actionable advice across industries and sectors, this third edition has updated examples and resources and features all-new chapters on influencing through social media, influencing your team, and applying research findings of neuroscience, and behavioral economics.. You'll create work, family, and community relationships that are more mutually rewarding as you apply a practical, real-world model for developing this seldom-taught skill.
Influence is a skillset that everyone needs, yet the necessary techniques and fundamentals are rarely made explicit and shared. This book is a vital resource for anyone who wants to achieve better outcomes at work, at home, or in the world at large, helping you make important things happen and create relationships that matter.
- Develop a strategic and tactical approach to influence that gets results.
- Resolve problems and conflicts, and build more balanced relationships.
- Do more with less, increase your impact on others, and take greater charge of your life.
- Take advantage of new methodologies that build your skills as an influencer.
Influence is a timeless topic for business leaders and others in positions of power, but the world has evolved to the point where everyone needs these skills. No matter your job, role, rank, or function, if you want to get things done you need to know how to influence up, down, across, and outside the organization. With improved skills, you can steer opinions, impact decisions, and sway the undecided. If you're ready to see what you're capable of, Exercising Influence will show you how to take charge of your professional and personal life in a powerful, ethical, and productive way.
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Frequently asked questions
Part I
Exercising Influence
Chapter 1
What We've Got Here Is a Failure to Influence
Dealing with Life 101
Shallow men believe in luck.
- It's five o'clock. You've been at your desk since six this morning, and you're nowhere near ready to go home. You have a meeting with your manager tomorrow morning, and you're supposed to have a report finished. You would have, too, if the other people involved had done their parts. First, the data was late from your counterpart in the other group. The people on your team had other priorities and couldn't help you with the analysis. Then the âadminâ was too busy to help you prepare a decent-looking presentation. You might have asked your manager for an extension, but you didn't want to look unprepared, so you decided to do it all yourself. It looks like an all-nighter.
- Your teenage daughter, a bright and successful student, has announced that she will be turning down a scholarship to a prestigious university in favor of taking a year off to travel and âfind herself.â You've had several heated arguments about this. Recently, you told her that you couldn't guarantee that you would pay her college tuition when she returned. Her response was that she was perfectly capable of earning her own money and attending a less expensive school. You feel that you've painted yourself into a corner and haven't made any progress in convincing her of the importance to her future of making the right college choice. You're also concerned about her safety as a solo traveler in certain parts of the world.
- You are a senior executive charged with the responsibility for implementing the final steps in merging two companies. Executives of the other firm, who see this as an acquisition by your company rather than a merger, are dragging their feet in regard to getting their systems aligned with yours. They give you excuses that sound rational, but the net effect is to delay the implementation. You're under a lot of pressure to get this completed. The new, merged systems should have been up and running by now, and you're feeling very frustrated and angry.
- You volunteered to help plan and host the yearly fund-raiser for your child's preschool. You were reluctant to take this on for fear that you might end up, as has happened before, doing it all yourself. The first few meetings of your committee were very positive; several people volunteered to take responsibility for specific tasks. Now it's two weeks before the event and several important things haven't happened. Everyone has an excuse for not delivering on his or her commitments. You feel that the staff and board are depending on you, and you don't want to let them down. This experience has convinced you, however, that you're not cut out for community leadership. You feel burned out and disappointed.
- You've been nurturing an idea for a couple of years now. It would be an application of your current technology that you believe would have a tremendous impact on the market. It would require a moderate commitment of resources, but the payoff could be spectacular. The problem is that such a project is outside of your current area of responsibility and, in fact, might be seen as competitive with another team's current project. Your manager has already told you that you would have to have it approved and funded elsewhere. You're beginning to suspect that it's a political âhot potato.â You're still hoping that someone will recognize the potential and support it, but feel discouraged.
- You were recently offered an exciting new position with your company. It would involve spending three years abroad and would probably lead to a significant role for you in the company's future. When you told your spouse about it, you expected enthusiastic support. Instead, you received a flat and resistant response. This surprised you, as you have always agreed that whichever one of you was offered the best opportunity would have the other's support, regardless of any inconvenience and disruption that might occur.
- You lead an important project for your company. The project is not going as well as you had hoped. There's a lot of conflict, and milestones are not being achieved. You were selected for this role because of your technical skills, but you're feeling dragged down by the day-to-day hassle of dealing with people's egos and working out the turf issues that seem to get in the way of every cross-functional team you have worked with.
- You chair a standards task force for your association that could have a major impact on the conduct of your profession. Some members of the group are very resistant to the idea of mandatory compliance with the standards. You and several others believe that it's an exercise in futility to develop and present standards and then let people choose whether to adopt them or not. The differences have divided the group, which has now reached an impasse. If you can't come to an agreement, the entire exercise will be seen as a waste of time. You're concerned that you might lose the respect of your colleagues, both within the task force and outside of it, as they've been counting on you to resolve this issue.
The Value of Influence Skills
- Improved ability to manage and lead cross-functionally
- More positive and productive personal and professional relationships
- Greater ability to choose and use behaviors tactically to achieve strategic objectives
- More confidence in your ability to achieve r...
Table of contents
- Cover
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Table of Contents
- Dedication
- About This Book
- Acknowledgments
- Part I: Exercising Influence
- Part II: Planning for Influence
- Part III: Special Issues in Influence
- Afterword: The Paradox of Failure
- Appendix A: Coaching Partnerships
- Appendix B: Influence Plan
- Appendix C: Meeting Processes That Support Effective Influencing
- Appendix D: Sentence Starters
- Appendix E: Influence Scenarios
- Appendix F: Self-Assessment
- Resources
- Barnes & Conti Associates, Inc.
- Index
- End User License Agreement